I don’t know if this happens elsewhere but here in the Uk whenever the media publishes an article on the older population (as in from 65+) it is usually accompanied by a photo of either a sad old woman looking out of the window or a pair of hands that quite obviously belong to a 90-year-old. That happened quite recently – see here. That’s prompted Joyce Williams of Grandma Williams blog and ITV’s This Morning fame to start a campaign on Twitter (see her twitter handle here) to be proud of older age and rethink its image. So she’s collecting photos of vibrant, happy older people doing stuff. Her view being that it’s not the wrinkled hands that matter so much as the negativity they portray.
Exactly. We are so diverse as we age. And just as we were different when we were younger so will be as we age. I say be proud of your hands, however wrinkled they are and, actually, show them off. I have wrinkled hands and masses of age spots yet I love very bright nail varnish and don’t mind drawing attention to them. The nails are having their several months rest from gel nail varnish. Yes, be careful of gel as for some people this type of nail decor can be disastrous. Me, I have gel nail varnish all through the winter (as my nails crumble in the winter and the gell seems to protect them) then 4-6 months rest and then I start again. This was last year and I have more age spots now but I’m going to have some of this colour put on shortly.
Or maybe this colour? See, they’re old hands, but who cares!
Last month I went to an amazing funeral. Victor was an artist we knew in Newhaven. We were all sad and shocked at his death as he was far too young, but his funeral was up-lifting and really excellent, starting off with his coffin being painted in his artistic style with vibrant sea-side blues with gulls and clouds and vistas – it was just mind-blowingly beautiful. Then after a long eulogy we trekked off to Newhaven’s lovely community centre where there was a feast and a montage of his life in photos played on a continuous loop (created by Mr F, btw). There were so many people there celebrating Victor’s life and times it made me think about how I want to leave this planet. So I sat down and thought it through and this is what I’m going to do.
Everyone is to wear a hat, any hat, for starters. No church or crematorium service please, as I’d like a very light humanist funeral (with a few words said at the beginning and not anything formal as I’ve been to a few humanist funerals and they can be as formal as any conventional funeral) in a community centre with a montage of photos from birth to death running on a continuous loop. Lots of food and drink. And here’s the thing, it’s to be a ‘swishing event’. So everyone donates £5 to a charity to be decided upon and brings a bag of their own clothes to be swapped – with mine. Yes, all my clothes, my cruise frocks, my other frocks and my many many skirts, coats and jackets, my costume jewellery, my small collection of shoes and bags and don’t forget my 27 hats! All to be laid out nicely – like a posh jumble sale. And everyone has fun trying on stuff – and taking it home!!!! Could be some dancing as well. Please, do enjoy!
This is not expected, btw, but you know you never know what’s round the corner. Nor do I think this morbid as actually you’re being kind to your relatives to give them some instructions so they don’t have to think about things when they’re upset.
Actually a friend has just asked that I wear this at her funeral – which won’t be like tomorrow but is not unexpected – and I will 🙂
Note the yellow hair. Talking to an old friend about our how we dyed our hair blonde for like decades, we both agreed that in some photos we have of ourselves it looks like we’ve poured a bowl of custard onto our heads. My hair is now a mix of white, and grey with some streaks of red/gold which is not the dreaded brassy tones, as I once was a red-head. Actually, it looks so much better and I can’t believe I spent so much money on my hair on that false blonde colour. I’ve tried the purple white-hair specific shampoos and my sensitive skin doesn’t like them, so I’ve stuck with White Hot Hair products. This company has a daily non-purple shampoo Glorious Shampoo which I use every 5-7 days along with the conditioner, which suits me.
It’s going to be hot in the UK over the next few days – sigh. I’ll try not to complain too much, but it’s not a dry heat and that heavy humidity is a bit much for the likes of me. However, my thoughts turn to cruising! Yay! We’re going to Norway in late August and, you know what, we could experience some snow, especially when we take the train at Flam. I shall hold on to that thought in the next few days and perhaps make a list of the clothes we’re going to take with us. More about that in another post – soon. Until then, have a great week.
With love, Penny, the Frugalfashionshopper