Hello everyone
Age brings autonomy and freedom, says Brooke Shields, who I see as a youngster – she’s 59. At the very least, at 59, she is far from being old. But for her, I am sure that is what age means to her.
Age. What does it mean to you, the reader of this blog? Obviously, the answer to that will differ as you age. Ageing is unthinkable when you’re young because it’s so far away. Into the teens and the 20s you see someone who is 59, as Brooke Shields is, as ancient, while a person who is nearing 80 is very, very old indeed. When you are in mid-life juggling with work and children, you are might also be dealing with ageing parents. Age then is a challenge to be dealt with and organised. It is a sobering lesson to realise that all your organising skills will not put a stop to the tsunami of age that has come to your parent. You also think I will never ever be like that myself. I will be different. I will age well.
And then oh bliss, the retirement years, when you are free to develop those parts of you that lay dormant through your working life. Hey, you can travel, take up hobbies and interests, entertain friends, go visit places, and indeed take care of your health through exercise classes, walking, and ever more health-giving practices such as different diets and having a Personal Trainer. You name it, you can do it. You have autonomy. You are free.
Until, that is, you are not.
Of course, as people often say ageing is a privilege as the alternative is, and let’s say it, the alternative to ageing is death. Funny how people avoid saying that word. Passing is a favourite, which, I think, totally denies the fact of death. And of course, one wants life. But what kind of life?
Now I know some of you might be thinking, ‘this all sounds a bit gloomy Penny, ‘you’re young for your age, or you look so young or ‘you’re so young in spirit’, or worst of all, ‘you’re as young as you think you are’ etc, etc. All of which, means for heaven’s sake be more positive, Penny! Why not think of all the good things that you’ve done and are coming along. And punch, out goes my fist in your face, metaphorically speaking, of course, but I’m thinking it!
Because we do so avoid saying: I am old. This is our reality. Why can’t we say it? WHY do we not admit it. Actually I recently saw a short clip of Helen Mirren scolding an interviewer who’d said to her, but, but you’re so young, and young in spirit. No, she said, I am old. But I am full of life.
I loved that.
And I say the same. I am old and over this last year – I have aged. I am now a much older woman. But I am full of ideas and new ventures – read on.
Btw, did you know that scientists have found you don’t age slowly instead you age in two bursts at 44 and then 60. Hmm, that’s interesting because for me, my ageing ‘bursts’ happened 4 years ago when I was 74 and again, this year, at 78.
Actually, I want to say here and now, I am not depressed about this. I’m rather interested in this being ‘old’. There’s quite a lot of detective work to be done and some important things have to be sorted out. Indeed, I believe I am transitioning from that ‘jolly hockey-sticks’ retirement phase of the young-old who want to do nothing but travel and expand their interests, to an older stage. But not, I hasten to add, the final stage which I see as frail and old. Which is where the British NHS General Practitioner (GP) thinks I might be. Apparently, you tip over to ‘frailty’ as soon as you announce you are unbalanced when you walk. Which is nonsense!
Yup, I still have that feeling of being unbalanced when I go outside. It is a classic proprioception issue because as soon as I go inside somewhere – a shop or a cinema or a restaurant there are walls and other obstacles like seating, shelves, counters and a ceiling for my senses to ‘ping’ against, so I walk normally. And of course, this is where all practitioners and therapists see and assess me – and what do they see? Someone who walks pretty normally without a stick and/or an arm to hold on to. I am fine indoors. And they never see beyond that.
Outside it’s different. It’s as though a force field hits me – of nothingness. Woooa! Btw, I am never dizzy and that also flummoxes these practitioners. Instead, it’s like a plumbline down my middle that goes awry and I feel as though I am going to fall.
So, people, I am not going outside anymore unless I have an arm to hold on to – not to lean on you understand, just an arm to hold onto to get that feedback that is missing at the moment.
Which is a bastard – apols for the language but it is how I feel. I feel, what moi? Who did everything the Ageing-Well industry said was the thing to do. Moi, who did classes and exercised, kept young through multiple interests, and never got over-weight. Blooming heck!
Ok, end of small futile rant. What am I doing about this situation? Because no-one else is fixing this. I have to fix it myself.
First of all, I have begun a course of acupuncture and have great hopes for this practitioner who ‘got’ the situation and me immediately. He sees many people, he said, like me. You have no idea what a relief it is to be understood by someone who does not look at you in a puzzled or slightly quizzical, disbelieving way.
So, I am not the only one? Yup, he tells me that he and other colleagues around the UK are treating many clients who are suffering from Long Covid with a variety of symptoms including balance issues. OK try anything I think and I am. He will also treat my tendonitis in my glute which doesn’t help the walking. And btw, in the New Year, I am also thinking of having some other complimentary treatments.
Second thing is I expect to see another ophthalmology consultant soon and believe that my cataracts will be operated on in either January or February – no date is set yet. My distance sight really doesn’t help either as it’s very off now.
If my balance isn’t resolved after the cataract op and the course of acupuncture, I think I need to see a neurologist. Always at the back of my mind is the fact that my grandmother had Parkinson’s. But hey it’s all part of the detective work.
Meanwhile I still go out with friends either by getting a lift to somewhere (indoors not outdoors) or walking into Lewes with Mr F who is being a brick about it all. I also aim to get up to London in January as soon as Mr F gets over a lurgy that half the population of the UK has at the moment.
I have also done a lot of thinking about the blog. Did you notice the hints I have been dropping into my posts recently? No more hints, here is the news – Frugal Fashion Shopper has to come to an end. But I hasten to add I will keep writing, and writing a blog – see below.
It is the shopping part of the blog that simply cannot be sustained by me any longer. Shopping for clothes even charity shop/thrifted clothes is a complete no-no these days as we really must reduce our consumption – this planet cannot sustain fast fashion and should not. As I keep writing about the reduction of consuming clothes, I have to be seen to actually do this and put my money where my mouth is, so to speak. So Frugal Fashion Shopper has to stop.
It is not only I cannot justify the shopping part, it’s also the grinning at the camera and photographing outfits that sometimes suit me and sometimes don’t! I am so wanting to not be that person! This also has to stop.
Because I want to be real!
The thing is, blogging is also very time-consuming. I have 4 writing projects on the back burner one of which I’ve been trying to write for 20 years – that’s the memoir of my mother and the child I believe she had before her marriage. I have been trying to write this for years now. And never succeeded as I write all the time but mainly for the Frugal blog. Then there is the memoir of my life and times, including some funny stories about nursing in the 1960s. Nursing is so different now that it is like describing modern times to an Ancient Greek – or t’other way round, if you like.
However, I feel I cannot abandon everyone who reads the Frugal blog. I love the comments I get and feel that you who comment regularly are part of a wonderful group of women who I truly love. But I do so want to look at my writing projects and finish at least one of them by the end of 2025. I also want time to pursue my fitness and take a couple of courses.
One of the writing projects I’ve been thinking about for ages has been writing about Older Age – as in NOT about Ageing Well. Because what happens when you don’t!
And that is what my new blog is going to be broadly about.
I see the new blog as being part of my neglected writing projects. It will centre around ‘reclaiming and embracing older age’. It won’t, however, be all about age related health issues, there will be the occasional style post (rather than what I’ve bought recently) because I still love clothes, people, oh yes I do! And there will always be the trips to art galleries and exhibitions.
Basically, it will be about the life of a woman moving to maybe the last decade of her life. Look, let’s be real. I could live to 98, but on the other hand, maybe not, but 88? Yes. What are the stories we should we tell ourselves as we move into actual ageing and those last (maybe, who knows) 10 years. What is the reality around ageing: the joys and sorrows, the ups and downs, the nice things, the travel, the trips, the art, films, books, as well as oh gaaaawd, this….. fill in whatever you think is coming your way!!
Do you see what I am getting at? The Frugal blog is no longer me. Here instead is a new approach and a new blog.
Now to some logistics. I will only be posting I’m afraid once or twice a month. Or maybe more, or maybe less. We’ll see how it goes because, don’t forget, I want to finish the projects on the back-burner and have time to do other stuff.
And here’s something you can help me with. Because I will no longer be the Frugal Fashion Shopper I have to set up a completely new blog – with a different name. Oh. My. Word! The names I have written down and discarded! But I have whittled it down to 3. What do you think of them? Btw, I had wanted to be Creative Crone – but that’s already taken.
- Older, edgy and opinionated – embracing older age
- Older and not wiser – views from the other side of youth
- Looking to the future – views from the frontline of ageing
Also, as this is a new blog – I cannot transfer you to this blog. You will have to sign up for it. But at least I’ll know if you do that, you really do want to read all my witterings about life, the universe, and ageing. Oh, and I didn’t say, when I feel I want to be political, that post is not going on to My Other Blog, because you know what, older people have views, and I am not separating these views out and putting them into another blog. These views will be part of this new blog – hence that title up there that includes the word, opiniated! Yup that’s me!
The timeline is that this new blog will appear soon – but there’s some IT management to go through, especially the domain name. I will therefore continue writing the Frugal blog until the new blog is up and running. When it is and I post on it, I shall tell you on the Frugal blog and give you instructions and a link to get to the new blog. Then for some weeks every time I post on the new blog I will give you notice of it on that Frugal blog, but eventually I shall stop doing that.
It is the end of an era. But it is the time to do it. Thank you so much for reading this to the end. I have valued you and appreciated you all so much – thank you for supporting me through the years. But hey it’s a new year, and a new approach, a new venture and a new blog. I’m up for it – are you?
With love, Penny, who is no longer the Frugalfashionshopper!
P.S. Do give me some feedback about this new venture – and the title! Thanks in advance to all you lovely people
Hello Penny I have always enjoyed your posts. They have given me plenty to think about!
I completely understand your reasons and look forward to reading your thoughts again – from a different perspective!
Very Best Wishes Clare Partridge
Looking to the future
I really like the middle title, although I think of you as edgy and wise.
So just want to say So long, and thanks for all the fish.
Oh Stephanie, that’s funny and nice 🤣 thank you too!!!
Thanks Clare – it is the right time and the right thing to do this. Now everyone will know exactly why I am not writing about clothes!!! Although of course I will do a style blog every now and then.
Very best wishes to you too 😊
Thank you so much Clare – it’s great to get the feedback. Very best wishes to you too 😊
Brilliant will look forward to it. I like the first name, older and edgy!
Happy New Year to you.
It looks like it might be the first one but I shall wait and have another think before I am totally sure – then we have to look for a domain name and it might not be those exact words. And then Mr F designs it. But it will all come together and I am so encouraged by everyone’s response.
Here’s wishing you a Happy New Year to you too Caroline 😊
I will be eagerly looking out for your new blog, Penny! It sounds just what I am looking for. I tend to look for comfort and practicality in clothes these days, while I am very much tied to home with a sore hip (!) while I care for my husband with the cruel condition of Vascular Dementia, but I still have the same mind, political leanings and interests I had in more active days – would like to hear more from and about like-minded women such as you.
Count me in for the new blog!
That’s great Sue, thank you. And very best wishes to you regarding your health and the situation regarding your husband. Take care 😊
Hi…I also like the first name and applaud you for wanting to write about something real and pertinent to so many of us. While inside we may feel the same, there is no doubt that the changes age brings are present …let’s explore them and be positive about how to address and manage them! Looking forward to a new era…
Exactly so. It’s how we manage our selves through the next 10 years I find so interesting. Thanks Helen 😊
Hi ! Penny I have thoroughly enjoyed your blog over the years but nothing stays the same and we have to keep moving. Looking forward to your new blog and a new year. I like the first new name. Karin.
I began the Frugal blog 11 years ago and I agree nothing stays the same, as indeed I have changed in many ways since then, both physically and in my health and in my looks. But significantly I think I have developed my writing for the better. I also treasure the relationships that have come through blogging. That is such a positive which is why I won’t ever give it up!
Thanks Karin – it’s been great to get your (and everyone else’s) feedback 😊
Hello, Penny
Good for you! I think too many of us hang on to ‘stuff’ (of all sorts) for far too long – I know I do – and don’t/won’t cut the cord and move on.
But you are! Bravo, my friend! I remember my daughter saying to me once, “Mum, you taught me that if you can’t go round or over something then you jolly well go straight through it!”, a comment I still treasure. You are doing just that, Penny. You’ve acknowledged a life-stage you’re not entirely happy with, but instead of merely grumbling about it have identified ways of jolly well going straight through it. Respect, lady!
I doubt very few of your readers will let you travel this new road alone. I reckon we’re in it together, no question, so you won’t be alone in addressing your health issues plus forging new writing paths. If not now, when, eh?
So good luck with this great new (ad)venture, and know that you’re not alone. Having enjoyed your blog for a long time, both blogs actually, including our occasional political sparring, all terribly ladylike (!), I am already looking forward to your new blog and all its contents.
Count me in already, it’ll be a grand start to a new year!
All the very best,
Zepherine x
Hi Zepherine and thank you so much for this and your many other comments. Yup, this is a new life-stage and I both relish getting to grips with it while at the same time often think, good grief, what the …… But it is a definite stage and hey, embrace it, deal with it.
It is, btw, simply great to know we are all in the same boat – the one we will all find ourselves in. So off we all go on this new (ad)venture!
Thanks so much Zepherine 😊
Looking forward to your new blog what ever you decide to call it.
The second title would be my preference closely followed by the third. Don’t like the first.
As a mere baby of 69 it is very helpful to know the problems/dilemmas the future holds. Forewarned is forearmed has long been my motto.
I enjoy reading about your visits to exhibitions and recommendations for TV and books.
Fashion is still an interest even if I no longer need/want to be fashionable. Looking good for my age is what I am aiming for.
Balance – cataracts might be the cause. Late mother in law had falls we later realised were caused by poor vision due to cataracts not being removed when advised by her optician.
Wishing you the best for the future.
Thank you Sue and yes I’ll definitely continue the posts on exhibitions, TV, films, books – these are so important to me. As is of course, fashion and style. I still love clothes and want to look good (for my age 😁) But I don’t want to feel as though it’s all about buying stuff – because even though it was mostly from charity shops I was very guilty of that.
And absolutely re: cataracts – my vision is very off now and fuzzy in the distance. That can’t help one bit.
Thanks again Sue – the feedback is so helpful 😊
Hello Penny! First congratulations on keeping the Frugal Fashion blog going for so long! You’ve entertained and educated us all ! Having just had my 70 th birthday I, like you, have been reassessing things. Change is good and creativity should never be a chore. So a new writing project is always going to be a positive thing for you. I like the second suggestion for a blog name by the way. But whatever you choose I hope the activity brings you joy. Happy New Year !
Thank you so much Melanie – the feedback has been incredibly uplifting to read and very helpful too. Change is good!
Thanks again and here’s wishing you a Happy New Year too 😊
Penny you always write a lovely blog and I enjoy it all the more when you steer away from fashion.
My vote goes to the first option
That is so interesting Janet as I always felt I ought to be writing about clothes and yet there was so much other stuff I wanted to write about. I think the new direction and new name is so right at this point in my life.
Your feedback has been so helpful – thank you 😊
Hi Penny
I have enjoyed the frugal fashion blog and look forward to your new one. I prefer older, edgy and opinionated. I recently had a cold and was left with viral labyrinthitis – complete loss of balance. It was scary. My balance was never great despite going to Pilates and yoga most of my life. It also has been worse since having Covid. So I completely understand your concerns.
Best wishes for 2025.
Labyrinthitis is ghastly, Bill gets it from time to time – so sorry to hear about your bout. And that’s so interesting Jan as I too have never had good balance despite doing yoga for many years – and now Pilates. And then, since 2023, my balance has been affected big time and always after a virus. I’ll see what the acupuncture does and if it helps.
Very best wishes for 2025 to you too 😊
Hi Penny,
I look forward to and enjoy reading each one of your blog posts and I’m sure your future blog will be as interesting and informative, if not more so! Apologies for being poor at commenting, but I always read to the end:)
My vote goes to the second of the three options.
Happy New Year when it comes.
No worries Elsie as it is just as important to actually read the blog – I am so glad you do!
Thank you so much 😊
Well, I have enjoyed your writing for years and although I started for the frugal fashion, I really like the addition of real life. The travel, books, health issues, movies, even political views, and tales from your life and family, with hair and skin care etc thrown in the mix keeps me eager for the next installment. I will be eagerly awaiting your next chapter whatever the name, but do like a combination of 1 and 2, older, edgy and opinionated, views from the other side of youth. Good luck with all of your other projects, I do love your writing. Also, best with the health issues, it is such a struggle to find someone to listen. Hugs to you.
Actually I agree about the combination of 1 &2 and think I might go for that. So glad you’ve liked the mix of the posts and now I really know that everyone wants it that way – I shall continue that way!
Btw, the acupuncturist is a great listener and seems to get ‘it’ immediately – quite a relief as so many have been either puzzled or it is all about thinking positively that will get me walking without unsteadiness. But actually I need some help with it. I feel now as though I am actually getting some help.
Thanks so much Diane – hugs to you too 😊
I like the second one for your new blog name and I’ll definitely sign up to it. I’ve enjoyed all your blogs since I first “found” you.
Thanks so very much Jacqui 😊
Hi Penny, I like no. 3 but whatever you chose is fine. Have loved all your frugal blogs and look forward to the new you 😊. I am 77 years old and am good health wise and find it encouraging to have a blog for us ‘oldies’ which covers all the things you are going to include. I’m really looking forward to reading it
Yes the new blog will be mix of subjects and items but always focused on ageing, I hesitate to say ageing well though!!! Because the blog will look at how we adapt through these years, by looking at both what helps us through adversity as well as what makes us happy – books, films, tv, family, children, friends, visits here and there, outings & holidays.
Now I know this is what people want it is quite a relief to turn away from constantly ‘shopping’!!!
Thanks Gill 😊
Your blog has always been about so much more than fashion Penny. I know that whatever you write I shall look forward to reading it. I kind of like the second title. I may be old but I certainly don’t feel all that wise, this old stuff is a new territory for me as well. And here across the pond I think 2025 will have its own particular challenges with the coming of Trump and his minions. Scary stuff. at least for me. I eagerly await your new postings. Happy New Year, love, Darby
Yes, it is a new year, a new (ad)venture, and a new stage in my life – and in many others too. It is good to know were are all in it together.
Wishing you a Happy New Year and hopefully it will be a year that is not as bad as we think it might be. I shall try to be optimistic plus I shall bury myself in cultural activities, friends and visits to art galleries amongst other lovely things that are available, as I know you do.
As ever thanks so much, Darby 😊
Hi Penny
Your reasons definitely make sense and I love “ Older, edgy and opinionated – embracing older age”
Very interesting to read the link between Covid and balance problems, will also be interested to hear if your cataract removal improves your balance.
Hi Penny. I may not comment, but I have followed your posts for years.
Good luck with the new venture, and at 77, I can relate and will be interested in all you have to say!
Thank you Julie – it’s great to know you read the blog – that is absolutely all that’s necessary. Many thanks again 😊
Thanks Holly, and yes the balance issue began in the Spring of 2023 after having ‘flu’ then Covid, but I got over it. Then it happened again after the 2024 winter cough, but I got over it. Finally I became really unbalanced after Covid in July of 2024. So it always happens after a virus and/or Covid.
I am pleased to have found (through a friend) an acupuncturist who is interested in Covid related issues. Think it will really help. But getting the cataracts done will also help for sure.
Thanks also for the feedback on the new name 😊
Well Penny, whatever you call the new blog, you are real and authentic and that is what I love about your posts. I’m a few years behind you but I get the truth of what you are saying and admire you for being honest about the struggles and the reality of life. Good luck with the next stage. I’ll be signing up to follow how it goes. Very best wishes and thanks for the story so far.
Hi Pamela, it’s been so interesting and quite uplifting to read everyone’s thoughts. It seems people do want to hear about the reality of ageing.
I aim to have a good mix of cultural activities, even an occasional style post alongside health related posts. Of course I will also have to remind people I shall be blogging fewer times than before but the new blog is one of the 4 projects I had on the back burner – I am very interested in these latter years. Onwards and upwards!!
Thanks again Pamela 😊
I look forward to your blog. Love your trips, museum visits.
Please continue to tell us the movies, TV programs you watch
And books you’ve read.
I absolutely will, Gail and when I do I will feel that it will be right thing for the blog, rather than thinking, oh should I be writing about clothes!
Thanks Gail 😊
Thanks for sharing so honestly Penny. I think we have to move on and adjust right through life and if we don’t then it can problematic. I will follow you and do stay opinionated. Thank you for what you have given to me and others. Ann
I will stay opinionated and absolutely this is a time of adjustment – which all have to do, eventually. Onwards and upwards though – thanks Ann 😊
Well done Penny – you’re looking life right in the face again. Would FFS AGEING! be too strong as a title? Ffs referring back to your previous title of course….
I wish you all the best Penny, whatever title you choose. It’s good to know you’re on the journey with us.
Kathy x
Ha ha 🤣 that’s EXACTLY how I feel Kathy!!! Thanks so much, and indeed we are all in this together 😊
Penny, whatever you write about I will follow because I value your analysis, your honesty, your values…
Getting old is a bitch. I have NOT turned into a dear little old lady. I remain opinionated, informed, arrogant and unafraid.
I am with you all the way.
Oh my word, yes, ageing is a bitch!!! Thanks so much – it’s been so good to hear your views and everyone else’s 😊
Dear Penny, I have enjoyed reading both of your Blogs for a few years now but will look forward to your new one when it arrives. I love your writing style but agree with some of the replies that the clothes bit was not so interesting to me as your other observations on life. Including thoughts about politics, the state of the world and ‘life’ into one Blog sounds like a good plan but please continue to include stuff about exhibitions, art, films, books, etc.
I like all three suggestions for the new name for your Blog but my preference is for the first title.
I hope 2025 is a happy and healthy one for you and your family.
Hi Tina and definite the new blog won’t be just about ageing issues and I will continue to write about films, books, and especially exhibitions. Hoping to get up to London fairly soon.
Wishing you a happy and healthy New Year too 😊
My vote goes to the first option – older people are not accepted as being opinionated and they damn well should be.
So many congratulations on moving ahead – I shall definitely y sign up to the new blog when it’s available.
Walking! Yes! Especially up and down stairs and especially those stairs that don’t have anything to hold on to. E.g. at the rugby match, when surrounded by people rushing and standing right in front of me so I can’t see the steps.
General walking is fine, as you say. Long Covid? Could be?
But anyway, lots of luck😊
This might be the very first time I have commented – I think your first portion is best – but I have always thought of you as “B-older, Edgy & Opinionated” – I have much enjoyed reading all you have had to say on both your blogs – so am definitely still along for the ride.
Thanks so much Jennie for that feedback – you are all so very much appreciated 😊
Well done and well said, Penny!
The time is right – and change can be good. So kbo – and we shall all follow you! Definitely like the first title…..always value your opinion, and let’s be edgy with it….why not? If not now – when?
Loved all your frugal blogs – the clothes have been wonderful – the charity shops in Lewes are bountiful. Happy New Year….and good luck with all the health issues being resolved in 2025.
Look forward to the new blog – as and when. x
Thank you Jessica for reading the blog and those kind words. Happy New Year to you too 😊
Thank you for all the wonderful blogs Penny. Yes, I like the first title older, edgy and opinionated best but whatever you choose I will most definitely follow.
Wishing you and the other frugal fashion followers a very Happy New Year xx
I think it is going to be # 1. Wishing you a Happy New Year too 😊
Definitely Older, Edgy & Opinionated!
Yay – thanks Royleen 😊
Hi Penny, such a great idea to make changes when necessary!
I’ve been following you for years because your blog is always so interesting to read. My choice for the new blog is No.1.
Btw I had an aging burst this year when I turned 80. Last year I had my cataracts removed, and this year I bought hearing aids (not free here in Spain), and they have been life changing. I also began taking more supplements and now I feel ready for whatever 2025 has in store!
Take good care Penny, and Happy New Year!
Great to hear you are ready for 2025 – I think I am too! I am especially looking forward to getting the cataracts sorted. And thank you, I think it is combination of title 1 and 2.
Thanks Pauline and you take good care too 😊
Hi Penny,
I applaud your courage to change-up your perspective. I like the first entry for a title and subject recognition! I have followed your blog for quite a while and enjoyed all the topics you have explored. It sure made me think! I appreciate your initiative to explore your current life stage and how it relates others and the world. Bravo and am so looking forward to it. Thanks for your dedication!
Thanks so much of your kind words and feedback – you are all so much appreciated 😊
I very much look forward to your new blog Penny. It sounds brilliant. To be honest, I have most enjoyed the other bits of your blog, including the ‘other’ one, rather than the charity shop shopping. Name wise, I’m sure it’ll be great whichever you choose but I’m less keen on the first one, than the others.
I don’t think you are being negative about your current challenges, just realistic. Unfortunately, life throws stuff at us that we don’t always want to deal with and that does include ageing, although individual experience varies massively. As you’re finding, sometimes clinicians are very set in their ways of thinking and you sometimes have to go your own way to find what works for you. Alternative therapies can help, though they’re not for everyone. I’ve been caring for my daughter for nearly 18 years now – she has severe ME and some of the attitudes from the medical profession you come across are mind blowing. Alternative therapists know how to listen and can help. There is a close link with ME and long Covid and both are misunderstood. I wonder if you’re thinking that Covid could be a contributory factor to your balance problems.
Anyway, I would like to wish you and Mr F a very happy new year. I look forward to reading more from you in 2025. Definitely make a start on writing about your Mum and also your own earlier experiences. They sound as if they will both be fascinating projects and you’ll be so pleased you’ve done them.
Hi Sylvia and what a dedicated parent you are – so very, very sorry about your daughter’s situation. And yes, indeed, I have found the GP has very fixed and I think out-dated ideas about what might be causing this unsteadiness. I get sent straight off to inappropriate services that deal with older people instead of some thought going into why I get these episodes after a virus including Covid. Yes, I do think there is a contributory factor from Covid, although there are other factors include the cataracts, plus the tendonitis which doesn’t help at all. But the acupuncturist is far more gung-ho and I am sticking with this for a few sessions to see where this takes me. He definitely listens.
Thank you so much for your thoughts and here’s wishing you all the best for 2025 😊
How exciting,I look forward to reading your new blog. I like names 1 and 3.
By coincidence I have decided not to buy any new clothes in 2025(even though most of my stuff comes from charity shops)
Wishing you a healthy and happy new year .
Oh wow, I really want to cut back on buying stuff including clothes but could I not buy anything? Not sure and tbh probably not. But I do want to be a very much more careful consumer. Well done you though!
Thank you Hilary and here’s wishing you a very healthy and happy new year 😊
Love your new blog idea, Penny and look forward to reading your posts. Take care of yourself and hope your health issues improve. xx
My vote goes to the first option – older people are not accepted as being opinionated and they damn well should be.
So many congratulations on moving ahead – I shall definitely y sign up to the new blog when it’s available.
Walking! Yes! Especially up and down stairs and especially those stairs that don’t have anything to hold on to. E.g. at the rugby match, when surrounded by people rushing and standing right in front of me so I can’t see the steps.
General walking is fine, as you say. Long Covid? Could be?
But anyway, lots of luck😊y
Love your attitude about older people being opinionated. And oh my word, stairs without a handrail, no, no, no!!
Thanks Lin 😊
Thank you so much Sue 🙂
Penny, I have read your blog for a long time but never commented. The fashion aspect of it was of slightly less interest to me than your general take on life which I admire, although I do love your style as well. I’m about to turn 66 and this past year due to the loss of my father, ageing has been much on my mind. But like you I’m young at heart and full of ideas for the years ahead. My two sons both got married this year so it definitely is the end of an era in some ways, but also an opportunity to work out who I am now! I’ll very much look forward to your new venture and I wish you success, happiness and good health in 2025. Warmest wishes, Karen
Ah yes, the death of a parent is always a significant event – my sympathies. Good luck with your new era!
Thanks Karen for reading the blogs and for your comment 🙂
PS I prefer option 3 as a blog title – positive and forward looking!
I’m not a poster (although I did post once here some years ago about black trousers, of all things). But I have read all your blogs, your frugal fashion one & your other one & they’re all so entertaining, informative & thought provoking.
I just wanted to come out of the shadows & say how much I’ve enjoyed them & how much I agree with your political views.
Looking forward to the next chapter.
And my vote for your title is the second one.
Best wishes for 2025.
Thank you so much for reading both blogs – and your second comment after the black trousers one!
It’s been so helpful and uplifting to read everyone’s comments – thanks again JC I do appreciate you all so much 🙂
Oh, my, look how many folks have written to send you best wishes, prayers, love and to encourage you in this new endeavor. You are a treasure. I am delighted to learn that you will be shifting the theme of your writing/blogging from fashion-focused to YOU-centered, the whole of you and not just what you are wearing as I have most enjoyed your recent posts about YOU.
As far as a name or title for your new blog, I prefer the first option. Older, edgy and opinionated – embracing older age. Love the EDGY bit. And as we age, we become more confident, I think, in sharing our opinions.
Don’t care for this one as you most certainly are WISE!!! Older and not wiser – views from the other side of youth
I do like this one but I think the first one is catchier. Looking to the future – views from the frontline of ageing
Anyway, as I understand this post, you will be sharing the URL for your new ‘home’ shortly on this blog. So we should watch this space?? I want to add it to my Feedly feed for the blogs I follow so will be anxiously checking back for that address.
In the meantime, do take care and allow yourself some grace. Hope you will use some of this ‘down’ time to get started on the writing projects you have been eager to begin. Have you ever checked out Substack? I am starting to write there as is Sue and Denyse and Min and Debbie, some of the other gals I follow. You might use that platform for your writing projects.
Enough of my babbling. Sending you a big, warm HUG. Anxious to join you for this new adventure.
Hi Leslie. I am just so amazed and very humbled by the number of responses and all the kind words – it’s really been very uplifting. I definitely do not want to lose contact with you but it is right to let people know I have to take some time out.
Substack – I have just joined so I will try and find you and follow you on that platform. And yes, when the blog is up and running I will let everyone know.
Sending you a big hug too Leslie and thank you for your lovely comment 😊
Just had to stop back by. I included you in an email I sent today to the Tell Us About gang. Hoping maybe you will come back to us asap. Want to keep you abreast of the topics we are going to toss around and maybe, if one tickles your fancy, you will join us sooner rather than later. If you would prefer we remove you from emails, I understand and will do so. But not willingly!! XO
Absolutely do continue to send me those emails. I want to stay in touch with you all. And especially you Leslie as I think we differ in some ways and other not, but it doesn’t matter – we are friends 😀
Hey friend, just wanted to touch base with you. Wondering how the first weeks of 2025 have treated you. Sending big love across the ocean.
Awww – how lovely of you to ask. I’m OK, well, you know, OKish, as in, I am fine. I do my Pilates, I do weights, I run around doing household chores. I feel totally normal. And then I go outside and it’s like a force field hits me and, unless I am holding on to an arm, (which I am not leaning on btw) I feel as though I am about to fall over. It’s definitely a perception issue (it’s classic proprioception) and it’s all happening in the neurones and innards of my brain. Definitely. So tomorrow I am back to see my GP (general practitioner) to demand that I see a neurologist. Like your foot it’s soooo frustrating.
Btw, the new blog is coming along nicely – it’s been quite a tricky thing to set up. But I’m hoping to post my first blog early next week. I really missed the writing and I realise it gives me structure and purpose to my week so I shall be blogging as per usual very soon.
You take care (of that foot) and PC and the kitties and your little ones and thank you so much for asking – loads of love to you too 😊
Hi Penny, I am a longtime reader, but this is my first comment. I love reading your blog, everything you write about, health, aging, politics, books, tv, museums, thrift shopping(charity shopping).I look forward to reading everything you write, and I like the first title choice, including “opinionated”.
I am 74, and had my cataracts done last summer.
I hope you are able to get answers and relief from your balance issues, and that the cataract surgeries help too.
Thanks Kathy – it does look as though title 1 with the tagline of title 2 is the one I will choose 😊
And yes, I will be so glad when I have had the cataract surgery – hopefully it will be soon
How about Older and Edgy – Views from the Other Side of Youth? I like the first part of the one and the second part of the other. I think they sum up what you want to talk about as well as who you are. The thing is you definitely are wiser, Penny. You have this problem, and you’re educating yourself on it. I do wonder if it’s long covid…my husband sometimes wonders if all his problems don’t stem from that. But, as far as I know, he’s never had covid. We locked down tight from the get go.
I admire your tenacity and your will to accomplish all these writing assignments you’ve undertaken. I truly think you’ve got to write them because a) you’re a wonderful writer, b) you’ve got important things to say, and c) I want to read it!
I will gladly sign up for the new blog(s). I will miss this blog, but as long as I can read your posts somewhere, I’m happy!
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I definitely like the combination of titles 1&2 and that’s what most people are saying they like too. I have such sympathies for Nigel and do wish him well. It is such a bore this balance issue, but the acupuncturist is interesting. I shall go through with several sessions with this therapist as I think he has a lot of valid insight into my situation. It’s getting people to understand is the thing – it’s quite tricky.
I shall continue to write a blog just not so often and more focused on exactly the situation and/or outings I am doing rather than clothes. Thank you so much for those kind words Marsha. Blogging is such a positive thing to do and I just love the connections that have been made including getting to know you 😊
Edgy and Aging
Thank you Mary 😊
Congratulations on your decision! I guess it’s not a easy one as we all love our blogs don’t we? But I applaud you for choosing to do what feels best for you. For now I wish to and Mr. F a fabulous New Year’s Eve!
It was time to move on from all the shopping! Thank you so much Nancy 🙂
Thank you Penny for all your musings, I have thoroughly enjoyed them all.and I am relieved that you will continue writing , you certainly get the brain cells working!
Stepping into my older age I am aware how my attitudes are changing. I am more cautious thinking that a fall may not be just a sore knee that a plaster will sort but perhaps a whole life change where I’m not mobile. Is that catastrophising!
Anyway I look forward to reading your future Blog and thank you for the pleasure you’ve given over the years.
Oh I too catastrophise although one could consider those thoughts as actually being rational and sensible – I think as long as you keep it in check, it’s OK.
And thank you so much for reading both blogs! 😊
Hello Penny.
I read your blogs (both Frugal Fashion and t’Other One) but hardly ever comment.
I intend to visit the new one regularly too.
Keep up the good work!
Lizzie-Anne (aged 77)
Thank so much, Lizzie-Ann for reading both blogs – yay!
Up for it? Oh yes, defo choice #1 for me. There’s only a few months between us age-wise and I can confirm very similar ‘age’ bursts. Sadly – I’m still working virtually full time, a necessity not lack of imagination for use of my time believe me, so I may have missed out on most of the energetic retirement malarky although a trip to New York with my daughter last October was AMAZING.
I’m looking forward to the new blog, although I suspect our politics may differ it’s always good news for the little grey cells to have healthy thoughtful debate. As to the pot pourri of the rest of the content? Bring it on, and more power to your elbow lady for many years to come!
Hi Paulette and kudos to you for still being a working woman. New York – oh wow, I want to go to MOMA for starters.
I am going for a combination of titles #1 and #2. Thanks Paulette for this kind words 😊
Hi Penny I have been a bit late to the party but I have so enjoyed reading your blog and, more importantly, been impressed (and hopefully inspired) by your fashion sense.
I think the title of your new blog should be – Older but not wiser xx
Thank you so much Catherine 😊
Hello Penny,
I so enjoyed reading your blog. I like the way you are you. Lots of blogs now seem to be about trying not to age, not to have an opinion, conforming to what society thinks us older ladies should be doing and sometimes that’s becoming invisible. Thank you for not being that. I like your attitude to aging and being old. We should discuss it – as you say when you’re younger you think you will never age or be that person.
I wish you all the best with your new blog and I’ll look forward to reading it.
By the way I like the first title.
Oh yes, I’m with you there, it is so important that we not only think about ageing but we discuss it too. We’re all in it together, Linda – thanks 🙂
Hello Penny – I have always enjoyed your blogs, less about the fashion side rather the openess to the idea of aging and what it brings and ways to embrace it. I had thought of starting a blog called “Permission to be 70” (and NOT the new40!).
Look forward to your new blog. Happy and healthy 2025. Alison
PS Like No3 title
Oh yes, do start that blog as I totally get that title!
Thank you so much, Alison, for those kind words about the blog 😊
Happy new year Penny. Good news that you will continue writing. I have stopped reading several blogs over the last year as I have lost some interest in them, but yours is always a must read. I’m delighted that you will continue your political thoughts – they resonate so much with mine – and I know I will find your thoughts on ageing interesting and important. I am a couple of years younger than you, but due to difficult circumstances this past 18 months I am very aware that I have aged a lot over that period. It’s been frustrating but inexorable so I am hoping that things will be more settled in 2025 and perhaps I can age a bit more slowly!
I like both titles 1 and 2, or a combination. Whatever you end up calling it, I will be reading. All the best for 2025. Kathy.
Sorry to hear about your ageing burst – and indeed may we both age a little slower this coming year! I too like the combination of 1&2 so I think that’s the way it’s going to be.
All the very best for 2025 to you too Kathy 😊
Thankyou SO much Penny for all your thoughts and experiences over the years.
I always look forward to your interesting blog. You are perfectly in tune with my thinking and viewpoints. Perhaps as we are a similar age! Your confidence and enthusiasm with different styles and colour gives me confidence to be more adventurous 🤩 The arts and fashion have always grabbed my attention whatever avenue I have meandered down. There is always something new out there to grab our attention and inspire us on to greater, perhaps more beautiful things to enrich our life. My life would certainly be more dull if your regular blog didn’t appear in my inbox!! I agree with Kathy (above) whatever title you choose to use, please add me to your list of avid readers, Jan in Plymouth. And may I wish yourself and all your lady readers a great new year. May we all overcome whatever adversity may face us in 2025 with a smile on our faces and colourful attire!! 🌈💐
Thank you so much for reading my blog and for those kind words – it is great to get feedback like this! The title will probably be a combination of the first two options. I shall issue my instructions to Mr F (who can’t be called that for much longer!) and the new blog will appear before too long.
Thanks again Jan 😊
Hello Penny , well done on making the decision to take your blog in a direction that now reflects you at this stage of life . You are a talented writer and I do hope you complete those projects on the back burner. I quite like the combination of the first two for a blog title . Pity Creative Crone is taken as that is perfect . I must admit I am rather envious that you have your own technical expert in house . (that is what is stopping me from updating my blog , my complete lack of tech skills ).
I have no doubt both your blog and your writing projects will be successful .
I also hope the cataract operation goes smoothly and in time you have answers on your balance problems. Please continue to inspire with your edgy style . All my best wishes, Jill.
Hi Jill, after 11 years it was time to change. And indeed I know I’m very lucky to have Bill by my side (literally, these days) doing the IT stuff – without him things would be very different. I’ll always write a blog, and always do the occasional style post, but do fewer so I have time for other things and other writing. I still love my clothes though!
And yup Creative Crone would have been a magnificent title but I now think a combination of the first two is the way to go.
Re: the cataracts – waiting to see another consultant. Hopefully I’ll be all done by early Spring.
Thanks Jill 😊
Happy New Year Penny, I have enjoyed your blog over the years,to read about like minded people, I am 71 and also live in Sussex, so enjoyable to read what you get up to in our very crowded county(developers scrounge of this county ) that’s another story! I like the first option for your new blog. I too have balance problems so I will be interested to read how you get on, take care Penny and look forward to reading your new blog,kind regards Margaret
Hi Margaret and thank you so much for commenting – and reading the blog! Interesting that you too have balance issues – take care and I will tell you how things go with me.
Thanks again 😊
Ohh Penny. What a lovely bunch of subscribers you have. We all love your blogs and whatever you call it we will follow you. I’m not going to repeat what everyone has said. Would just like to wish you a very happy 2025 and best of luck for your cataract surgery: I’m sure it’ll make a massive difference to the quality of life, which I feel is one of the most important things at this stage of our adventure. All the best xx
Hi Christine and I have been totally amazed and humbled by the sheer number of responses – and also the fact that we are all in this together.
Thanks for the good wishes – Ive actually got an NHS appointment in early Feb – wow! So will delay the private pathway and go to that just to see how long I’d have to wait for the actual op.
Onwards and upwards and thanks for coming with me on this adventure 😊
I’m all in favour of the new blog Penny. Not sure about the names though. I’m sure you’ll come up with a catchy title. I loved your frugal fashions blog and I hope you will occasionally update us with a terrific buy, or a particularly good London outfit, but I’m happy to discuss the weird curves that life starts to throw at us more and a more as we get older. I’m 70 going on 71 now and aware that the retirement years aren’t such a doddle any more. Your blog seems to have developed more along these lines now anyway and as a sort of discussion too, which is always interesting to read. I’m not surprised you can’t manage as many editions of the blog as you did and wish you the best of luck with your writing endeavours ( hope we hear something of them too). Happy 2025 and much better health. Trish S
I will definitely update you with my buys and any visits I make to London and elsewhere for exhibitions. Plus some discussion with all of you about how we make the best of the next 10 years! This new blog is part of the writing projects I have so it’s all positive – watch this space. And thank you Trish for reading me over the years 😊
Well, here I am Penny .. late to the call again! Your new direction makes sense – for the reasons you say and as the saying goes, “A change is as good as …etc. etc..”
It’s great to see such a fulsome response from your readers and I like the sound of your new blog, so I hope I can get on the mailing list this time.
At this time in our lives – as you know, we’re the same age – it is important, nah, essential that we use this time wisely – i.e. doing what we find enjoyable and rewarding/fulfilling
A word of defence for Brook Sheilds et al .. she/we (any of us) can only speak from what we know. I was commissioned to write a book on ageing when I was coming up to 50… I eventually wrote one in my early 70s: Ageing with Attitude. It was not the book I had in mind before and would not be the book I’d write today. We can only write where we are/what we know now. And, as you allude to, that can change more or less on the flip of a coin or overnight. For me, falling over in the street early last year, cracking my cheekbone, set me back hugely: it hurt – obvs!! 😉 But it aged me overnight. Instead of striding out, I walk carefully, constantly looking down, and at night, I always hold on to Derek or my companion. Talking of which… going out at night … I do it less and less. And I blush to remember I was puzzled that older people didn’t go out at night – even in ‘safe’ areas. We get to a stage when ‘safe areas’ have to be re-evaluated. This is no bad thing in itself – as, if done well, it will be inclusive, which, in turn, will help everyone. So, in conclusion, all the very best with your new adventure. Love, Mary
Hi Mary and lovely to hear from you. I was always a bit perplexed as to why you were not able to get on to the mailing list as the’ sign-up’ was working for many others joining it. There will be instructions to get on to the new blog both on the FFS blog and the new one – which is still in its embryo stage. I’m still thinking about the title!
Absolutely we all speak from our own particular perspective. I also feel for you in your recovery from falling (not ‘a fall’ – that phrase is so interesting) because it has been a bit of side swipe to suddenly age as I have done this year – I feel, ‘what, moi’????? But I’m using the outraged feeling I have in, I hope, a positive way to be both thoughtful and curious about it all.
Thank you so much for reading me Mary and wishing you and Derek all the very best 😊
Happy New Year to you Penny, in whatever form it takes for you. You have succinctly summed up your reasons for finishing up your frugal fashion blog and your new direction. It all sounds exciting and very you! It’s been great getting to know you via our various blogging challenges and I wish you all the best for however the new blog unfolds. I can see your points of views very clearly and from what you say it is a matter of finding an answer to your issues which is the most important for you at the moment. Take care and I look forward to seeing what you come up in regards to a blog name and direction.
Thank you so much Debbie – I am still thinking about the title and might just about be ready to choose! Wishing you a Happy New Year too 🙂
Well done Penny with this blog – it has been a great success. No problem moving on – only you really know what is right. And yes I would like to join the new blog: I presume you will email a new link/joining instructions?
Title – I liked Creative Crone, shame it has gone. I think something like that, two words. Do you want to focus on the age or the opinions? How about Opiniated Olden?
However, am sure whatever you chose will be worth reading.
As someone just turned 69 this is very relevant. I do agree we don’t talk about death enough – it is part of life. I have been very aware of my own mortality since my parents died young-ish. I think there is a lot of fear and so we bury our heads. Friends get surprised and nervy when I talk about booking my burial plot! For me it will be the manner of my exit that I have some anxiety over: cancer, heart, dementia? So have been trying hard to embrace this phase of my life and keep active and healthy, but that will only last so long. And who knows what is round the corner….
So do please keep raising the issues you discuss and all power to your elbow
xxx
Yes, the new blog is still in a very embryonic stage and I am still thinking about the title. Actually both your comment and the last one below have really helped as I agree it should be an alliterative two word title with a following statement to explain a bit more about where I am coming from. When it’s ready instructions to get to the blog will go on to FFS for several weeks and on the new blog there will be the usual sign-up/subscription area.
There are very many vitally important issues around ageing that are never discussed including how we leave and exit this life. It is not depressing to talk about this – because i) it’s the reality and ii) it’s interesting. The new name is going to reflect that.
I appreciate everyone’s contribution to this new venture so much – thanks so much Alison for yours 🙂
I’m very late but I want to commend you on your curiosity . Some people are never curious, some are curious to the end . At our age we curious ones are fortunate to have the internet available . So much information. Like you I am curious about the next stage of our lives , I’m just a year younger than you & feel we can learn from each other how best to proceed . There has to be balance . We must take care of ourselves , acknowledge our age & our physical limitations but that doesn’t mean giving up on life & never taking any risks . I don’t see you doing that . I still love putting an outfit together & occasionally bloggers will give me ideas but other things are more interesting now & I look forward to your future posts . How about ‘ The Curious Crone ‘ or ‘ Not Quite Decrepit ?’ 😁 Good Luck .
Wendy I think you are brilliant because as I read your comment I went – oh wow, yay, that is it. So I actually thinking I will take up one of your suggestions – you have been so helpful. Thank you soooo much 🙂
And yes definitely I will include some style posts but it is a positive step to move from ‘shopping’ to a more appropriate stance of hey, how do we negotiate this later stage of our lives.
Thanks again Wendy 😊
Hi again Wendy – sigh – The Curious Crone is taken 🙄 But I’m thinking through and looking at similar words.
Oh dear , there must be a lot of old crones around 😁I’m sure something will pop into your mind soon .
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I look forward to your new blog Penny. . Keep well x
Thank you Angela – I have really appreciate everyone’s views and feedback x
I will definitely sign up for, and look forward to the new blog! Yes, maybe some sort of combination of suggestions one and two. Rather like the second with a question mark – Older and not Wiser? (or even Older and Any Wiser?) Views from the Other Side of Youth.
Not sure I like the word ‘opinionated’ because actually you aren’t! You have strong views on many subjects, much appreciated by your many, many followers, but you are always open to other views and like to look at all sides of an issue. Do hope the acupuncture helps your lack of balance when outside.
Love, Penny H
Thank you so much Penny for the suggestions. I have been dithering around several!
I’ve just had the 3rd acupuncture session. Acupuncture is so interesting, as is the practitioner who gets the ‘Long Covid’ situation immediately. So instead of a getting a long lecture from my GP about being older I come away so much more confident. In fact afterwards I was walking around Lewes without holding on to Bill’s arm – yay! Onwards and upwards 😊
Hi Penny,
Yes, I completely get the need to consume less; even if from charity shops or secondhand and understand completely about the blogging. I’ve always enjoyed your posts so will continue to follow and read. I’m so sorry to hear about your balance issues; it sounds quite terrifying.
I have begun to suffer from constant vertigo. I’ve had vertigo for about 10 years now but it only used to last for a day or two; I’ve had it for about the past two months and although it’s improved it’s always there. I have done the exercises and even tried medication but still it stays…damn and blast it!
I look forward to reading your new blog.
xxxx
Oh my goodness Veronica, vertigo, how horrible. I read somewhere recently that Bob Dylan also has constant vertigo, no consolation though. And here’s just a thought, which of course pleases ignore, but have you tried acupuncture? I was recommended an acupuncturist who has specialised in Long Covid and after 3 sessions I am improving. His approach is by far the more appropriate for me than the GP who said, well as you age…..!
The new blog is still very much work in progress – but it is happening. A new year and a new adventure is how I see it and thank you so much for those kind words 😊
Great post Penny, thought provoking and inspirational, as always.
I love your honesty around ageing. There seems to be this perpetual narrative that if you keep exercising and eating well, your body won’t fail you.
I also hate the word “passing” and always say died! Because that’s what happened.
Looking forward to your new blog. I’ve been going through the same thought process and have decided I’ll do occasional posts about style, mostly using what I’ve already got.
Thank you Gail, yup a bit of honesty and reality is what is needed around the Ageing Well industry. Of course we do need to exercise and continue to exercise and do classes etc along with eating well and taking the right vitamins, but age and an ageing body comes to us all – what then? That’s the key question. Quite excited to be thinking about that rather than the next photo of an outfit.
I am so very glad you are continuing your blog. Yay! Looking forward to reading it. Thanks again 🙂