Hello again

You remember that on Friday I made my bedroom really untidy whilst I was was trying on clothes. This is what I decided to wear on Sunday.

That’s my tulle ballerina-length skirt that I haven’t worn since I used to dress up on film nights  (I helped to run a film society and it was a great opportunity to dress up when we hosted it.) And yes I did wear the skirt with those ankle boots. That’s quite deliberate as the boots are worn to make the tulle look less ‘dressy’.  And how shallow to want to dress up, but you know, why not! It’s also the nearest I could get to wearing an Alexander McQueen outfit as last year I’d spotted this.

You know what they say, if you have to ask the price you can’t afford it! I think that would apply to a McQueen skirt and leather jacket!  But hey, I had the near equivalent, and all thrifted. And note the total cost of the outfit I wore: skirt (£3); jacket (£5); boots (£5); and bag (£3).

And where did I wear this frugal outfit?

I went to The Grand, Brighton for tea! And here’s a glimpse of what we had.

But more important was the company at The Grand. I met up with two fabulous women, Nancy of Nancy’s Fashion Style and Anna of Mutton Style and I, and how great was that!  Here they are. It was Nancy’s idea as she’s on holiday staying on the south coast near Brighton. Big shout-out to you Nancy as we felt almost immediately that we had such a bond.

We had so much in common and so much to say to each other!

And the tea? We had little quiches, tiny sandwiches, fancy cakes, scones, cream and jam, and a slice of orange polenta cake, plus many cups of tea.  And once again I put on the wrong clothes (sort of) as I was too hot. I have another thinner cloth black jacket with a zip (so it’s very similar to the faux leather jacket) and that would have been much better.  The weather here in the UK is very mixed; one day hot and the next quite cool.

I feel that in these uncertain and challenging times it is so important to not only be creative writing a blog, it is also so important to connect with others way, way beyond the boundaries of our lives. Why? Because we learn from each other and gain confidence in our voice and our approach to life.  It was amazing to meet up with two bloggers who felt the same way. We three all felt that connection to a community of like-minded women was so important. We did talk about fashion but we talked about so many other things and a lot about that connection with our readers.

See you, you lovely people, thank you for reading and supporting us. You are so appreciated by us the writers of these blogs.

That’s all for now

With love, Penny, the Frugalfashionshopper

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43 thoughts on “Tea at The Grand, Brighton!

  • 12th September 2018 at 12:11 pm

    Looks like a lovely treat -I don’t suppose any of you had a gluten-free tea? I’ve pretty much given up on afternoon tea because the gluten free options are usually so awful. On Saga cruises you get a great selection of items but then I worry about the waste.
    If I’d been there I would have dressed up much more, even going so far as a fascinator! I think I’m stuck in a time warp as far as current fashions are concerned. I admire fifties type glamour and elegance, perhaps because I had a stylish Mother and Aunt when I was a child in that period.
    Not that I’m never casual;bad feet see ti that.
    Went to a meeting of my book club this week, all but 1 a lady ‘d’un certain age’. We always end up having a very wide-ranging discussion.
    Glad your eye is better and the bathroom must be close to being finished now(?!)

    • 12th September 2018 at 2:58 pm

      Yes, it was a treat and yes, it was quite carby and they don’t have a gluten free tea, although I note that in one email they mentioned a fish version??? Really not sure what that would be. Saga cruise teas – oh how I remember them, but yes is everything thrown away each day?

      Well re: a fascinator, I don’t have one – they’re just not me. But if it had been in the winter I would’ve worn one of my big black hats. And yes, actually I could’ve dressed up a bit more. The skirt would be better worn at a stand-up party so it would be on full view. All you could see when I was sitting down was my black Peacock’s t-shirt with no accessories. I definitely don’t get it right all the time. On the other hand l do love that skirt and felt good in it – which is the point really.

      And book club discussions are the best 🙂

      Are you packed and ready?

  • 12th September 2018 at 12:49 pm

    Hi Penny, thank you I really enjoy reading your posts.
    I can relate to them and appreciate your comments.
    Very best wishes Viv Farrer

    • 12th September 2018 at 3:08 pm

      Thank you so much – I really appreciate your feedback 🙂

  • 12th September 2018 at 12:51 pm

    What a fabulous afternoon tea you must have had. Lovely to meet Anna and Nancy – what a treat. Jacqui Mummabstylish

    • 12th September 2018 at 3:09 pm

      It was a treat Jacqui and lovely to meet Anna and Nancy x

  • 12th September 2018 at 12:57 pm

    You looked marvellous Penny, and I love Afternoon Tea, it is becoming quite popular here in Toronto, but they call it High Tea, which annoys me, and they don’t quite get the tea right either……..and…….it’s usually astronomically expensive. So glad your eye is better, I would feel awful without my eye make up. I have fibromyalgis, and most days have horrid pain, but I always make the effort to wear makeup and choose my outfits that make me feel better to face the day. It is still really hot here, so we are still in summer clothes, I’m tired of the intense heat, am still wearing my white jeans, which everyone tells me is a big no no after labour day, but I really don’t care, it’s hot, so I’m wearing them! Keep the posts coming, my day is always brighter, when you pop up in my inbox.

    • 12th September 2018 at 2:46 pm

      When IS Labour Day?

      • 13th September 2018 at 9:57 am

        Hi Jen, have a look at Evie’s comment – she says it’s 1st September.

    • 12th September 2018 at 2:51 pm

      PS I’ve only ever had High Tea in Scotland and it’s much more of a meal with a hot savoury dish first. Nothing like a lovely light afternoon tea.

      • 13th September 2018 at 10:01 am

        Hello again, Jen! Actually all through my childhood I had a High Tea at the end of the day, mainly because we had proper school lunches (ha) and so a High Tea ending with bread and butter and jam and a slice of my mother’s Dundee cake with tea, was how we ate. I had a shock when I met some rather more upper class ‘gels’ at St. Thomas’ when I started nursing (decades ago) and I realised that there was something that people ate much later called Dinner!!!!

    • 12th September 2018 at 3:16 pm

      Thank you so much Geraldine for your kind words. And interesting that in Toronto that tea is called High Tea because I was telling Nancy that although we were having one tiny quiche and sandwiches, with High Tea you always had something quite savoury first and it could, for some, be the final meal of the day.

      It’s still not cold here either, and it can be at this time of the year. Sorry to hear about the fibromyalgia – horrid. But great that you wear the makeup – it does make you feel better. I really missed the eye makeup!

  • 12th September 2018 at 2:20 pm

    It had to be a special time.-wonderful women to hang out with in a beautiful environment.

    • 13th September 2018 at 9:35 am

      It was a lovely thing to do Terri, and a lovely place to go to 🙂

  • 12th September 2018 at 6:00 pm

    Wonderful outfit – especially the shape of the whole thing, fitted top and full, unique skirt. The tea looks so nice – could you tell me what the cream is called? Will look for similar here in U.S. It looks like our whipped cream, but is more delicious and denser than ours. Just got back from UK visit which was a wonderful time, and enjoyed the cooler weather and beautiful woodsy areas and mountains. Someone asked about Labor Day – it’s the 1st Monday in September, a federal holiday, with schools, banks, government offices, etc. closed. There are sales advertised by most of the stores. During your August bank holiday, we saw lots of families doing fun things and traveling. We were told that many families with children go on trips or enjoy activities together because it’s the last time off before school starts again. Seems like a better thing than shopping the crowded sales. People here also might go to the beach or have a visit or barbecue with family or friends. Almost all retail businesses/restaurants are open, so many people work that day. I just saw that Canada also celebrates Labor Day on the 1st Monday in September. One note from yesteryear: It’s an old custom/fashion law that “You don’t wear white after Labor Day.”

    • 13th September 2018 at 9:43 am

      Thank you so much Evie for your wonderfully informative comment. I didn’t know much about Labor Day so it was good to hear a little bit about it. Yes, our August Bank Holiday is possibly similar and started with the banks closing! An interesting point is that there are many more of these ‘day off’ holidays on the Continent. I mean we have a few (4) but nothing like some European countries like Finland (15), Austria (12), Sweden, Italy, Denmark, France (11). Yes, the Europeans really know how to treat their workers well – sigh!

      And no wearing white after 1st September – there’s a thought! Thanks again for commenting 🙂

      • 13th September 2018 at 2:44 pm

        I was reading about how US workers use and don’t use the vacation time they’ve earned. Evidently, we don’t use all of it, and feel “shamed” for using the days or weeks off. Also, fear of being replaced. Good grief, so other people also find it hard to relax and even enjoy “down time.” I’ve been retired 5 years and still am having a hard time with this whole concept. I jokingly tell my friend it’s “protestant guilt”, and she calls it her residual “Catholic guilt.” For me, this even carries over to wearing the clothes I really am attracted to. Here’s another link https://projecttimeoff.com/press-releases/americans-waste-record-setting-658-million-vacation-days/

        • 16th September 2018 at 12:45 pm

          So interesting, your point about people not wanting to take time off, because I think this is affecting more and more people here in the UK as ‘austerity’ continues 10 years after the crash. People are grateful to have jobs and worry about redundancy, but they need to keep well. I think one day people will need to go back to joining unions and fighting for their rights. I feel we are all going backwards rather than forward. However, Bank Holidays (all 4 of them) are usually sacrosanct and are always taken here in the UK.

          Also an interesting point about how you feel after retirement. Some take to it like a duck to water but me I kept to office hours and still do to a certain extent with the 2 blogs I’ve got. I sit at my desk and write rather than play golf or whatever, however, into my 70s I do spend more time trying to keep fit than I did in the past. So yes, there’s always that Protestant ethic thing but do wear the clothes you think are attractive!! Don’t keep these clothes for special occasions – wear them now!

      • 14th September 2018 at 6:47 pm

        Evie, I think it may be called clotted cream… Lise

  • 12th September 2018 at 7:43 pm

    oooh what a lovely place, and what a beautiful back drop to where you were sitting. So nice to meet up with fellow bloggers, if your smiles are anything to go by you had a great time. I love afternoon tea. Glad to hear your eye is better.

    • 13th September 2018 at 9:44 am

      Thank you, Polly, and it was a really nice thing to do!

  • 13th September 2018 at 7:48 am

    I loved your afternoon tea outfit, and wish I could muster up the confidence to wear some way out clothes. At nearly 69 I am still wary of looking like mutton dressed up as lamb, although I really want to take the plunge. You looked fabulous.
    Angela Dean

    • 13th September 2018 at 9:55 am

      Hi Angela, well, maybe start slow and just buy something that you’d love to wear and just wear it. For instance, the skirt I wore would probably be better worn in a stand-up party where it would be in full view. But I wore it most of all because it makes me feel good.

      Actually in my view there’s no such thing as that saying, which when you think about it is very negative about older women, and is saying ‘older women, toe the line, you don’t wear this, you don’t wear that.’ Honestly, we should wear what we want. The thing is to wear stuff that fits well. Look long and hard in the mirror and ask yourself – does it look good? And then, does it make me feel good? If it does – well there you are!

      And thank you for your compliment, which is much appreciated 🙂

      • 14th September 2018 at 6:52 pm

        Yes that saying belongs in the historical garbage bin! At 52 years I run around in a Hello Kitty T-Shirt and shorts/jeans if I feel like it. Fortunately my husband insists I still have great legs so that helps with the confidence. I think that is what it is all about – wear what makes you happy with confidence! Penny you look fabulous – I have commented on this skirt before, and it looks so edgy with your boots. Your style is super cool. Age has nothing to do with anything in my opinion. Lise

  • 13th September 2018 at 2:12 pm

    Yeah, wifi! It was so very lovely to meet the both of you! It felt as if I knew you for years! Thank you for arranging the tea in that fabulous hotel! And I’m so looking forward to meet up and go shopping!!

    • 16th September 2018 at 12:50 pm

      Hi Nancy – it was just a week ago!

      Hope you had a great holiday and see you again next year!


  • 13th September 2018 at 2:22 pm

    About not wearing white after Labor Day (US), I meant to make it clear that I don’t agree with that or even think about it. It’s just something I’ve heard about the way some people thought in the past. I think the way you dress is entirely a personal choice. We should feel free to wear what makes us happy.

    • 16th September 2018 at 12:52 pm

      Exactly! But it’s always interesting to hear about events and ideas in other countries that are different to your own country so it was good to hear about Labor Day, including the not wearing white!

  • 14th September 2018 at 3:31 am

    Thanks for sharing your post at the Top of the World Style linkup party. I so love that leather jacket with the tulle skirt!

    • 16th September 2018 at 12:53 pm

      Thank you Nicole for hosting the linkup 🙂

  • 14th September 2018 at 8:48 am

    There’s nothing like an afternoon tea…unless it’s meeting up with fellow bloggers! What a lovely way to spend an afternoon. I loved your outfit but it is difficult to know exactly what to wear. The past two days have been very pleasant and warm with no jacket required but only a few days ago it was chilly and I needed a coat!

    Hope you have a great weekend.

    • 16th September 2018 at 12:54 pm

      Apparently it’s going to warm up this coming week! I’ve only gone and put away all my summer clothes!!!

  • 15th September 2018 at 7:15 am

    The afternoon tea and its venue look perfect for a blogger meet up. I can only imagine the flow of the conversation on all manner of topics.
    Penny, I so agree with your observations on the benefits that blogging brings to our lives and the joys of connecting with like minded women from all over the world.
    You looked so good in your tulle skirt . One day if I ever make it back to the UK , hopefully we will be able to meet, I know we would have much in common.

    • 16th September 2018 at 12:56 pm

      Oh yes, it would be great to meet up. You’d love The Grand. And we can both wear our amazing skirts!!! Until then I look forward to seeing your weekly outfits which are always so well put together and also slightly edgy – I really like that 🙂

  • 15th September 2018 at 8:49 am

    I love the rock chick look and you do it so well! I find the older I get, the braver I seem to be in my choices. This just doesn’t apply to clothes but in my recent hair cut, going to South Africa next year etc etc. Has to be a bonus. I’m a huge fan of those Afternoon Teas, as long as l don’t eat anything before or after! What an opportunity to meet fellow bloggers, too. It looks as if you had a wonderful time. 😀😀😀

    • 16th September 2018 at 1:01 pm

      Oh yes, it’s impossible to eat after one of those ‘teas’ for a long time afterwards – I had a light salad in the evening! It was great to meet up and you know next time you’re back in the UK we could always meet up in George Street, Hove for example 🙂

  • 15th September 2018 at 12:47 pm

    I really LOVE that outfit Penny. So cool and classy. How great to meet up with Nancy and Anna. I love afternoon tea. It’s so civilised.

    • 16th September 2018 at 1:02 pm

      Thank you so much Gail – one day we’ll the same 🙂

  • 15th September 2018 at 6:53 pm

    What a lovely way to spend an afternoon. You look fab – I often wear a lace skirt with boots and a velvet jacket. The boots turn ‘evening’ into a quirky daytime evening. I think the look has a nod to goth/steampunk!

    • 15th September 2018 at 6:55 pm

      The word ‘evening’ is not supposed to appear after the word ‘daytime’. Pesky fingers!

    • 16th September 2018 at 1:03 pm

      The outfit you describe sounds fab. But I’ve got a really full-on steampunk skirt that’s even more way-out than the tulle skirt. I just need to find the occasion………………

  • 21st September 2018 at 10:31 am

    Penny, I hopped over from Nancy’s post! What a fun afternoon with blogger friends! Those are such special meet ups, aren’t they? And your outfit! I am dying over it. I think I may need to be copying this look…like really soon. So fabulous and so very cool!


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