I’m a great fan of Nora Ephron (such a brilliant writer) and especially her book, ‘I Feel Bad About My Neck and other thoughts on being a woman’. I’ve just got it off the shelf and flicked through it. For me, two of her pieces stand out: there’s the one about the neck and then there’s her piece on maintenance. In her last para of this she says that it’s now eight hours (a week) maintenance and counting and when she’s in her 70s it’ll probably be twice that number of hours.

I’ll tell you what takes up my time, but you don’t have to copy or anything. I write to show how things, and perhaps encourage but no more. But do I spend eight hours and counting? Oh yes. Totally. Way beyond eight hours! So what do I do?

Hair. I’ll do a longer post all about hair products soon, but I’ve just recently changed my hairdresser. The old one would not listen to me. Kept putting in layers and chopping it about. So, I’ve upped sticks and left him. And the new one? He’s good. He listened, cut it well and then said, come back in 3 months. So, not many hours spent there. But then there’s the actual washing and drying at home, and don’t forget finding the right products (more about that soon).  But, because I no longer dye my hair, a small expenditure of time

The hair that’s everywhere else. Oh yes. That. This takes up a lot of my time. I have a thick head of hair which is great, courtesy of my mother who gave me the celtic red hair gene, which leads to a strong hair shaft. And we all want thick hair into our old age, don’t we? But there’s a penalty for this, which is, I have hair everywhere else that needs far more attention than any given to the hair on my head! Legs, even now in my 70s, left to their own devices would look as though they had a thick pelt of fur on them. That’s waxed every 6 weeks. Then there’s the chin, upper lip and neck hair. It’s been electrolysis for 50 years and counting.  Perhaps you think that hasn’t worked?  But when I had dark chin hair (which I did because I plucked my long, but fair, facial hair. Just don’t ever, it went quite stubbly) lasers hadn’t been invented.  And now the hairs are fair once more, electrolysis keeps it at bay. I practically fainted when a friend said why don’t you wax your face?  That would make my hair growth worse. So for me, it’s electrolysis every 4-6 weeks. Then as I get older just as my chin hairs have worsened so has my eyebrow hair. I’m cutting the hairs (I don’t pluck) every other week, it seems. That’s a fair amount of time expenditure, I’d say.

Nails. Just as I have strong hair growth so I have weak nails. This absolutely won’t suit everyone, but I wear gel nail varnish in the colder months.

This type of nail varnish has to be put on and taken off professionally and does eventually wear down the nail layers, but for me it works because it helps my nails grow through the winter beyond the usual splitting and peeling. That means going to the beauty salon every 3-4 weeks (in the winter) then in the summer I’ll have manicures every 6 weeks to keep them in tip-top condition. That’s a fair amount of time, but reasonable, I’d say.

Skincare. Oh yes, I take a lot of time over this.  I cleanse and moisturise night and morning (see below for more details).  But things do change as you age. Wrinkles appear and necks sag, and you have to own this, as this won’t go away (or will it – see below).

The beauty industry is getting better at the use of that dreaded phrase anti-ageing, but I even balk slightly at the words pro-ageing.  Still seems jargon to me. What you want is to feel healthy and look good. Anyway, I’ve resolved to do two things. First is, I have increasing numbers of milia – those white bumps – on my forehead, which are not whiteheads and need professional help to be removed.  I’m going to get some ‘done’ and will report back on this.

And second, just recently I’ve been having more advanced facials. I’ve always loved a facial and have had them for decades. There’s nothing like a hands-on cleanse and face massage. However. Three times now I’ve tried a radio frequency facial. My favourite and trusted beautician (Shelly at Balm) has enormous skills and in the first advanced facial I was given a half-price bespoke facial, which also included a very minor face peel (not the kind that you get in the high-end private clinics that leaves your face red).

But the radio-frequency, well, it’s difficult to give you a sense of before and after, but truly I do think this has tightened the skin around my neck and my jowls. I’m amazed. But, think about it, you exercise your body, the muscles respond, equally, this is designed to exercise the muscles in your face and there is a result.  Yet, I often say own your wrinkles and embrace your ageing, so why am I bothering? Thing is I’m curious, and up for (nearly) everything! So, I tried it, and for me, it worked. But will I fork out loads of dosh for these facials? No, I can’t afford that.  But every now and then, yes, I will have one. Time spent at the beautician? Quite a lot, probably twice a month, if you include all the other things that I get done. Yes, a fair amount of time. But time well spent, as I trust this beauty salon and the beauticians who work there.

And, continuing with skin care, I never sit in the sun. I’m the kind of person who feels ever so slightly vulnerable when in the summer people say, oh, let’s sit outside in the sun.  I do sit with them, but inwardly I’m cringing slightly. Of course, I do go outside lots, and get my Vitamin D that way, but sitting in the sun?  No. My skin got damaged by the sun when I was young. I’m not adding to that damage.

Makeup and its removal thereof. I could never travel light because I have so many products to take with me. A lot are essential though, and to do with the eyes. But let’s start with the morning routine: have shower, splash face and wash it using a little bit of Simple soap, clean eye lids with a special product to keep my my blepharitis under control, put in contacts and moisturise face. Then the makeup, which actually takes no time at all. I do it much faster than I do on the YouTube videos, which I am thrilled to tell you seems to be going well – do have a look if you haven’t already.

Makeup for me is an essential, and like many of you I’d no more walk out of the door unmade up than I would if I was undressed. It just wouldn’t happen. I have a face I expect to see, and that is a made-up face. But are manufacturers of makeup products acknowledging that older women wear makeup?  Apart from Look Fabulous Forever and the occasional sight of Helen Mirren advertising Boots No 7 (does she actually wear that brand) I’m not seeing a lot of mature older faces.  And I do mean older and not 40-50-yr-olds with dyed grey hair. Wake up people, you’re ignoring a potentially quite large market.

But it’s the removal of the makeup in the evening that takes up my time. This begins with taking out the contacts and cleaning them – 10 minutes. Eye makeup remover and cleansing lotion next, and then rigorous use of a particular product for blepharitis to make sure every scrap of makeup is off – 5 minutes at least. Then a hot clean cloth applied to my face for the eyelids (they need warming – see this) and to open the pores – another 5 minutes. Finally, moisturisers for face, neck and eye area. That’s not very frugal because that’s 3 different products but I’ve been doing this for years so it’s not something I’ve just taken to doing. Anyway that’s – 5 minutes, I’d say. And don’t forget the teeth. Another – you get the message – that’s half an hour.

And I never stint, I never miss the routines, ever. That is definitely, a lot of time spent. and btw, in the interests of research (I do it, so you don’t have to!) I watched  a few makeup videos, and was horrified to see one girl giggling away saying she never washed her makeup brushes – oh please! So that’s wash your makeup brushes, and makeup bag, once a week – more time expended!

Exercising the body  I can’t not talk about exercise.  For me it’s Pilates twice a week and I can now do a plank. This is astonishing as when I joined last April, I couldn’t get my body off the floor. I also do stuff at home including weights – and am quite pleased about the state of my arms here.

I’ve worked for those arms, but I’m telling you, if I can do it so can you. But also, and just saying, don’t ever start weights without proper supervision.  And you don’t have to do Pilates; there’s all sorts of different types of classes. There’ll be one for you out there somewhere – you just need to find it. This takes up a lot of my time but I don’t regret a minute of it as it is such an important part of maintenance.  And yes, there’s that neck, but the folds used to be much looser and flabbier and I was definitely more jowly.

My challenge to myself, in April (I’m going away shortly) is to start Park Runs. I really do want to do this, but it will be quite a challenge just to get to the park. But I will try and will let you know how it goes.

Exercising the mind Then there’s this. The thing is always have a project on the go or in development. The YouTube videos are a huge challenge – there’s so much to learn.  But both of us, Mr F who loves editing, and me deciding the subject and filming with my iPhone, we’re up for this. This is very, very time-consuming. Again, it’s all good, we don’t mind the time it takes.

And what about my next project?  Not sure. What if I said something and then never did it?! But on the other hand, I took a long time to change the format of my blog (well over a year, maybe two) and set up videos (ditto). OK, one idea I had is to write a book on ageing.  But on the other hand, there are so many of these out there. Everything about ageing has already been written. What do you think? I’ve wondered whether an earnest book is soon forgotten – what about something with a title like: WTF is this ageing business? Or, Don’t You Wish You’d Said… Oh no, Helen Mirren said that first!!!

I think this project could be in development for some time!  But what interests you and what is your challenge to your self – do let me know!

With love, Penny, the Frugalfashionshopper

P.S.  I’ve made my Instagram icon a bit bigger. Note that my account is private so you have to request first.  Many apologies, but Instagram is a funny old place and I had some peculiar people following me. Nor do I like or am bothered by the numbers game. Consequently, I made the account private, and that’s good because now my account is full of lovely women who are interested in the same things that I’m interested in. You have to have your wits about you to manoeuvre around social media, I think!




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43 thoughts on “Health & Wellbeing Part 2 Maintenance – that’s eight hours and counting!

  • 13th March 2019 at 9:48 am

    It’s amazing how time consuming it is, battling to look presentable. I tackle those witchy hairs on the chin and neck with tweezers, but sometimes, in a different light, I see a really long one and am aghast that I didn’t spot it before!

    I love the Nora Ephron book and I do feel bad about it (my neck) but c’est la vie. I would love to read your book Penny and agree it should have an amusing title. My mum was always going to call hers “I’ll start on Monday” because that was always when she went back on “the diet” for a couple of days.

    I have also changed my hairdresser, not really through choice (she sold her salon and was offering to come to the house, but our kitchen is such a disgrace I couldn’t countenance it…!!). (I am now finally looking into a new kitchen).

    • 15th March 2019 at 3:12 pm

      Yes, so time-consuming! And as for Nora Ephron her writing is just so good.

  • 13th March 2019 at 11:09 am

    Fabulous post, I love hearing about what you and others do, so really hoping that lots of your readers will post.
    Hair for me is a bit of a trial. I no longer dye and I’m grey, a good grey I would say but I seem to change my hairdresser every few years. They start off great and then don’t do what you ask. I was paying £90 a time just for cut and blow-dry in central London but now have gone local again, it’s cheaper but it’s not as good.
    I’ve always had loads of hair everywhere else. When I was little my brothers would tangle the hairs on my arm with the elbow bent and then I wouldn’t be able to stretch it out until the hairs pulled and tugged (they were buggers but I love them). I shaved for years, then waxed, then depilated and now have the Phillips Lumea. It’s great – I wish I’d got it earlier before some of the hairs went white but it’s doing wonders especially for my moustache.
    Like you my nails are weak, very soft and break easily. I have gels done every so often but rather than take them off, I let them grow out and just apply polish on top. Is that lazy? Perhaps, but they don’t break very often.
    My favourite skincare is still Clarins. I keep buying beauty boxes and advent calendars and trying all sorts, but come back to Clarins.
    I haven’t found a foundation that I love yet. I’m using the same Clarins as you at the moment but still not sure that it’s great, it’s clumpy round my nose even though I use primer. In the summer I use Laura Mercier tinted moisturiser which is fabulous, otherwise I like the Bobbi Brown eyeshadow sticks, they’re really easy to use. I don’t like mascara but use it otherwise my eyes look strange without. What do you use? I take it all off with a hot flannel.
    I recently took up tennis again and last year started the Couch to 5k podcast with an eye on doing Parkrun. I’ve never got beyond week 4 but I’ll start again in April when it’s warmer – it helps with the tennis but I’m not really much of a runner, as you can probably guess.
    Sorry if this is too long – I enjoy your blog and long may it continue!

    • 15th March 2019 at 3:20 pm

      Thanks for the tip about the Phillips Lumea. I probably won’t get one as I’m so used to doing what I do, but your brothers……when I was a teenager the hair on my legs was sooo long, the teasing, you can just imagine.

      I’ve never got beyond the 2nd week of Couch to 5K – but will try again in April.

      And I use Look Fabulous Forever’s mascara which is very good. Btw, when I first bought the Clarins Skin Illusion I put it on with a primer and it didn’t go on well. For me it’s better without any primer – have you tried that?

      • 5th April 2019 at 12:52 pm

        Thank you for your reply. I tried not using primer with the Clarins foundation but it wasn’t really any different, the side of my nose still looked very flaky, not a good look at all. I’ve now gone back to my Laura Mercier tinted moisturiser which is so lovely – not sure why I didn’t continue with it, except it is a slightly dark as I usually get a slight tan in summer, so now I mix a little of the Clarins in with it to get a better colour match.

  • 13th March 2019 at 12:49 pm

    It’s good to see someone coming clean (pun intended) about the amount of time it takes to remain presentable. Your regime seems perfectly reasonable to me. And the arms are looking really good!

    • 15th March 2019 at 3:25 pm

      I’m so pleased with the arms – thank you for putting on the right path 🙂

  • 13th March 2019 at 2:21 pm

    Hi Penny………I LOVE your honesty, here in Canada, the majority of women my age, (67) do not wear make up. Or wear just the basic amount, powder, lipstick and maybe mascara, which in my opinion is a waste of time. I have always thought ‘do it properly or don’t bother at all’ I love my make up, and have recently changed all my makeup to Charlotte Tilbury, wich is expensive, however, a little goes a long way, I have had so many compliments since I started using her makeup, that I know I’ve found a winner.
    My cleansing routine like yours, takes an age, but it is so worth it. I have rosacea, so am extra careful not to irritate it, and have a prescription cream that works wonders, but adds to my time in front of the mirror, because I have to wait for it to be absorbed before I start the moisturizer routine. I’m so glad I’m retired, because if I was working, I’d have to get up at dawn to get ready.
    I had a double mastectom because of breast cancer last year, I have now had reconstruction surgery, which meant three separate surgeries, but was so worth it. My surgeon was young, handsome and superb at his craft, so am thrilled with my new boobs. Now I have to decide if I’m going to have 3D nipple tattoos. It has also spurred me on to get the rest of my body in shape to match my perky breasts.
    I am so very grateful to be alive, and want to be the best that I can be physically, mentally and spiritually. I so love how you encourage us all, I for one would buy your book, getting older is something to be embraced and celebrated, so encouragement to be able to do that is awesome.

    • 15th March 2019 at 3:30 pm

      I love your comment. You have done so well Geri – tattooed nipples now there’s a thing 🙂

      One day I will definitely try Charlotte Tilbury. And writing the book? It’ll take a lot of thought and a lot of development but you know, it’s so good to have project 🙂

  • 13th March 2019 at 3:42 pm

    What a lovely crew we are, we oldies! I love this blog and I love to read the comments too. I’m always bemoaning my thin hair but I’m glad to say that I am compensated by less hair elsewhere.

    A couple of years ago when having a facial I was asked if I would like my eyebrows done. I readily agreed. Some cream was put on my brows, and too late I realised it was wax, to which I am massively allergic. Long story short, all my eyebrows fell out. For the past 18 months I have had to guess where my brows were, and have often sported a very odd surprised look. Thank goodness they are now growing again.

    • 15th March 2019 at 3:35 pm

      Oh what a bother re: the eyebrows, sorry to hear!

      Re: thinning hair. Thing is wigs here in the UK are not an alternative, but not so in the States, where wigs are apparently absolutely great, fun to wear and also cheap. That has to be written about.

  • 13th March 2019 at 3:54 pm

    I tried laser hair removal a couple of years ago but it all came back. 😖 the first thing they do is shave you so that makes the hair grow back bristly. It’s a nightmare. It was quite painful too. I may try electrolysis again but I found that painful too. I suppose it depends how professional the beautician is. I mostly bleach any facial hair now but that dosent last.
    I’m growing out my blonde highlights and lowlights and I’m going my natural grey. I’m quite white in the front so it looks good so far. My hairdresser is lovely and does what I want. I have been going to him for nearly 30 years!
    Love reading your blogs Penny. I feel like I know you. X

    • 15th March 2019 at 3:41 pm

      Hi Ellie, I believe that laser treatment works well on dark hair, but gosh I didn’t know they shaved – that must have bene awful and naturally it grows back bristly – hmm. But electrolysis – well when I began treatments, I didn’t have any alternative and I really really wanted to tackle my hair growth. And now I’m just so used to it, it doesn’t feel all that bad. And actually, recently I had some treatments where the power was turned too low and the hairs just didn’t respond all that well and grew back again. I mean they eventually always do but I think you have to feel something to make the regrowth slower and weaker. Fortunately there’s a new beautician so I’ll see how things go with her. Very best to you 🙂

  • 13th March 2019 at 4:13 pm

    Thank you Penny, I had not realised I could make my Instagram feed private, and I am being followed by quite a few American military types whom I don’t know at all! I have gone private, and will gradually block them all.
    Your blog is one of my favourites! Thank you.

    • 15th March 2019 at 4:01 pm

      Honestly, Instagram! When the first man followed me I thought, oh how sweet – he was quite young! But after a few months of this I had so many middle aged military types and young men following, I thought, now wait a minute! Then there’s the comments and requests to ‘message me’. And don’t start me on the sheiks and the ‘famous’ types. So I decided enough, got rid of all of them, and made my account private – and still the majority of requests come from men. So I treat the whole Instagram thing, and being absolutely honest here, as a bit of a farce – and not real at all. But the people in my private account are lovely. Good for you for doing the same 🙂

  • 13th March 2019 at 4:14 pm

    I did enjoy reading this and my first thought was it’s just as well you are retired you are a full time job. I’m 72 but as I’ve never been a high maintenance kind of girl my ‘beauty’ routine is very simple plus I cut my own hair. Being a Scot I too have thick hair slightly wavy therefore quite forgiving when I cut. Years ago in Vogue I read about a way to give yourself a haircut by gathering it all up on the top of the head in a rubber band a cutting straight across. It works for me I often get compliments but more importantly I like the way it looks. I used to be the person who ran home from the salon and stuck my head under a tap. I’ve just had a knee replacement and in the re-education clinic I was one of the younger patients looking at old faces made me wonder why we bother with wrinkle creams most of the ladies looked beautiful.

    • 15th March 2019 at 4:08 pm

      Yes, there’s no need for any anti-wrinkle creams as wrinkles don’t go away, but skin care is good and often it just needs moisturising. I love the sound of your hair cut but wouldn’t have the nerve!

  • 13th March 2019 at 4:32 pm

    Gosh, Penny that is a lot of time!

    I cleanse and moisturise on a twice daily basis; wash my hair every four days and get it cut once a month. I get my eyebrows waxed and tinted once a month. I wear make up daily with an occasional day of rest. I walk about three times a week and do a shift at the food bank once a week where the lifting, walking, carrying and bending is like a work out at the gym!

    I shave my legs and underarms once a week; sometimes less in the winter. I have the opposite to you in that my body hair (in some places) is not as vigorous in its growth as it used to be. I rarely paint my nails; and only paint my toenails in summer. I’d love to have a manicure. I’ve had a pedicure once. I’ve never had a facial. I think I’m a sort of low maintenance…

    Your arms look fabulous!

    • 15th March 2019 at 4:11 pm

      Ah but Vronni, you look wonderful. You’ve got a lovely skin and you seem to glow with health in your pix – must be the walking!

  • 13th March 2019 at 5:22 pm

    Penny, I must admit, after reading your blog, I am lazy with an L. I start an evening beauty routine but after a few days it lapses until I shake myself and start again! My morning is better with day cream and sun cream ~ the latter a must, living on the shores of the Med as I do. As an aside, at seventy four, I was diagnosed with Vit D depletion recently and have to take a dose every twenty eight days! Perhaps my lack/fear of pampering comes from a Cornish Methodist ancestral ethic of anti-vanity although I rarely leave the house without my eyes “on” or my bright red/deep plum lipstick and my short, sharp hair cut (a la Grace Jones) is done every four weeks. However, after reading what you do I’m starting a routine tonight (again!) and digging out my weights (again!) so my arms will look like yours this summer and I will thank you.

    • 15th March 2019 at 4:16 pm

      Well with your hair cut, lipstick and ‘eyes’ I bet you look good. I think it’s all about maintenance rather than pampering although I could possibly have fewer facials but that’s about all!

      And interesting that you were diagnosed with Vit D depletion living on the shores of the Med. I take extra Vit D with my combined calcium and Vitamin D tablets. Something to watch out for.

  • 13th March 2019 at 5:32 pm

    Hello Penny,
    “Unravelling at the edges was my favorite aunt’s take on aging.”
    An antique tapestry becoming more precious with time is my take on the aging process.
    Thanks for your generous sharing with lashes of encouragement as we navigate these waters.

    By the way, these military American men are not who they appear to be on Instagram.
    Beware & Delete! Judy @fancified.ca

    • 15th March 2019 at 4:31 pm

      Ha, Instagram. Did you see the comment and my reply above about Instagram – absolutely they’re not real.

      And thank you for commenting Judy 🙂

  • 13th March 2019 at 5:51 pm

    Well Penny, I’m exhausted just reading about your regimes! It’s strange this should be the topic this week as I was just walking home thinking about how little I spend as I have grey hair, do my own nails and never have facials or treatments. A couple of times I’ve been bought these things as gifts but I don’t find them at all relaxing, rather the opposite. I do the hot cloth thing in the bath every couple of days & I’ve always used moisturiser on my face because it’s dry and feels tight without it. At the moment I’m back to an old bottle of rose oil and some Dove cream as I can’t afford anything more sophisticated at the moment. I just could not spend so much time on my skin although I do wear full make-up every day I’m going out as I’m red and spotty with rosacea. I spend more time on my teeth than I used to but half an hour?
    I think I’ve been lucky with my genes and have never been a sun-worshipper. I’ve never had much body hair but now at 66 I have hardly any at all on my legs or underarms so no shaving or waxing needed! The only thing I know I should be doing is exercise so trying to force myself back to swimming, which I enjoy when I’m doing it.
    I think at some level I feel that spending a lot of time and money on my face and body is morally wrong for me. I’m also very sceptical of the claims of beauticians and therapists. I admit to being vain and I have loads of -mostly second-hand- clothes and jewellery which many people would regard as a waste of money. It is a very interesting that we all have different ideas about what is a good use of money!

    • 15th March 2019 at 4:37 pm

      Oh, no, what a hoot, Lynda, the whole evening ritual takes half an hour and that includes cleaning my teeth along with the removal of contacts and all my eye makeup! Which is bad enough! But not half an hour for teeth!!!

      And I love your honesty about your essentials which are jewellery and 2nd-hand clothes. We all have our favourite things. Mine is face and body (and I admit) 2nd-hand clothes!

  • 13th March 2019 at 8:24 pm

    Thank you for this frank piece about the time spent on maintenance. IMHO as we age we do need to take more time in order to keep looking healthy and active both in mind and body. I have fairly regular pedicures (not always with polish) to keep my feet in good trim for the walking I like to do and do my own fingernails. I am very consistent with cleaning, moisturizing etc my skin both morning and night having had a few scares but I also have the occasional facial which I have found very beneficial in keeping my skin clear. I have thick curly hair which is greying and visit the hairdresser about every 8 weeks for a tidy up. The area I need to do more in is fitness. I do exercises at home, walk but since losing my local yoga teacher have been reluctant/lazy to drive the 40 mins into town. So keep these motivational pieces coming!

    • 15th March 2019 at 4:42 pm

      I went to a wonderful class that I had to leave when I moved to Brighton. And even though I did a bit of floor exercising, and walked a lot, I couldn’t find the right class. It actually took 10 months of searching and by the time I started Pilates I was so weak. A regular class makes all the difference. Good luck with your search 🙂

  • 13th March 2019 at 9:02 pm

    Gosh, I am so haphazard with my night beauty routine that after reading your piece will, as my school teachers used to tell me, try harder! Your blog is always a treat to read and the lovely conversations from your readers always so enjoyable. Onwards and upwards I go with all good intentions and give my skin the treats it deserves. Cheers, Doreen

    • 15th March 2019 at 4:43 pm

      I think it’s just about getting into a routine. Also cleansers and moisturisers don’t have to cost a lot, it’s the attention you give your skin that works I think. Cheers to you Doreen 🙂

  • 13th March 2019 at 10:23 pm

    Penny, I must admit, after reading your blog, I am lazy with an L. I start an evening beauty routine but after a few days it lapses until I shake myself and start again! My morning is better with day cream and sun cream ~ the latter a must, living on the shores of the Med as I do. As an aside, at seventy four, I was diagnosed with Vit D depletion recently and have to take a dose every twenty eight days! Perhaps my lack of need of pampering comes from a Cornish Methodist ancestral ethic of anti- vanity although I rarely leave the house without my eyes “on” or my bright red/deep plum lipstick and my short, sharp hair cut(Grace Jones?) is done every four weeks. However, after reading what you do I’m starting a routine tonight (again!) and digging out my weights so my arms will look like yours this summer.

  • 14th March 2019 at 10:44 am

    Your arms are making me look green! Of envie! I think that if I would count the amount of time I put in ,,maintening,, myself, I would scare myself. But I love to! Nothing wrong with that right. Don’t you just hate it when hairdressers don’t listen! What’s wrong with those people?

    • 15th March 2019 at 4:06 pm

      Honestly my old hairdresser was lovely but he would not listen – sad, really. And I have worked for those arms!

  • 14th March 2019 at 8:19 pm

    Laser Hair Removal – had this done on my legs, bikini line and underarm about 16 years ago, at the Shadi Danin clinic Hove. Best thing I ever did!

    • 15th March 2019 at 4:02 pm

      Yay! Glad to hear! Yes, it works on dark hair.

  • 14th March 2019 at 11:44 pm

    I’ve just started going to a salon once a month for face wax and eyebrow and eyelash dyeing. I come out looking years better. Most mornings it’s about 15-20 minutes exercise, either yoga or light weights, meditation and 15-20 minutes walk. Another walk in the evening if I’m not going out. In winter (it’s still summer in New Zealand), I shall join a gym as it will be too rainy to do regular outside walks. Shave legs etc. Dye hair myself about every 4-5 weeks. Make-up is only a 4-5 minute affair, nearly every day. Wash hair every 2nd day. I can’t do those salon blowdry techniques so I just hair my head down and wave the hairdryer all over my head. Nearly every night take off make-up and tie back hair so I can do the every 2nd day wash. Whew! It all sounds like a lot.

    • 15th March 2019 at 4:04 pm

      Yes, the things we do! But I see this maintenance as essential – our skin, hair and body – it all needs looking after. Thank you for your comment.

  • 16th March 2019 at 5:25 pm

    I’m a 64-year-old Danish woman who has been following your blog for the last couple of years, and with great pleasure. There aren’t many 50+ (let alone 60+, 70+ etc.) women bloggers in Denmark, which is why I have turned to American, English, German etc. alternatives. Now I would like to also follow you on Instagram, and since your IG account is private I’ve applied for access to your profile, but so far without success. I’m not sure whether this is due to some technical issue or simply because you’ve for some reason rejected my application. Maybe I’ve done something wrong when applying – or maybe I’m just too impatient (sorry!)🙂

  • 17th March 2019 at 6:22 pm

    I spend a lot of time and money, on make up (Bare Minerals), hair products and various procedures. I get my nails manicured monthly, my hair blow dried twice a week, a back and shoulder massaged and eyebrows waxed once a month, attend the gym 2-3 times a week and scrupulously remove make up every night. I never venture out without make up and I like a crystal clear facial from time to time. In between I give myself a facial and am currently considering a course of Caci non surgical facials. I will go kicking and screaming into old age!

  • 18th March 2019 at 9:52 pm

    I love your post, am I the only under fifty who reads it?, hope I am still allow to even though I am a bit younger!!! …I find you a total inspiration☺ and actually love you cloth sense too very stylish. ☺☺

  • 19th March 2019 at 1:10 pm

    An interesting post. We all need to do basic maintenance , washing, teeth cleaning etc, to keep healthy, and a bit more time giving some polish to our bodies is a good idea too. It makes me feel nicer about myself and also is probably more pleasant for those looking at me too. I wear make up everyday, always have done and always will(unless I’m very,very ill). Cleansing creams don’t have to be expensive, in fact I read once that it was better to spend more on moisturiser and other creams or lotions that care for the skin than on make-up remover or cleanser, as the latter were removed from the skin, while the former stayed on it.

  • 27th March 2019 at 5:49 pm

    Thank you for this post! Wellness and maintenance can go hand in hand. I appreciate your thoughts on the matter!

  • 5th April 2019 at 9:53 am

    Fantastic post. We all have to make the best of ourselves I think but that also means doing what we a re comfortable with and what we can afford. Being healthy and confident goes a long way and also being involved in things. I love the way you try new things and document them all here. Keep up the great work. x

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