Hello everyone

Did you know that last Saturday 10th October was World Mental Health day? Mind, the UK mental health charity, reminds us that mental health problems stretches further than the anxiety and angst a lot of us are feeling at the moment, indeed mental health problems are serious and include schizophrenia, bipolar disorder and chronic depression. Ah yes, chronic depression, I know about that, my mother suffered from the latter, in the days when there was little on offer. I found out much later that the treatment of her depression was just antediluvian including tranquillisers (nooo!!) which made her more and more depressed, an offer to go into the nearby ‘mental’ hospital (known as the ‘bin’, which she refused) and copious amounts of ECT (which she accepted and left her walking around like a zombie). And all of this going on as me and my sister were growing up. It was only years later when at the time I was working at a national project and looking into support for ‘young carers’ that I thought, hang on, that description….. that was me!

But hey, things weren’t all bad during our childhood, and furthermore the depression gene did not come my way, and indeed decades later I realised her depression wasn’t intrinsic to her, it wasn’t something that the ‘housewife’ got, there were many reasons that led to her depression, (which one day I hope to write about in a memoir). No, instead I am Mrs Anxious, (all disguised of course) and boy is this tendency to anxiety not particularly helped by the current circumstances.

So, what to do about being more resilient during these challenging times? Well, the Mind website has some great tips for mental health and wellbeing, which all of us can take on board, and I am going to share them with you.

And btw, mental wellbeing will be different for everyone and mean different things to different people, and also note I am no expert as this is just coming from a little research, which is something we can all do as we need to find our own solution and our own path to wellbeing.

Relax and reduce stress

There are so many ways to do this and the Mind website gives us several tips including that of mindfulness and paying attention to the present.  Do you try to live in the moment? It’s a good maxim, but it is actually quite tricky and just like physical exercise, is a discipline to be practised. If you find yourself thinking about the gloom of the winter, especially those cold clammy months of January and February (just writing this makes me inwardly shudder because I’m also remembering the illness I had in those months) you have to stop and picture another better scenario. What about distracting yourself away from anxiety? Instead of watching the news or reading the newspaper or simply over-thinking, what cultural documentary can you watch that will stimulate and interest you? I’ve been watching several documentaries fronted by the historian David Olusoga, gosh, I do admire him.  There are so many interesting programmes to find on places like iPlayer, I expect there are similar platforms in other countries. Watch those instead of, you know, the dreaded stats and the simply appallingly inept pronouncements from you-know-who!  And then there’s exercise, which is the path to the reduction of stress for me, but see more about that below.

Find ways to learn and be creative

As you know we are going to participate in online classes via the newspaper, The Guardian. They’ve been running classes and courses for several years now, and I’ve gone to many of these.  Indeed their course on setting up a WordPress blog was what got me started on the path to blogging. A lot of the classes are around writing headed by their journalists, which is an extra bonus for a Guardian reader, as it’s great to see them in flesh.  But the classes are many and various including ones on personal development, all, of course, via Zoom now. I plan to do one a month and although sadly the one we’d booked for October was postponed to November, I relish the idea and look forward to the stimulation and inspiration you get from these classes. If you don’t fancy doing the whole Zoom/Webinar thing I wonder what is happening re: classes and/or lectures in your local area? (If that is still possible with, you know…) Indeed I wonder, are there classes on the whole remote communication we’re all doing via IT? If there aren’t any, there jolly well ought to be. I know from living with people who are just that bit older than me, that this kind of communication is not what they do. But it is not impossible at all to teach and/or learn these skills. For several years Mr F taught 80+ people to use IT, Skype, in particular, and they were so keen to do this – maybe they were self-selecting but even so, never say never (about anything) yourself, and never, ever say older people cannot learn to use IT.

And what about something more practical and creative? I’ve just started knitting again and really enjoying it. This is the front of a cardi for my expected (very soon) grandchild.

What is it that triggers something inside you – take it up and give it a try.

Spend time in nature

Oh yes, do, but don’t think that it has to be in the depths of the countryside.  Here’s my take on nature!

Connect with others

I haven’t got any Zoom coffees this week and I’m feeing gosh, who can I talk to over the next few days, because, yes, I like to meet up with friends via Zoom at 11.0am with a coffee. It’s great to see people this way, and while it is absolutely not the same as seeing them in person, it really is a boon and quite lovely to see your friends.

Btw, I believe that some fashion journos have written articles on what to wear for Zoom meetings. Oh for goodness sake, ignore all that!  It’s the connection that is important rather than what you are wearing!  On the other hand, any excuse to dress up, as there are so few opportunities these days, so here’s a new wool jacket I bought for £6!  I could wear that for these meet-ups.

Then for me there’s the connection that I get through the blogging scene. The fashion is important but not the only reason for this blog.

There’s you commenting on this blog, which gives me the opportunity to reply to every one of you, and then there are all the other blogs run by lovely women that you can visit and get to know. The whole blogging thing makes you realise there is a very large community of women out there who are simply, well, nice.  And it’s so good connecting with them and becoming close through commenting.

Look after your physical health

As you all know it is so important to look after your physical health. You need to take care of yourself and eat well and drink lots of water, and rather than having copious amounts of coffee and tea throughout the day, there are plenty of decaffeinated drinks you could take up.  Me, I can’t quite get into the herbal teas, instead I have decaffeinated coffee and tea, and actually the decaffeinated (ground) coffee has a really good taste to it, and Yorkshire decaffeinated tea is just like the real thing.

Now that it is Autumn I make many soups, which we have for our midday meal and are, basically, vegetables chopped up, sautéed and with organic stock are simmered for 20-30 minutes and ground down. I make a ‘green’ soup, which I love, made from leeks and courgettes, plus some rosemary, which is yummy. Another green soup is an onion sautéed and then with the vegetable stock I add frozen peas and simmer for 20 minutes. This with added mint is just delicious. Then a good ‘red’ soup I make is a combination of carrots and sweet potatoes, with added ground coriander and turmeric, this is also delicious. Btw, I can’t give you precise amounts of veg as I literally throw it all together without weighing a thing. But look at The Age-Well Project blog or buy their book, for properly set out recipes.

Their latest post is on the importance of movement, which is rather apt, because, as you all know as you age, any kind of movement is important. I know a lot of you take classes in yoga or pilates.  Whatever, keep moving; get up out of that chair and go for a walk. For me, Pilates and my daily walk structures both the day and the week, and keeps me sane.  Every single time I do a class or go for a walk I feel so much better and far, far less stressed.

And here’s my 3rd Second-hand September buy! It was this Australian Driza-bone coat bought for £40, which is pricy for a charity shop, but not as pricy as buying a new Driza-bone! And it’s going to be brilliant to wear through those wet winter days. All I need is a matching waxed hat and the outfit is complete.

Try to get a good night’s sleep

Oh ha, ha and LOL!  Gosh, have I had a lot of insomnia over the past few months. That sleep programme I put myself on – it didn’t work. There were a couple of things that helped but it was basically 7 weeks of torture being kept up far too late! The reason behind that being that the latest research on insomnia is about the efficacy of severely restricting sleep. However, please don’t be put off by my experience, it could work for you. Anyway I finished it and then moved on to one session with a hypnotherapist, and really it was just a good discussion on ways and means, and this was helpful. Basically what has worked for me is having a carbohydrate snack and a small glass of milk about an hour before going to bed, plus listening to a half-hour mindful meditation tape in the dark after Mr F has turned the light out, and that really gets me off to sleep.

I guess this is the year for insomnia what with everything that is going on, but there is help out there and good advice – it’s just finding it!

That’s all for now, but I do hope you are all keeping well in the circumstances. Let me know how you are.

With love, Penny, the Frugalfashionshopper

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36 thoughts on “Wellbeing and you

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    14th October 2020 at 7:44 am
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    Thank you for taking the time to write this helpful and informative piece. This is timely coming at the time of the 3 tier announcement and the Very High status for our city, Liverpool.
    Plenty of positive advice delivered in such a caring and straightforward way.

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    • the frugal fashion shopper
      15th October 2020 at 7:27 am
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      Thank you Lyndsay and very good wishes to both you and the city of Liverpool.

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    14th October 2020 at 7:48 am
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    For insomnia you could try some hypnotherapy. I can recommend Michael Sealey on YouTube. Just make sure that whichever device you play it in, it doesn’t automatically continue to the next programme.

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    • the frugal fashion shopper
      15th October 2020 at 7:29 am
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      Thank you so much Jane. Hypnotherapy is such a useful therapy. Thank you for the tip about this therapist – I’ll try him out.

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    14th October 2020 at 8:01 am
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    I love the lively red jacket and am envious of the Drizabone mac….just what I needed yesterday! Thanks for all your upbeat pieces on fashion, politics and now mental Health. You cover a lot of ground in a fashion blog and I always enjoy reading it and your Other Blog. Carry on the good work. Just to say about our Mum’s, they did put up with a lot in terms of lack of help for mental and physical health. I’m now worried that this generation of young working mothers are going through tough times, trying to work from home and juggle child care without the help of family due to Covid, never mind the housing situation. I wish we could think of a way to support them more. Better and free early childcare would be one way. Let’s think of this generation too and their mental health. Thanks for all the thoughtfulness and – the fashion! 👗

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    • the frugal fashion shopper
      15th October 2020 at 7:36 am
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      I agree Trish wholeheartedly about both our mothers and the young working mother. Our mothers had such narrow constrained lives being a post-war ‘housewife’ with few opportunities to even find friends as their work was the house and that was that – that certainly was the case for my mother. And today I feel for the pressure on the young working mother especially now during this pandemic. Hopefully my daughter-in-law will get through the coming months at home successfully with the support of both her her mother and nearby friends in the same circumstances. We’re living in challenging times. All the very best 🙂

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    14th October 2020 at 8:56 am
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    Oh Penny you hit the nail on the head again today. I’m a life long over-thinker and sufferer of anxiety and the annoying thing is, I can deal with the big life events, its the day to day things that set me off, clenching my teeth worrying about “what if”. My epitaph would say “Death? she had far less important things to worry about”. Anyway, I do all the things you mention, exercise, eat a healthy diet and get outside as much as possible and they really help me. I’ve recently taken up Zoom meditation with my lovely yoga teacher, but I still find sleeping a tricky one. This week has been the toughest yet (and we haven’t even got into S.A.D yet – got my daylight bulbs at the ready) as we lost our beloved dog of 14. The pain is unimaginable if you’re not an animal person but boy is it real grief. However I’m taking it slowly, and (for a change) being kind to myself, going with the flow, tears out, messy face and not being brave.

    My wise GP once said to me I was a prime candidate for depression after I had supressed my grief and supported my mother for two years following my father’s death. She said “the trouble is, you are a coper – so everyone expects you to cope and they come and offload all their grief on to you. They feel better, leaving you to cope – so you do”. So true.

    I’m a work in progress, NOT be a coper for everyone else, live in the moment and be nice to myself. Your blog today really helped so thanks again and keep well and safe. x

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    • the frugal fashion shopper
      15th October 2020 at 7:41 am
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      Oh no! I do understand the grief as we had a Blue Marl collie for 15 years and losing her was just so awful. I totally get the ‘coping’ bit as I had to do the main bulk caring for my mother whilst working on a national project in London with teenagers to care for back home, all while I was going through the menopause – yikes – took me years to recover from that!

      So glad to be of help as, really, I travel the same path as you do. You take care too x

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    14th October 2020 at 9:00 am
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    Thank you Penny I look forward to your piece every week you have a very engaging style -it is always so varied content and so interesting

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    • the frugal fashion shopper
      15th October 2020 at 7:43 am
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      Thank you, so much Norma. This blog was, and is, always about more than just fashion. So glad you like it 🙂

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    14th October 2020 at 9:53 am
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    I’ve just woken up as I couldn’t get to sleep last night and was so glad to find your blog. I realise it’s a vicious circle. I too am extremely anxious, but like Pamela, am an overthinking coper. Since March I have worried non stop about my sister, who has advanced Parkinson’s and lives alone with her dog and with the help of Carers, a hundred miles away from me and no other family. In the first Lockdown I also did my best to support a friend whose very sick husband was in the last months of life. This Autumn though, I’m just finding everything so much harder. I try to do all the things you mention, diet, exercise, avoiding the news especially Johnson and Trump but even so the future seems so bleak, especially for my teenage grandchildren. I tried to set up a zoom group with friends but they lacked interest and in the end I just stopped. I’m fortunate in that I live near the coast but my daily walk is a struggle these mornings and I’ve even abandoned Joe Wicks! I shall investigate mindfulness techniques to see if that gives me the jolt I need. Thank you for your wise words Penny, please keep them coming.

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    • the frugal fashion shopper
      15th October 2020 at 7:50 am
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      I think you sound as though you do a huge amount for others and I know this is vitally important to you, especially supporting your sister, but you have to care for yourself too. So, nurture yourself and treat yourself because, you know, you deserve it. I know it’s hard and gosh don’t we all need a holiday, but you are the person you must care for. And then you’ll have the energy to give to others.

      All the very best and you take care now x

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    14th October 2020 at 11:06 am
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    I love the red jacket! Just the colour needed going into Winter. I’ve been doing Zoom classes with a local lady, who usually does them in a village hall. They are especially for the over 60s. I have been doing them all over the Summer. I pay £15 a month for these 30 minute classes and they are worth every penny. She varies her exercises doing some aerobics, salsa and using light weights. I’ve certainly noticed the difference. I’m no longer achy and my arm muscles have improved. I’m also doing art classes online as well, which have saved my sanity. I can get lost in painting water colours and forget for a little while what a turmoil the world is in.

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    • the frugal fashion shopper
      15th October 2020 at 7:56 am
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      Yes, I think now my hair has gone white/grey the colour red is much more my colour than it was before, and in the winter that’s great as it’s so vibrant and cheery.

      Your classes are very good value for money. My classes are too. And three cheers for your arm muscles! Using weights is such a good thing – I’ve now got quite a bit of muscle definition in my upper arms. The art class sounds good too. Agree that we have to distract ourselves from the chaos out there!

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    14th October 2020 at 12:09 pm
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    Hello from Southern California, Penny…thank you for this heartfelt post of these crazy times we are living in. Yes, self care is a must, physically, mentally, and socially. We are carefully sheltering in place due to my husband’s health issues. In the last month, we have occasionally started eating out in open-air patios, during less busy times. This has been a great release. Our beautiful daughter-in-law does the majority of our grocery shopping. I told her that I intend to take back that responsibility in a few weeks. We were to visit our favorite mountain getaway last week but the Creek Fire of central California has really polluted the air quality. We are watching the rating numbers of Air Quality and Fire Containment. We are still hoping for a short getaway with our son, his wife, and our four grandchildren. They have been a great comfort and help to us.
    My heart is saddened to read the other comments and read of their mental state and isolation. Your example and words are inspiring for us! Getting outdoors, engaging with others through Zoom (how I attend church and visit with family and friends), starting up knitting, and getting dressed in that fabulous red jacket (!) is wonderful to see!
    I have my share of challenges…insomnia (note the time of this comment), periods of unproductive online scrolling (equivalent to a full time job), a grumpy husband (!), and our divisive political climate** over here! But I cannot imagine being a young family struggling with employment and small children right now. Even my 93 year old mother says she’s pretty comfortable, solving her sudoku and crossword puzzles while crafting away. She lives in her own home with our brother. She misses her pool exercise classes and we fear that this lack of exercise might lead to some decline. Her neighborhood is not the best so she does not walk regularly.
    I enjoy receiving your posts here “across the pond”. Know that your words and experience are appreciated as wisdom and real life. Hoping for safety, comfort and peace to you and the other commenters.
    **Be glad that I did not go on about our politics. I did enough yelling at the TV during the presidential debate.

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    • the frugal fashion shopper
      15th October 2020 at 3:02 pm
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      Hello again Charlene, lovely to hear from you. Yes, we’ve heard about the fires in California on the news – I hope you can get away for your break. Amazing that your mother is still alive, but why ever not! That’s a good age. Yes, so many seniors must be missing out but it’s really great that your mother is in her own home, as there are seniors in care homes here in the UK who are not getting visitors because of the situation – that must be awful.

      And thank you for your kind words about the blog. It is the connection with others that is so very satisfying. And connection is so important these days – may we listen to each other and learn so that we understand other views. Mind you I am totally with you about the shouting at the TV – I do that at our leader! You take care now 🙂

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    14th October 2020 at 1:50 pm
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    That red is your colour, beautiful. It’s hard not to get a bit down coming into Winter so far we have been lucky to avoid real depression. I read the MIND tips. One thing that I find difficult to deal with is socialising I prefer not to so the lockdown has been easy for me and I have realised I needn’t be ashamed of being a loner as I’m content. Things we feel we ought to be, or ought to be doing, are often what makes us unhappy. My husband is a loner too so no conflict there.

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    • the frugal fashion shopper
      15th October 2020 at 3:10 pm
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      That jacket was a great find!

      I do understand the not wanting to socialise as I definitely felt that on coming out of lockdown in the UK. I didn’t feel ready and really wasn’t that feeling quite a rational one considering the circumstances. I think there’s such a thing as an extraverted introvert and that would be me.

      We have to look at winter as a positive moment (and maybe that’s 6 months or so of moments) of hunkering down and being cosy in our own homes. There’s also winter clothes – they’re the best!

      Take care Flora, good to hear from you 🙂

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    14th October 2020 at 3:33 pm
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    What a very thoughtful post, Penny, and full of good advice. Clinical depression runs in my family; both maternal grandmother, aunt and mother had it; but like you, so far, I’ve escaped it. I’m sorry to hear about your insomnia and I’m glad you’ve found a way to deal with it. Again, I’m extraordinarily lucky in that I usually sleep well unless I’m worried about something and that’s to be expected.

    Loved your new wool jacket; the colour really suits you and the Drizabone coat (is it called a Stockman’s coat?) look fabulous on you. You’ll be ready for anything the weather throws at you wearing that!

    Please show us your finished knitted garment; I love those teeny tiny baby clothes…

    Take care and stay safe
    xxx

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    • the frugal fashion shopper
      15th October 2020 at 3:13 pm
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      Thank you for those kind words Veronica. Ah the misery of the illness depression, like you I am so glad I’ve escaped that.

      The jacket was just such a good find . I will show you the finished knitted article – I’m enjoying getting back to knitting.

      You take care too xxx

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    14th October 2020 at 4:07 pm
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    Thanks for another interesting and heartfelt blog post. My mother also had bad depression for many years too. Only thing I’d query would be use of the phrase ‘extenuating factors’ in relation to depression. This almost sounds like you’re blaming the person for their depression but saying there were ‘extenuating circumstances’, as in someone committing a crime but being given a shorter sentence due to ‘extenuating circumstances’. I’m sure you don’t mean that depression is a person’s fault. Perhaps ‘causal factors’ might be more appropriate/what you’re getting at? I enjoy your blog and pics each week – many thanks!

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    • the frugal fashion shopper
      15th October 2020 at 3:30 pm
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      I’m usually so careful with words! Looked up the definition of extenuating circumstances and it varies from exceptional circumstances outside ones control to an excuse. An excuse! Oh, no, did not mean that..
      And interesting that you say I probably don’t mean that depression is a person’s fault because actually the thinking at the time was near to that. The thing is I was a psychiatric nurse like decades ago, in the days of ECT and some really old-fashioned views and treatments (ECT and insulin therapy – yes really), and we were definitely taught that depression was mainly an intrinsic illness that came just because…. of the menopause for one, but there were also extrinsic factors (like bereavement) that came from outside that caused depression. For years, I seriously thought that my mother got her depression because she was a housewife and that it just came because of that and who she was, and of course, that’s a good enough reason. But I now know there were very very good reasons why she became chronically depressed, and I do mean good reasons. And all of this I shall explore in the memoir I aim to write. I have half written bits of this already and simply must gather it all together.

      Thanks for the comment – made me think!

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        18th October 2020 at 11:27 am
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        No worries, dear Penny, I was sure you didn’t mean it negatively, was just clarifying as there can be negative and unhelpful views out there. My own mother’s family (there were 13 in the family) was very affected by clinical depression and mental illness, so I’m very aware of it. I’ve had my own experiences of it and am very glad now to have the benefit of medication which has contributed to my being stable and able to lead a normal, productive, and enjoyable life for about 20 years now. So I’m a bit of an advocate for getting treatment.
        All the very best x

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    14th October 2020 at 5:06 pm
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    Thanks for this supportive post Penny. I have had an anxiety disorder for almost 40 years now and with cognative behaviour therapy and lowered meds, I am dealing quite well now. I must say the great outdoors is the best therapy for me personally and I have been lucky to have spent most of my summer and autumn so far getting out on my own property. I really don’t mind the isolation too much. We will see how winter goes. I just got off a Zoom chat with my coffee group and I do enjoy dressing up a bit for those. You look fabulous in that red jacket, and the price was even better. I am so thrilled to see your posts pop up on my screen and it feels like a visit with a friend. Stay well and safe.
    Best from Ont. Canada

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    • the frugal fashion shopper
      16th October 2020 at 7:41 am
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      Hello Diane
      It’s so interesting to hear how you have coped with your longstanding condition, and indeed we will see how winter goes, which of course, is so very hard in Canada. And yes, isn’t it great dressing up for a Zoom chat!

      Thank you so much Diane – it’s good to get the feedback that you enjoy the blog – you stay well and safe too 🙂

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      23rd October 2020 at 4:02 am
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      Penny while learning about depression (my mother also suffered for years and years because there was no medication at that time, apart from tranquilizers ….. I learned that chronic anxiety disorder is also a sub-set of depression, perhaps you would be interested in asking your doctor their opinion on this … not that it truly matters, (I have anxiety disorder, managed through medicine) but you may find it interesting. Ann Lee S

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    14th October 2020 at 5:28 pm
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    Hi Penny,

    I, too, had a mom with depression who was given all the treatments you describe, (which weren’t many at the time). One treatment was for her to kleanse her mind by sleeping 23 out of 24 hours. The doctor would come every day and give her a shot. oh brother. I seem to have missed that gene, and am ever grateful. A bit anxious, but eh! I love zooming by taking 7 art classes weekly with ever consuming homework, a literature class and travel logs to places I haven’t been. I am one of those “few years older” people, but am learning about technology every day as much as I can. Did breakout rooms on zoom yesterday! Woohoo! Hello Netflix and Britbox

    Have had AFib for over a year. I think it takes a while to adjust to both physically, mentally and medication wise. I should exercise more (I dislike it so much) but am forcing myself to move. Thx for your cooking recipes, which are so good!

    Stay healthy and enjoy life’s little joys. Thx for your blog. I enjoy it, and look forward to it.

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    • the frugal fashion shopper
      16th October 2020 at 7:49 am
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      The treatments that were available then must sound almost medieval to modern ears. I remember that sleeping therapy, which, in one hospital I worked in, was brought about by shots of insulin! I mean insulin???

      You are a perfect example of how we can all benefit and take part in life-long learning.

      My other half has AFib and I have Ventricular Ectopy (which is not as serious). Absolutely you’re so right, it takes a lot of getting used to, especially when we both thought we were so fit! Ha, I always said face up to ageing but when it hits, it is quite an adjustment. One of life’s lessons!!!

      Thanks for your kind words.

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        22nd October 2020 at 3:31 pm
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        I don’t write very often, but I always follow your blog and enjoy hearing about your interesting life and new ideas, books, shopping……..
        I too like making home made veggie soups, so I was interested to hear your ideas on them and like the idea of making different coloured soups. So tomorrow mine is going to be green with some leeks, celery and a few cabbage leaves, oh and I have some mint growing on the window-sill, so some of that too!!,
        Love the red jacket, it will brighten up any day during the long winter months ahead!!

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    14th October 2020 at 10:45 pm
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    First I want to ay that I really love your new red jacket and raincoat Penny. They may be my favorite of your recent purchases. And your advice was so on point. As a psychologist, I could not have given better advice on how to cope with depression and anxiety. it seems most of us are dealing with one or the other, or a combination, these days. Just this morning I was listening to the radio, the public station, and there was a call in for listeners, especially parents of children and psychotherapists, for their thoughts and coping mechanisms during these difficult times. As I have mentioned before I have started to attend some in person lectures. we must all wear masks and keep a safe distance. you can also chose to see the presentations on line. As you may be aware cases of Covid are increasing all over the country (the US) so the in person option may not always be available. we shall see. for me nature has been such a comfort, I am lucky to live where there are local parks and nearby nature preserves. Anyway, as you are aware, the election looms and I have a hard time limiting my consumption of news, but I am working on it.
    Stay well, I look forward to your posts and to what your readers have to say as well.
    Darby

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    • the frugal fashion shopper
      16th October 2020 at 8:25 am
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      Hi Darby, yes, just like in the States numbers of cases in the UK are rising and a 2nd wave is here. The only thing that will stop this is another proper strict lockdown and our government won’t do that as they are firmly behind saving the economy rather than lives. I wouldn’t mind so much but in the interests of their particular ideology they have ignored the health experts and the scientists and local authorities who know what they are doing and thrown billions at private companies to do testing and track and trace which have failed as they have so many times in the past, I do hope there is a reckoning.

      I too find it hard to stay away from the news, but I have stopped watching news on the TV. I prefer to read about things like the pandemic and where we are with that. Plus of course, I prefer to read about ours and your political scene, rather than hear pundits arguing. But it doesn’t always help – am rather horrified at the hearings of the replacement of Ginsberg. One very big difference between our two countries is that of the legal system. Our judges are members of the elite and that has its problems, which is changing a little, btw, but they are absolutely not political and it is the legal system who appoints judges. The way it will go if that woman is appointed…….

      Actually I listened to a podcast which included the historian Sarah Churchwell and it was quite enlightening about the checks and balances of the American Constitution. Hearing that there were far worse than Trump, people like Mitch McConnell, for instance, was also so interesting. Mind you I could be making you feel worse now – sorry! Do you watch Schitts Creek? We’ve just started watching and love it. So funny and entirely apolitical. We alway watch when feeling glum and it always does the trick!

      As alway, Darby, take care

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        16th October 2020 at 5:29 pm
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        No Penny, you did not make me feel worse. I appreciated your very well thought out reply. I am hoping that there will be change in the next couple of weeks. and thank you for the recommendation, good TV and books are important coping tools for me, so always open to suggestions.
        Darby

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    15th October 2020 at 2:45 am
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    I love that you’re taking up knitting again Penny. Make sure to take a photo of finished project before you give it away…and then it’d be so fun to have you share it on Instagram. I try to share my knitted projects on Saturdays and I use the #YarnDay!!!
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    Jodie
    http://www.jtouchofstyle.com

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      16th October 2020 at 7:54 am
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      Not only knitting as I’ve just sent off for a kit to make a stuffed toy – not done anything like that for years. But I will when I’ve finished it, participate in the Instagram on Saturday #YarnDay – thanks Jodie!

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    15th October 2020 at 1:49 pm
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    Enjoying my breakfast on the patio looking at the woods is one of the ways that I enjoy the outdoors most days and I have been blessed to have to walking partners in my neighborhood so we walk most days for 45 min. I really enjoy the blogging world as it gives a purpose to my days aside from daily chores and dropping and picking the kids from school. Connecting with others makes me feel good.
    http://www.chezmireillefashiontravelmom.com

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    • the frugal fashion shopper
      16th October 2020 at 7:51 am
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      Absolutely with you Mireille, that we need to appreciate the many blessings in our life, and yes, blogging is one of them. Like you I feel it is so enjoyable connecting with other bloggers and all the lovely people who comment.

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