Hello again

Gosh what a shock. Got home Friday evening after a very normal on-time flight (Toulouse to Gatwick) but I’m just not a good traveller. I know it’s a short flight as opposed to trans-atlantic flights but, although I don’t dislike flying I don’t like it either. And feeling too wired after the flight, I didn’t sleep well that night. Consequently, the next day felt a bit like a zombie. Anyway, over that, and it’s lovely to be back.

Here’s a couple of last minute pics taken in the lovely little town of Moissac.

This pic was taken from a restaurant where we were having a pizza. Great atmosphere and lovely ambience outside this beautiful abbey.

Don’t you love those umbrellas! They’re advertising a breast screening event. What a great way to alert people to this critically important business of looking after your breasts.

Here’s me at our table.

And here – hmm. Well the thing is I take a good photo some of the time. In this one I’m looking bit severe. And my hair? Actually it’s good shot of my hair transitioning to grey and white.

For those of you who have just joined the blog you should know that for years I advocated the rule, of ‘no rules’. And especially I fought against the rule that one really should go grey at some point. Whenever a blog post or article came out praising the virtue of going grey, I riposted, ‘Oh, no!  No way are you going  to tell me what to do with my hair. I shall dye my hair until I go to my grave or whenever.’ Because I truly felt that i) you don’t tell older women what to do and ii) for me colouring my hair was what I did – end of.

But I’ve changed my opinion. And it is now a full year since my hair was coloured. You can see from that pic that if I cut my hair short it would now be entirely ‘sans couleur’. It’ll take another year to be completely grey and white as I am also growing my hair longer.

Yes, it’s a long process.  But I’m up for it!  Here’s a few points on this:

1. Only go white or grey when you are absolutely ready to do this. Don’t listen to anyone’s advice – it’s your decision.

2. Be aware that it is a long process.

3. If you have dark hair then you might need help from your hairdresser to colour your hair lighter while you do this.

4. If you have light/blonde/pale brunette hair then there’s no need for highlights/tints/colour. See Alyson Walsh’s hair She’s got darker hair than me but has kept it the way it is – although I think she might have used a little bit of purple shampoo, which suits her. Also note the leopard print items – love them.

5. Keep your hair in tip top condition.

6. Think about the style.  What suited you before might not once you’re grey.

7. Keep your eyebrows dark – and, if possible, dye them. I’ve had to stop dyeing my eyebrows (because of a slight allergy) and I truly regret I can’t dye them. Eyebrows are the framework for your face and they need to be prominent once you’re grey.

8. And wear makeup – because with our skin tone fading along with our hair we need that pop of colour!

That’s all for now, but what do you think about this perennial challenge that faces us all as we age?

With love

Penny, the frugalfashionshopper

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20 thoughts on “Transitioning to grey

  • 10th October 2017 at 10:38 am

    Great advice – thank you.
    Every 10 days I get my eyebrows threaded (£5) and trimmed so the ‘frame’ looks neat. For me, it is well worth it as I have still dark slug like eyebrows – more of a mono brow.

    One bit of advice that I would add is….SMILE. Cos if you look happy even if I am feeling abit messed up about life, it makes me feel happier.

    • 13th October 2017 at 6:42 am

      Dark slug like eyebrows are good to have though – you sound as though you’ve got it right with the threading. And I agree, a smile costs nothing!

  • 10th October 2017 at 11:19 am

    Love the Blog. All my family – parents siblings etc – were dark haired and went grey early (40’s and 50’s). Me, I’m 70 come January and my hairdresser has problems finding any grey hair. Some people think I’m lucky – I don’t. My skin tone has changed and would now suit grey or white hair. if I leave my hair it’s natural dark brown/reddish tint colour, I look like one of those women who are desperately trying to stay young by dyeing their hair the original colour (so wrong), unless your skin tone can take it. I have to pay a fortune to have my hair lightened, with no end in sight. I remember my late mother and sister, their silver/white hair colour was so beautiful, and I wish I was lucky enough to have the same.

    • 13th October 2017 at 6:47 am

      How interesting re: your hair colour remaining. A lot of people would envy you, but I totally understand, the skin tone does fade. I wear makeup to help my pasty face. And a good foundation that doesn’t cake and blends well is good to find. I use Tricia Cusden’s Look Fabulous Forever makeup, but we’re all different. You have to find what suits you – good luck. And the silver hair will come eventually!

  • 10th October 2017 at 12:01 pm

    I am in a “process” of changing my hair colour right now, for years I have dyed my hair a rich auburn colour, so decided with my hairdresser to transition back to my natural colour with blonde highlights, and then slowly go grey. It has taken a year. I didn’t want to damage my hair, and I also thought the shock of the change would be hard to live with, by transitioning slowly, I eliminated the shock factor. Today I am greige, and actually love it, still in the process, but am feeling very comfortable with my decision to do it slowly.

    • 13th October 2017 at 6:51 am

      Thankfully, the colour my hair was a dyed is not too far off my eventual colour, but, goodness, it is a long process, isn’t it! Glad you’re loving and are comfortable with the whole thing.

  • 10th October 2017 at 1:30 pm

    I went grey very early -started in my 20’s – then later dyed for about 15 years as I was going back to college.
    Gave up dyeing in 2001 after seeing a woman on holiday with lovely dark grey hair. I could see that my parting was now white and the dye grew out so quickly that it had to come to an end.
    Initially I just left it but had a sort of white blaze at the front , like a horse! Couldn’t stand that so persuaded a hairdresser to remove the dye chemically, leaving me blondish.
    It was so funny going to work and my colleague having a ‘double take’ in the car park -I’d forgotten about it.
    The transition to full white (greyer at the back) took about a year, as I recall. I was just under 50 which was deliberate as my face showed that I was prematurely grey.
    Hairdressers always admire my hair and advise me not to change it. Unfortunately it’s getting thinner now with the pink scalp only just covered in some places. I would love coarser hair which you can get to look fuller. Is any woman ever happy with her hair, whatever it’s like?

    • 13th October 2017 at 6:56 am

      So glad you love your hair colour – I think I will too. Re: the thinning. Have you come across Catherine from https://atypical60.com She has huge problems with her hair and has used toppers and is now into full wigs. That might sound a bit drastic but she is so upfront about it all. We should talk more about this additional challenge to ageing. All the very best

  • 10th October 2017 at 2:57 pm

    Have transitioned to grey and feel so good. It is so right for my skin colour. I used low lights in my dark hair to help me transition and it made it very easy. I still meet people who gently advise me to get a bit of colour, they say ‘it will make you look younger’. I know it wouldn’t, but say nothing, as you said people will realise themselves that the time has come for them.

    • 13th October 2017 at 6:58 am

      Yes, I feel like you that my hair colour is going to match my skin tone exactly. And when I put on a little makeup actually the contrast with the streak of white I have at the front is quite attractive. Like you, I realised the time had come, and that’s how it should be.

  • 10th October 2017 at 4:19 pm

    I decided in September 2016 it would be the last time I coloured my hair, it took until May 2017 to be all gone. I love the new look and have had loads of people complimenting my hair colour and asking what colour was I using, when I tell them it is au naturelle they cannot believe it. Best thing I have done, wish I’d tried it earlier.

    • 13th October 2017 at 6:59 am

      Good for you, Doris. Like you, I’m going to be really happy with my new look.

  • 10th October 2017 at 4:37 pm

    Just beginning to go through this phase, I had lightened my dark hair to a let’s call it ginger and thought that it would go lighter over time. It didn’t, having not visited my hairdresser for two months, my natural colour grew and it looked even darker. My husband even noticed and told me that I need to go to the hairdresser. Booked an appointment and consultation to discuss my problem, She gave three choices and between us we decided to have a half head of foils, three shades, ginger, blonde and bleached white. A little expensive on the first appointment, but the next appointment is in ten weeks. Previously it would have been every six weeks and nearly as expensive. However, my next appointment will be for just a T bar, half the price and more space between appointments. Hopefully I will stick with it, to get my desired au natural look. Fingers crossed, love your blog. Terri x

    • 13th October 2017 at 7:01 am

      Oh well done, Terri and thanks for the feedback on the blog! I’m sure you’ll get there with the new colour. Like you, I think my journey is quite a long one, but we’ll get there!

  • 10th October 2017 at 7:21 pm

    If I had one piece of advice for women in our age range it would be to care for your eyebrows. But do not overpluck, nor make them pencil thin. Tidy dark brushed brows do so much for a face that all else is secondary. As for gray…it is personal choice! At 74, I am not ready yet, but I recommend a lighter rather than a darker shade as our skin lightens.

    • 13th October 2017 at 7:03 am

      Hi Margaret and I so agree about the eyebrows and I wish I could go back to dying them, but I do keep them tidied and brushed – they are, after all, the framework to your face. And you’ll know when to go grey – it is such a personal, individual choice, and that’s how it should be.

  • 11th October 2017 at 10:50 am

    I’ll probably carry on dyeing it while I’m still working. My mother has wonderful pure white hair so hopefully I will inherit that! She stopped dyeing her hair at 50 because her scalp became allergic to the dyes. I think you’ll be stunning with grey hair, you have very good bone structure and the colouring to stand out with grey hair.

    • 13th October 2017 at 7:07 am

      Oh, wow, Gail, thanks for the compliment about the bone structure which is, of course, inherited from my parents. I was just like you and would never have stopped dyeing my hair whilst working. And actually I have only just decided to go grey and that was when I was 70!!!!!! So there’s no need to go grey yet!

  • 11th October 2017 at 9:19 pm

    Great post Penny and very timely for me! I’ve recently gone back to highlights after resisting for nearly a year BUT have now firmly decided to let it go to ‘grey glory’. I do find that maintenance of the eyebrows and a lovely lip colour make it look stunning! Keep up the good work, cheers Doreen

    • 13th October 2017 at 7:09 am

      Thank you Doreen (what a lovely name) I will keep up the good work! Great to hear about you going for the grey!

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