Hello everyone

Apologies for not writing a post for nearly two weeks.  Life just got in the way! I’ve been very busy and did a lot of stuff last week and this, with appointments to go here, there and everywhere, and hey, I had my hair cut!  Here I am before the cut. Note the skirt, which is my last online purchase for some time to come.  From now onwards, I will not be buying new items of clothing what with the beauticians, the hairdresser, the opticians and chiropodist open once more.

I think you might agree that the hair was getting far too long.

And here I am afterwards.

It’s still long but it’s not that lank look.

Btw, the waves have come from tongs, which the hairdresser applied with great skill. I don’t have tongs myself as I’m super aware of hair quality so I won’t be able to recreate that look, apart from I shall dry it naturally and scrunch and twist my hair a bit to get the waves going.  Actually on reflection it could have been cut a bit more, so I will go back in 3 months time for another cut that’s 2″ higher than it is now.

It’s so nice to do something normal!

Anyway, that title on style? That’s more for me than anything else, because I’m sure most of you know your own style. But I wonder whether this past year has impacted on the way you wear your clothes?  It certainly impacted my style as, what with one thing and another, I’ve been wearing stretchy, comfortable jeans for far too long.

Interestingly Catherine of Atypical60 has just written a post on Style v Wearing and is there a difference?  I know I often quote her but she really is a brilliant blogger and so real, but she’s got something there about style as opposed to just wearing anything you can find. And I kind of envied her grounded sense of her very own style. Me, I ricochet from one style to another. I long to be edgy and a little bit biker chic and goth, but often end up looking quite preppy.

The thing is before the ‘unpleasantness’ of the past year I’d relegated jeans to doing the housework, but over these past months they became a staple of my wardrobe. But that’ll change and quite rapidly once we can go out more and also are allowed to sit inside rather than being in a garden. Remember I live in the UK where a north to north-east wind makes for a very cool garden visit and you have to wrap up well and no-one really knows what you’re wearing underneath the coat!

Actually, I don’t think it matters one jot if one day you wear jeans for the garden, or housework, on another day wear a nice frock to visit a friend, and then go to town, literally, in the most stylish outfit you can find. I understand that people don’t dress up so much nowadays for the theatre, me, I used to dress up to the nines for an exhibition.


Nothing in the above photo is from a charity shop but all were bought with care and with an aim of frugality. The skirt is a designer but reduced, the hat came from Toulouse and the jacket from Primark.

Btw, style is very much on my mind as I spoke about style and how to achieve it through experimenting in charity shops with Tricia Cusden of Look Fabulous Forever on Tuesday live on Zoom, and (coughs apologetically) and, this Zoom thing is on YouTube. Honestly I was a tad nervy about the whole thing, but I think it went well. I can’t bear to look at it, but Mr F says I did OK! Do have a look.

Anyway, what I said about style during the session is, of course, do not listen to younger journalists giving advice on how the older women dress, you follow your heart. Yes, look in the mirror and be honest about your body shape, but say to your self, what do I really want to look like?  How do I want to feel as I go out and about, and then go experiment, frugally, through shopping in a charity shop.

The thing is with advice given, either through journalism, blogs or books, or even from the likes of me, is most advice does not take into account the differences there are between us as we age. I was rather taken by one of Tricia Cusden’s interviewees Ashton Applewhite of This Chair Rocks fame, she’s a great advocate against ageism, and in her session with Tricia she brought up the notion of intersectionality and ageism, which I think, I just about understand as the fact that there is no one way of ageing because into ageing you must bring class, nationhood, culture, education, race, ethnicity, body shape, health, illness, poverty, wealth and so on and so on, which means in effect that as we age the differences grow and increase rather than diminish. So to bundle us up into age groups of 65+  is so very wrong and, without a doubt, any advice for a 60yr-old or a 70-yr-old to wear x is nonsense – nothing is set in stone for us as we age, and that definitely includes what we wear! So, follow your heart!

Of course, I also have said, and don’t think I said this to Tricia that you should take just a little notice of what is going on around you in the fashion world.  I do read Vogue occasionally (only when it’s reduced) and shout at it as well – what ridiculous prices, but even so I like to see what’s at the cutting edge of fashion and I do read other bloggers and I do like Alyson Walsh a fashion journalist with her blog, Thats Not My Age. I particularly like the way she set out some ideas about different style tribes in her book Style Forever and I get that because there are style tribes all around us.  Her tribes include: The Casual Glamour Puss. Oh I wish. The Older and Bolder brigade – they would be the Ageing Fashionistas but that you have to be careful with as one doesn’t want to look too bizarre! The Gentlewoman – now Alyson Walsh is a perfect example of that slightly nonchalant elegance, she carries that off well but she’s tall, so she can. And then there is The Ageless Rocker – sigh, that’s exactly how I want to look, that’s my heart’s desire, but whether I achieve that is another thing! Personally, I’d add the Sporty Type tribe, and then there is the Countrywoman tribe, which I see in some towns in East Sussex.

But note there are no ‘wear the usual jeans, put on a top and grab that jacket and /or coat’ in Walsh’s style tribes, which you think you would never… and yet there have been times these past few months… But that won’t be happening from now on.

Yes, the times they are achanging and we will all one day be vaccinated, and by all I don’t mean just one or two countries but the whole world (and to be real I think that will be next year or 2023 for the whole world to be covered). But we must look ahead with hope, and realise that the time will come when this is all over for everyone and we can just be carefree and go where we want.

In the meantime for those of you in countries where numbers are still high, we can still think about new ventures and plan some trips (how good is that) and think of meeting up and wearing our clothes out and about with style and pzazz!

But tell me do you struggle with your style? Just because I do, doesn’t mean you do, but it’s always interesting to hear of how other women endeavour to look good.

That’s all for now. With love, Penny, the Frugalfashionshopper

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50 thoughts on “Style? And how to get it sorted – or not!

  • 29th April 2021 at 8:26 am

    I have recently fallen into the “wearing a fleece to visit a friend because it’s easy, warm and comfortable” trap!
    (My fleece only ever went out on long walks in the country in the past).
    I do need a new smart jacket which can take a bit of rain while we are still having to meet outside, but which somehow looks smart enough to go anywhere. I am 73, but would prefer to look a young stylish 73 rather an a shapeless frump.

    • 30th April 2021 at 7:12 am

      Oh yes, totally with you here, it’s so easy to pick up a warm coat (actually quite necessary on the seafront) and fling it on over the usual jeans, which is what I was doing most of the time through these lockdown months. And yes the thing about a fleece is that it is shapeless.

      I agree that at nearly 75, and you at 73, the aim is to be stylish, in whatever way we want, but stylish nevertheless. Yes to a smart jacket – go for it 🙂

  • 29th April 2021 at 9:02 am

    Hi Penny, your haircut and the waves are lovely and a great length. I’m getting my long hair cut on Saturday, probably to a similar length as yours. It hasn’t been properly cut and coloured for over 18 months but I’m unlikely to get any more highlights now they’ve grown out. After years of having it cut in a bob, people I haven’t seen in ages now say they like it long and not to cut it! I dipped in briefly to your session with Tricia but had to leave early to go and get my second Covid jab (YAY!). I’ll catch up with what I missed on YouTube. It was good to hear what you were saying about charity shopping and your style. A couple of weeks ago I bought a skirt and jacket online from our local Air Ambulance charity. The skirt I’ll keep but the jacket can go to BHF. I’m unlikely to get out and about much this year as I’m about to have my second knee replacement (the first was immediately before the first lockdown!) but I’ll keep on looking in online charity shops as well as the occasional regular online shop purchase as so much has been saved this year with not going out and I do like clothes! Keep well, Jane.

    • 30th April 2021 at 7:18 am

      First of all, sorry to hear about the knee, those leg joints are tricky as we age, aren’t they. Good luck with all that.

      And how very similar we are in not going to the hairdressers for 18 months! I kept saying I’m keeping it long but I realise now it was getting quite straggly, funnily enough I think I could have had another couple of inches off, but I will never ever go back to what I always had which was a bob with a fringe. And good to hear you’ll attempt to continue charity shop shopping online.

      All the very best to you Jane

  • 29th April 2021 at 9:19 am

    Hi Penny. Your hair looks great. I’ve had a hair cut too. But I’ve had to give up wearing skinny jeans, because I realised they were contributing significantly to my knee pain. Annoyingly it was just after I finally completed a collection that covered every need, all from eBay or charity shops, so I’m giving them all away and am slowly replacing them with Mom jeans from eBay. I tried a few skirts but I just don’t get on with tights, and I prefer skirts with boots so they won’t work for summer either. But I am resigning myself to the fact that being pain-free is more important than looking good, although actually I realise I quite like Mom jeans – they just need styling properly. And I’ve bought a few pairs of silk or cotton wide leg trousers for summer. Not the most flattering with loose silk tops, but I love the way they move and feel on the skin, but I mostly spend time in the garden where only the neighbours see me, so as long as I like the clothes I’m wearing I feel fine. I can’t wear clothes I don’t like no matter how comfortable they are even if no one is going to see me that day and I always colour co-ordinate, so I suppose I am pleasing msyelf, which I do in most areas of life, I realise. Good job I live alone! xx

    • 30th April 2021 at 7:30 am

      Hi Umi, it’s great to hear from you! Sorry to hear about the knee – those joints as we age, I have twinges every now and then in one hip and go, oh no….

      Interesting, I now wear stretchy jeans, I mean I still like skinnies but with my going up one size, I found M&S jeans very good and will give you a link to them. But I must not wear these every single day, which I was! Mind you, in the depths of the winter I wear leggings and thick socks with my heavier winter skirts and I find this way of dressing both comfortable and warm. My hair, btw, could the been cut just a wee bit shorter, isn’t it nice to do something more normal although I wore my cloth mask throughout even when my hair was being washed. One day…..

      All the very best 🙂

      P.S. I see that there are M&S mom jeans at a higher price but these are the Sienna jeans that I wear that have a stretchy waist – so essential!


  • 29th April 2021 at 9:20 am

    I’ve always struggled with style. Like you, I’ve always wanted to be a rock star/goth but now I’m 80 am sort of giving up. Being over 6′ has meant that buying clothes/shoes has always been difficult and for years I rarely went in a shop as it was too upsetting really and I had to stick to tops and bottoms. In the 70s Long Tall Sally appeared and I could have cried with relief! But now I just wear their jeans (not skinnies) as they’re so lovely and long, plus sweaters/t-shirts from anywhere as long as they aren’t baggy. I’ve also got used to sleeves not being long enough. Love bright colours. However, I do know what my style is because I took a couple of classes with the local House of Colour representative – they are just amazing with colours and style. And because there are two or three other people in the same class, you can see their magic working. I love clothes, skincare, makeup but have felt rather invisible for a couple of decades now. Anyway, best wishes. Enjoy the summer.

    • 30th April 2021 at 7:36 am

      Hi Ann, and greetings! It’s so good to meet someone who aspires to the same look! Actually I’d say don’t give up entirely, as maybe a slightly edgy jacket, with your jeans, or some stunning flat shoes. I aspire to Doc Martins or something similar, and I always think trainers or something chunky on one’s feet gives some pzazz to an outfit.

      Interesting you’ve done a couple of classes on colours. I could probably do with some help, although I manage to find what I like best – yellow!

      I bet you were stunning with your height – and probably still are. All the very best to you 🙂

      • 30th April 2021 at 8:09 am

        Thank you so much and how kind you are. This seems to be a lovely community you’ve created and I really enjoy reading your posts. Congratulations.
        Have fun,

  • 29th April 2021 at 9:51 am

    Hi Penny I caught your Zoom with Tricia on You Tube and you were great so don’t sweat that particular small stuff. This style thing can be tricky because I don’t necessarily wake up every day feeling like the same style person. There is maybe an element of Mr Benn (1970’s childrens’ programme) in all of us: Who do I want to be today? At work it was easy because you could be the role not the person, but who are you when you don’t have a defined role? Is the world your oyster or are you struggling to know who you are? Clothes can be so exciting or terrifying depending on your point of view. I’m pretty much a classic with a twist, embraced the grey and happy to have settled into my own style over time with a few twiddly bits. I do like a hat and quirky ankle boots. My main struggle is knowing what is appropriate for the occasion, especially in these chilly garden meetings. Maybe that’s a whole new look? I’m off to dig out my pashmina…

    • 30th April 2021 at 7:55 am

      Pamela, hi and thank you for those kind words about my performance, maybe if I did this kind of thing more often I’d be more confident. I mean we’ve had months of not meeting up with people and conversing normally. Anyway, the anxiety is all in the waiting to do it, once I started the session it was a really nice thing to do, but my first love will always be writing 🙂

      I think you’ve really hit the proverbial, as in, I really like the idea that we are all, or could be, a little bit like Mr Benn – who do I want to be today? I like the idea of classic with a twist, but I am so with you on the chilly garden meet-ups. On Saturday it’s my grandson’s 15th and we’re meeting at my daughters outside and oh blast, rain is forecast! I think it’s the waterproof wrap-up gear once again!

      All the very best 🙂

  • 29th April 2021 at 9:59 am

    Hi Penny,
    I’d never heard of you before your LFF interview with Tricia (sorry!). All I can say is that I found you to be amazingly funny, insightful, thoughtful and truly daring when it comes to fashion and aging. Mr F didn’t do you justice when he said you’d done ok on the YouTube interview! I’m not a charity shop user as sadly here in our part of France they are thin on the ground but I make sure I buy good quality stuff which lasts for years and I usually buy in the sales (I’ve got items in my wardrobe dating back 20+ years which I still wear and love) and when things no longer fit or please me I donate them to Emmäus. All in a good cause. Anyway, thanks to your LFF interview I am now a follower of your blog.

    • 30th April 2021 at 8:13 am

      Hi Anne and greetings, and thank you for your very kind words and for following my blog!

      How lovely that you live in France, and funnily enough I have a friend who also lives in France in Moissac, with a house near the Canal du Midi, and she helps run a charity shop (for cats – neutering them etc) in a little village about half an hour’s drive away. I’ve got some great bargains there. I wonder when I’ll get there again – hopefully 2022 or maybe 2023?

      Emmaus is such a good charity isn’t it, we have a good one here on the outskirts of Brighton.

      All the very best to you, Anne 🙂

  • 29th April 2021 at 10:08 am

    I love your hair like that! It has got gorgeous waves! How good can it feel to go to the hairdresser right! Love that skirt, gorgeous colors! Have a great day Penny!

    • 30th April 2021 at 8:17 am

      Hi Nancy and thanks for your kind words about the hair – the hairdresser used tongs so as I don’t have any I probably won’t get that exact look again, but I think it will be a bit wavy if I dry it naturally and twist it a bit. Think it could have been a couple of inches shorter – hey ho, back to the hairdresser I go!

      Thanks again and have a great weekend 🙂

  • 29th April 2021 at 10:24 am

    Hi Penny
    It was lovely to “meet” you on Tuesday talking to Tricia. You did so well.
    Also it was great to have a comment from you on Facebook about my 1965 Harris tweed jacket. 😉
    Your hair looks gorgeous with the kinks in it too. X

    • 30th April 2021 at 3:30 pm

      Hi Ellie and thank you so much for your kind words. The waves have lessened somewhat and I shall have another 2″ off I think, but thanks!

      I thought your jacket was amazing.

      All the very best 🙂

  • 29th April 2021 at 11:30 am

    I saw you talking to Tricia & I thought you did very well. Not sure T is convinced ; she has a ££££ Gucci handbag! One thing I noticed was that apart from the deep red skirt everything was basically black & I do know you like colour! I looked at Catherine’s blog and wondered if we are getting too hung up on semantics. Surely the clothes we choose to wear show our style if they are truly what we like and not just following outdated advice about what’s appropriate or fashionable. My style is dresses and cardies as you know & I like a lot of colour co-ordination & jewellery. Have I ‘styled’ myself or just worn what I feel suits me, and does it matter? I just have the confidence not to worry too much what others think or do, perhaps that’s what really counts.
    What wonderfully thick hair you have – so fortunate! I’ve just had mine cut but not the short crop I used to like because my ears are now big and – I think – ugly. I bet no one else notices. I said something to a person about my big nose and she said ‘ Oh, I’ve never thought of you as having a big nose’! What fools we are to ourselves sometimes.
    As you say any idea of what is ‘suitable’ for any age group is nonsense. We actually get more differentiated as we age because we have had different lives and experiences. The horrible habit of lumping us all together as ‘older people’ is so wrong. I have had one pair of jeans in my entire life; I bought them about 8 years ago and they only get worn for walking or messing about in boats. I find them quite uncomfortable as I don’t like the stiff waistband or the tight crotch. I never understand what’s supposed to be comfortable about them. Perhaps they’ve not been washed enough!
    Your hair is wonderfully thick, lucky you. What about old fashioned hair rags to get the kinked look??

    • 30th April 2021 at 3:45 pm

      Oh we are very different, Tricia and me, but we’re good friends all the same, not that we’ve met up for ages. I don’t always agree with Catherine but that blog of hers inspired me to write about style as I definitely have been wearing some rather boring items when in fact I have so many stunning outfits that reflect my style. What my clothing needs are opportunities, which we’ve all been rather short of last year! But it’s good to hear your clear idea of what you like to wear – good for you. Jeans though should not be tight around the crotch and M&S is quite good in having jeans that ‘stretch’. Mom jeans especially are quite roomy.

      I’m glad you agree with me that as we age we become even more diverse/different in our approach to life and ageing. Lumping us altogether in ‘age groups’ is just the pits. I’m definitely in the ‘old’ age group with my 75th birthday coming up, and yet I am like so many people as I see ‘old age’ as 10 years away. I shall keep up with the weights and Pilates and aim to do some exercises right now!

      Thank you Lynda re: my hair, it’s all due to my mother passing me that hairy gene for which I thank her. And don’t forget that hairiness is the penalty for thick hair – I have it everywhere! Swings and roundabouts!

      Have a good weekend 🙂

  • 29th April 2021 at 12:19 pm

    Hello from Southern California, Penny! Your hair looks beautiful! Love the color and style! The look suits you. I’m thinking you have a lot of versatility, too, with that length. You look absolutely current!
    “Personal style”? My preferences seem to be determined by “my person” and what I want to convey. I’m short (5’), 3rd generation Asian-American, and live in a coastal area. I would like to be taken seriously and to feel current and put-together, even in jeans! ☺️ This probably stems from teaching high school biology where a majority of the students were taller then me!
    To that end and for my smaller frame, I stick to simple outfits. For what might seem boring and dull, I try to create interest by the cut, fit, color, and proportion. I still bring out my 20 yr. old denim, black linen, and khaki overalls with a snug fitting tee shirt underneath. That proportion of snug and baggy (comfortable!) seems to keep me from looking too sloppy. I have found a few brands of jeans that fit my 72 year old body that are comfortable, not binding, and still stylish. I like stripe tops in tee shirts and button downs otherwise I stick to solid colors. With the Southern California, coastal town lifestyle, I try to keep neat, trim, and put together; not thrown together with flip flops. I like to look intentional.
    I am a frugal shopper and that’s why I love your blog and how you pull together your look/style. I can shop for hours and not buy a thing. (“Thank goodness!”, says the husband.). You kindly mentioned a few posts back that I seem to know my style. If that’s true, it has happened with my aging. It is such a blessing to look back on an accumulation of experiences that have defined my life, my person, and my style.
    Once again, thank you for such a thoughtful post and the space to outline my thoughts. Stay well…Charlene

    • 2nd May 2021 at 8:38 am

      Hi Charlene – and greetings from Brighton – how lovely to hear from you! I think from that description you must have loads of style. It all sounds so good to me as you’ve obviously looked in the mirror and recognised who you are and then gone for it.

      Thanks you so much for your kind words and have a lovely week to come 🙂

      • 3rd May 2021 at 1:11 am

        I just finished viewing your interview with Tricia! I loved hearing your actual voice and seeing your mannerisms, Penny!. Your writing and your words express your heart so well and here, live with Tricia, I found the same consistency of thoughtfulness and expression. Well done, Penny! Your examples and sincerity in this interview will bring new members to your blog community, I’m sure!
        I also read Catherine’s blog post about “style vs wearing”. Some good points covered with a flippant humor. Not 100% on board but it was interesting.
        I am happy that others appreciate your style, styling, and heart as I do, Penny. You did well on the interview! So glad that you shared it!
        It’s Sunday evening here…let’s have a good first week of May! Charlene

  • 29th April 2021 at 2:47 pm

    Looking good long hair can look droopy but it suits you or you suit it, as we say in Scotland. I cut my own hair normally but I might let it grow a bit for the Summer. I agree about fashion writers they are only interested in selling, following fashion has nothing to do with style. I’m quite a plain dresser but I do like interesting accessories necklaces, bangles and bags. I tend towards military style my favourite was a Chairman Mao suit my bil, who was in the merchant navy, brought back for me, fitted perfectly as I’m 5ft 4. I also had an US private’s suit once upon a time and a Royal Air Force great coat in that lovely blue grey. I wouldn’t have the nerve now. I balk at looking eccentric but I’m glad I once was. Enjoy your freedom.

    • 30th April 2021 at 4:00 pm

      Oooh that military style sounds interesting and not exactly eccentric, but cool, so cool.

      Decades ago I used to buy clothes in a shop called Laurence Corner that had a lot of military gear, I remember buying a sailor’s pair of navy wool trousers – the ones with the interesting buttons and flap at the front (very slimming) and wide, wide legs. Plus I had a brilliant military great coat from there as well.

      Thanks I will enjoy the freedom, and yet one is always aware that the virus is there in the background, somewhere, maybe more so abroad, but it hasn’t gone yet – the new normal.

      Thanks again and have a good weekend 🙂

      • 1st May 2021 at 9:54 am

        I had white, I suppose they were real bell bottoms, from Laurence Corner,

        • 2nd May 2021 at 8:39 am

          Oh my word, yes, of course! Mine were the navy blue wool bell bottoms.

  • 29th April 2021 at 10:36 pm

    Such a wonderful interview. It was great listening to you speak about your passion like that. When I tell someone that 95% of my clothes are from thrift (charity) shops, there are always surprised looks. Like you, I go for the fabric and colour first, then a deeper dive into the seams and fabric content labels. I always say that if there is nothing this time, I don’t spend money just because it is cheaper. My style has changed over the years according to the jobs that I have had. The underlying theme however is always with a feminine twist and skirts and dresses have played a large part through the years. I am so looking forward to have the chance to get them out there again soon. We are still in a total lockdown here in Ontario again, and for a few more weeks to come. I am afraid that when I can go shopping again I just might overdo it, not that I need any new things. I was thrilled to see you in my inbox and was worried that you were not well. Good to see my worries were unfounded.

    • 2nd May 2021 at 8:52 am

      It’s so good to hear from another charity shop shopper, and we’re very similar as my styles have certainly varied over the years, which is heartening to think that one can develop and change in so many ways as we age. Makes life interesting, and then with our clothes buying we are also contributing to a charity. As I often say its a win-win 🙂

      And no need to worry as we’re very fortunate in the UK to be able to begin to behave more normally and go out and about, and things just got in the way. But thank you so much for your concern – you take care over there in Canada. All the very best 🙂

  • 30th April 2021 at 1:43 am

    I loved watching in on Tricia’s Super Troopers Penny!! It was wonderful to hear your voice and see some of your treasures in tow!!

    • 2nd May 2021 at 8:46 am

      Thank you so much Jodie, glad it went well and you enjoyed watching 🙂

  • 30th April 2021 at 6:51 am

    Hi Penny. Lovely new skirt. I do envy you the ability to wear straight skirts as I’ve always had stumpy legs. But perhaps I should give them another try. The Snagtights brand is giving me hope re comfortable tights with lots of lovely colours. And perhaps it doesn’t matter any more as I much doubt that anyone looks at my 67 year old legs 😄. I will watch your interview with interest. I’ve just spent five minutes trying to put together a sentence of what my style actually is, but can’t! It’s boho with a sardonic twist? However being a 5’2” Englishwoman, I can’t pretty well say I haven’t managed to pull it off that successfully 😂. I’ll keep going though as I haven’t anything else to do. If you do want to see my attempts at style, I go under the name of S.Trish on IG. I sew my own clothes now, as sizing is getting more difficult for me. Things are just too long so I must now be a petite. I never used to have this problem even with M&S so I do think that sizing has changed, and I’m not even really petite, just short. I’m really interested by all the different views your respondents give, which just shows that we’re not a homogeneous blob of older women, but all different in our views and expectations. Thanks for your always interesting blog, the different places you point me to, the lovely photos, and the opportunity to have a say. Stay well, Trish S.

    • 2nd May 2021 at 9:01 am

      Oooh love the idea of boho with a sardonic twist, sounds so interesting! I have joined your IG so I hope to see more of your style there 🙂

      And you’re so right, we are all so different as we age, which although there is a push for this to be recognised I think it is so easy for those who are younger, and especially some policy makers, to lump us all together in the demographic groups of 65+, 75+ and 85+

      Thanks so much for your kind words about the blog – much appreciated. You stay well too 🙂

  • 30th April 2021 at 9:35 am

    Hi Penny, I loved your blog yesterday, and it was so nice to see you and some of your finds “ live” on Tricia Cusden. Thinking about style I find it definitely depends on my mood that day! Is it a rather classic smart black and white jacket over black jumper and black trousers with pearl earrings or if I,m meeting my lovely “ arty “ friend , I need my long flowy turquoise top (many years old purchased from Hampstead Bazaar Sale in Brighton, sadly missed) and cream linen trousers plus an interesting necklace. With my clothes loving sister it’s my latest clothing acquisition and endless talk about what goes with what! And so on, To me this is the joy of charity shopping ,you can be just who you want to be ,and really that’s what being a woman is all about isn’t,t it? Best wishes Judy S

    • 2nd May 2021 at 9:07 am

      Thank you Judy, phew, I’m glad it went well!

      Yes, there are lots of things that come along day to day that makes one say, yes, it’s this item today, or that skirt, or this dress. And I so agree there’s a joy to charity shop shopping in the choice and the number of items that are there that just might be the one you find and go yay and three cheers!

      Have a good Sunday and Monday – hope it doesn’t rain too much!

  • 30th April 2021 at 1:44 pm

    Hi Penny, I saw your talk with Tricia on youtube and thought it was great. I’ve been following you for a while now and am also a member of Tricia’s ‘Super Troopers’. I love your style and would say mine is quite similar – sort of rock chick/quirky. Like you I only feel I’ve found my authentic style since retirement from teaching eight years ago (I’m 67). Before that I wore quite boring, conventional stuff. I’m also an avid charity shop/eBay shopper and I’m so concerned about climate change that I actually feel guilty now if I buy anything new! I was thinking about your ‘look’ and decided it reminded me it a bit of the style of Helena Bonham Carter. What do you think? All the best to you, Gill x

    • 2nd May 2021 at 9:17 am

      Hi Gill, and so good to meet another aspirational rock chick/quirky woman which, like you, no way could I have dressed like that when I was working. I too feel guilty when buying new clothes. But gosh had never thought I was like Helen Bonham Carter, amazing and thanks, (although I’m not like that every day) but oh my word I do aspire…. And I think that’s a good thing as that means we’re never dull!

      All the very best to you too Gill 🙂

  • 30th April 2021 at 3:25 pm

    Your hair looks so fabulous!

    I like the sound of the Alyson Walsh’s book – and the ‘style tribes’; must see if I can get hold of a copy. I like her fashion journalism and her blog, too.

    I expect we all have our own style and that some of us follow fashion quite slavishly; even as we age and some of us don’t. I’m with you in that I try to dress for my body shape; I like colourful clothing but it has to be comfortable and to fit well. I also like to buy secondhand as much as I can. I occasionally look to see what’s ‘fashionable’ or what is on trend; but find I’m doing it less which must mean I’ve found my own style…

    It’s so good life is feeling a bit more ‘normal’ now!

    • 2nd May 2021 at 9:23 am

      Thank you so much Veronica, re: the hair, and yes, Alyson Walsh’s book is really good and I rate it highly https://www.amazon.co.uk/Style-Forever-Look-Fabulous-Every/dp/1784880000

      I think you’ve got style in buckets and I love the way you look and the jackets, oh the jackets…… and also the jewellery you have. So stylish and just right for you.

      Isn’t it amazing to get out more and do some nearly normal things – take care xxx

  • 30th April 2021 at 3:51 pm

    Hi Penny. Really enjoyed your interview with Tricia. great seeing you live. lots of good pointers. I wish there were more such shops around here. There were a few which were connected with hospitals but when they closed so did the shop. some had not just clothing but things for the home as well, even furniture. since retirement I have been wearing jeans a lot of the time. I don’t find them all that comfortable to wear around the house, too confining. I do wear them when I go out, but I try to bring them up a notch with the rest of my outfit, often with a cashmere sweater, a scarf or a blazer. never with athletic shoes clearly meant for the gym. not that I go to the gym now, I prefer walking and using some weights at home, and yoga classes. When the occasion is a little more dressy I like to wear a dress, especially in the warmer weather. I am having a hard time not wearing makeup for the past couple of weeks. as I had mentioned, I am having some eye surgery, so no eye makeup and I have stopped wearing foundation as well as it is just too hard to remove and I do not want to cause any trauma to the area. just moisturizer, filling in my brows and I do wear lipstick. this is a little crazy since most of the time I am wearing a mask when I’m out. the funny thing is that for years I was not that big a fan of lipstick, only after I let my hair go gray did I begin wearing red lipstick because of the complements I received. I suppose I wear it for myself. I try to go out in public wearing at least some makeup, earrings and a little perfume. my second surgery is on May 6 so this is not forever. I have not purchased much in the way of clothing recently. I did buy a linen shirt from Eileen Fisher Renew. This is one of the more ethical fashion brands , although their prices are usually too high for my budget. they do however take back their clothing and offer it for sale in the Renew line for far less money. in the case of my shirt is has been overdyed to a lovely shade of indigo. I like the idea that it won’t be going into a landfill. And you hair looks great! nothing like a good haircut!
    Happy Spring! Darby

    • 2nd May 2021 at 9:36 am

      Hi Derby – it’s lovely to hear about you and your life. Maybe those shops connected to hospitals will open again once the pandemic loosens its grip in the US – hope so.

      Yes, I do my weights at home and probably won’t return to a gym, plus the Zoom Pilates has worked so well, our teacher is going to continue these for the duration.

      I feel for you in the not being able to wear the eye-makeup as I feel I’m not who I am at all, when I look in the mirror without the makeup. But hopefully you’ll have the second eye done and then after a time you’ll be able to go back to wearing the eye makeup. But totally understand how you feel.

      It sounds as though you’ve got bags of style Derby – I think like you if I ever buy anything new it will have to be from someone ethical with a sustainable and low carbon footprint clothing line.

      Thanks btw, for the kind words about the hair – it was time to cut it!

      You take care 🙂

  • 30th April 2021 at 5:19 pm

    I’ve gotten pretty good about what I like and don’t like on me and my closet reflects that. I am struggling with being frugal lately so I really need to change that. The ease of clicking add to cart is not a good thing for me. You look lovely with your new haircut.

    • 2nd May 2021 at 8:45 am

      I can see from your blog that you’ve got your style absolutely sorted as you always looks so fresh and neat and stylish.

      Thank you so much Mireille re: the hair 🙂

  • 1st May 2021 at 1:55 pm

    Your hair looks amazing! It’s such a lift I find when we chop off just a few inches- but don’t go shorter! You suit long hair so much- and you hair is in such gorgeous condition- luscious! Have a great weekend and thanks so much for linking up!

    • 2nd May 2021 at 8:43 am

      Thank you so much Lucy – the hair was getting quite droopy so it was good to get it cut but I’ll stick to this length.

      And it’s a pleasure to link up – have a good rest of the weekend 🙂

  • 1st May 2021 at 4:50 pm

    Your hair is fab, Penny! I also read Atypical60 and, as you say, Catherine is a brilliant blogger. I thought her post about ‘style v wearing’ was thought provoking. My style is probably a bit of a ‘mishmash’ but my friends have said that my USP(!!!) is wearing scarves and silver bracelets/bangles. I do love to stack them on both wrists. Now I’m off to watch you on YouTube.

    • 2nd May 2021 at 8:41 am

      Thank you so much June, yes, I really got too far down the road of just wearing a pair of jeans day in and day out – that’s changing now we can go out with purpose to an appointment or to see a friend more.

      Love the thought of your sliver bangles stacking up on your wrists! Enjoy your walks and hope it doesn’t rain too much – thinking of the muddy dog!

  • 2nd May 2021 at 9:04 pm

    What a cool haircut! I like to look at other’s style too, on Pinterest, but after all, style is a very personal thing, part of our identity. So it’s great when we create our own style instead of following trends 🙂

    xx Dasynka

  • 4th May 2021 at 7:17 am

    Hello Penny , I so enjoyed your interview with Tricia and your ideas on thrift shop buying.
    I agree that our take on style evolves over time . We both share a love of interesting skirts , they are so versatile with different tops . Your hair looks lovely , I must agree I do like it a bit shorter. Look forward to your outfits as you are out and about again.

    • 4th May 2021 at 7:31 am

      Thank you so much Jill. I was so nervous waiting to do it, but when it started I forgot the nerves and it was lovely to chat and meet up with some of Tricia’s ‘troopers’.

      Thanks re: the hair and actually I think it could have been cut a couple of inches shorter – so will go back for that.

      I have decided to be quite strict with myself about buying even with buying 2nd-hand, so there’ll be a lot of shopping my wardrobe!

  • 21st May 2021 at 12:27 pm

    Wow the black tops, jacket and skirt with tops and sunglasses; lovely you are. Super click and you always got a bright smile

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