You know I always say, do as you please and wear what you want! That rule also applies to hair – you do as you feel you should. Because, only you will know when it’s right to go grey and au naturel. And especially, don’t listen to anyone extolling the virtues of going grey. I even used to put up counter arguments on Alyson Walsh’s esteemed blog That’s Not My Age, for sustaining the dyed hair, but somehow we seemed to have stopped the dye around the same time – and feel the same way – that grey is good. Here’s a post about her grey hair. Actually I love the colour my hair is now.

And am amazed at how yellow my hair used to be!

That’s one crazy hat I don’t have any more. And here’s one I have kept – but note the yellow tinge!

Yes, it was October 2016 when I last put dye on my hair and because I don’t crop it short it still has a slight tinge on the ends.

That’s me, btw, close-up and no filters, aged 72. And exactly why I do YouTube videos for all of you to see a real 70-year-old putting on make-up. One coming tomorrow (27 Feb) and this time I mean it! My channel is the very definition of a slow channel as I’ve not uploaded for a month, but there’s so much to learn on the technical side  and I’ve discarded several. And, oh my, I had no idea my voice sounded like that!  It is quite shock when you hear your voice as others hear it!

Back to hair 🙂

I think my hair with its white streak is OK and I’d like to reassure those of you teetering on the brink of not dyeing. It’s actually i) quite liberating to not dye, ii) it really is better for your pocket and iii) with a good cut and makeup you do not disappear.  What I used to think was, would I look like the ubiquitous permed short hair type? And of course, I don’t. And nor will you!

But you’ll know when!  So I want to say – you do as you think best! Because it is the best.

Btw, I do wash my hair with some white hair specific products. The place I get these is from White Hot Hair – they’re good.  And note I once wrote about their products and after the post was written White Hot Hair sent me the two products I mentioned.  No payment or affiliations though, as my blog is not selling anything (see last post but we’ve got to say if we receive anything, which I think is good and  correct). And I’ve just changed my hairdresser and again am using one of their white hair specific products.  What they do is get rid of the brassy tones and highlight the white, which is not a dye, apparently 🙂

That’s all for now but thank you for all those lovely comments on the last post – I appreciate all my readers very much 🙂

With love, Penny the Frugalfashionshopper

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29 thoughts on “Grey hair rules – for me, anyway!

  • 26th February 2019 at 11:51 am

    Strange you should be writing about hair Penny as I’m going to have a change at my next appointment. My hair is already white and short but I think it needs to be shorter still but less smooth. Won’t be easy as I have soft hair not the wiry grey stuff which I’d prefer. It seems to be universal that whatever kind of hair you have naturally you want something different!
    I don’t want ‘old lady’ grey hair either but one of the reasons I stopped dyeing was because I didn’t want to join the ranks of the many ladies whose response to greying was to ‘go blonde’. I’m talking nearly 20 years ago ; I think that idea has changed quite a lot. I am sympathetic to those whose hair doesn’t go completely grey, it can be very dispiriting. Hair stylist and colourists can now do so much more for us than before.
    P.s. Decided I like Vronni’s blog; she’s so bold!

    • 28th February 2019 at 8:14 am

      Hair is so crucial to our looks and I resisted going white for ages – and the cut is also so important – good luck with the new look.

      And as for Vronni”s blog it really is one of the best – she doesn’t sell anything and her outfits are amazing, and I think she’s got such a good eye for an outfit – the charity shops around her seem to be better than the ones I visit. But actually I have a lot of biker/rock chic which I’m not wearing enough – must get out and wear those tulle skirts!

  • 26th February 2019 at 12:18 pm

    Penny, I think your natural hair suits your skin tone much better than the blonde used to. I often feel with dyed hair that it is too even to look natural and doesn’t suit people’s natural skin colour. Highlighted hair looks better, especially when they leave some of your natural hair colour in it, but it seems very expensive and has to be done so often!

    I was always too lazy to dye mine, and could never spare the time and money anyway, so it has been greying since I was in my forties. I’ve always loved white hair and can’t wait for mine to turn. Annoyingly my father and brother both went a beautiful silver-white in their thirties and my (younger sister, who still dyes her hair) tells me hers is now naturally white, so I seem to be the one person in the family who still has darker streaks in my hair. But I’ve been lucky in that it’s always looked okay (to me at least) and an air stewardess once even asked me where I got my hair highlighted! 😀

    • 28th February 2019 at 8:18 am

      Your hair is lovely and really nicely highlighted!!!

      Yes, the yellow was so uniformly yellow and now I have a mixture of silver, dead white and grey with a tiny streaks of red/brown/blonde. Susie my daughter said only last week that she thought I’d been spending a fortune getting it highlighted – nope I replied, it’s natural! And so much better this way!

      Thanks so much for the comment x

  • 26th February 2019 at 12:36 pm

    I wish I had the courage to stop having my hair coloured.
    Well done to you,how long did it take to naturally come through?

    • 28th February 2019 at 8:21 am

      Hi Margaret – it’s taken over 2 years, but you can reduce the time if you cut the hair short. All depends on what shade you are now. If you dye blonde going grey is easy but if you dye brunette, it’s much harder. Truly only you will know when the time is right, because that will be the day you do it willingly 🙂

  • 26th February 2019 at 1:01 pm

    I’m happy with my grey/white hair which is very similar in style and texture to yours, Penny. Of course I could look a bit younger if I still dyed it, but if you were darkish it never looks that good, too harsh I think. I sometimes use White Hot Hair products , but one thing I’ve found that really seems to suit my hair now is to rub in a little oil after shampooing instead of conditioner. I use one of those Moroccan oil type blends and it leaves my hair soft and bouncy, tames the flyaway, and doesn’t weigh it down at all.

    • 28th February 2019 at 8:22 am

      I also have flyaway hair – thanks for the tip. So glad you’re happy with your hair – it is so so important 🙂

  • 26th February 2019 at 3:51 pm

    In answer to the lady who wondered how long it took to “grow out” your hair naturally….being a blonde, I started adding low lights and high lights. Before long, I didn’t do any highlighting and voila! Saved a lot of money also! My hair has been white for 15 years… I get many/many compliments on my short “sassy” hair style but, of course, not everyone has the courage to go “white.” They all like it but wish it would be white without the go between “stuff.” I did find that I’m not wearing as much black as I used to; it just feels too stark for my white hair and blue eyes. Just my thoughts…hope these help.

    • 26th February 2019 at 7:07 pm

      I had the colour stripped out of my hair at Tony and Guy. It was then a light blonde so I just let it grow out over about a year. This was 20 years ago so i don’t know if they’d do it now. I just could not cope with having a white ‘blaze’ in the middle of my head like a horse!

    • 28th February 2019 at 8:26 am

      Hello melmi – what a lovely name! And good to hear of your journey to white hair. And yes, I also wear different colours now. I do still wear the black but green used to be my favourite colour, no longer looks as good, but yellow…… White hair and blue eyes, hmm, bet you look good 🙂

  • 26th February 2019 at 4:21 pm

    Experienceing overcast weather, I welcome a silver day. Silver hair is also highly appreciated. Grey, what grey? Judy

    • 28th February 2019 at 8:29 am

      Yes, you’re right I’m silver white – but that’s the front, I’ve also got grey and teeny tiny mix of blonde/red/brown at the back.

      It’s overcast here now with rain forecast this afternoon, but wow has it been warm for this time of the year!

  • 26th February 2019 at 4:53 pm

    You hair is looking fab Penny. Like you I ditched the dye a few years ago and, having been a brunette, went through the tortuous (to me) dye palaver until my hair colour didn’t bear any resemblance to my natural colour. What did it for me was the more I asked for fewer red tones the more red it seemed to get. Enough! My hair is now very similar to Alyson’s, long with mostly grey, silver and touches of natural brown. It takes a bit of holding your nerve to get over the badger phase, but like you not wanting to cut my hair, I did that with temporary colour until the lines had softened and blended in and people were commenting on my lovely (natural) streaks. I completely agree that it is a very individual decision to colour or not to colour but 2-3 years on and I’m the most happy with my hair that I have ever been.

    • 28th February 2019 at 8:31 am

      Yes, two to three years on I’m good with the colour of my hair, and like you I stopped because all of a sudden I felt – enough. Now is the time! It’s a long road but so worth it!

  • 27th February 2019 at 5:42 am

    You’re lucky Penny in that your hair is a lovely consistent light grey all over – I’m afraid of that pepper and salt steely grey look, which can look very harsh and ageing if you have short hair. I don’t think I’ll stop dyeing for a while, at least until I have finished work, but I have been thinking about it.

    • 28th February 2019 at 8:35 am

      No don’t stop dyeing because only you will know when. And I used to get so cross with others extolling the virtues of going grey and white! Actually the whole reason I started dyeing was that my hair in my mid 40s went from glorious red, to auburn to a dreadful gun-metal grey. And then I began the dyeing and didn’t stop until I was 70 and so had no idea what the colour really was. But the later you leave it the whiter you will be. You’ll know, Gail x

      • 28th February 2019 at 1:11 pm

        I don’t agree about ‘dreadful gunmetal grey’ as I think it can look great but of course what matters is the style and condition. Also depends on your make-up and clothes choices. You need to work with your hairdresser when/if you decide to stop dyeing and that it so much easier now. The methods and results from dyeing are so much better now – I look back on photos of myself when I was dyeing to cover up a lot of grey, about 12 years until I was 48, and my hair looks much too ginger to me now!

  • 27th February 2019 at 3:08 pm


    I love your hair and it is SO liberating to be free of dye and worry about roots coming through…

    I find the Provoke range for blonde/silver/platinum hair very good and very reasonable. I get mine from Savers or Bodycare but Superdrug does it, too.

    Have a lovely week and btw I’ll be featuring the nomination etc on my next post around 11th/12th March.

    • 28th February 2019 at 8:37 am

      That’s great Veronica and white hair specific products are so good – will look out for the one you use. Have a lovely week too!


  • 28th February 2019 at 2:29 am

    Talk about a coincidence Penny , I have just given up on growing out to grey and added colour again. The thing is my hair for the most part was a dull brillo pad grey that didn’t suit my warm skin tone one bit. I always admire the beautiful silver tones and even the darker grey on others. I feel I will know when the time is right, I often think of Judith (Style Crone) who didn’t change until her seventies, I think you were the same , so maybe that will be me too.
    On another note I did travel the overland hippie trail back in 1975 .
    Look forward to your next video.

    • 28th February 2019 at 8:45 am

      Oh totally with you on this Jill as in my 40s my hair became that awful gun-metal grey. It went quite dark which didn’t suit me at all! Now the colour is good, I think, because, rather like Judith I left it late.

      Ah the hippy trail – should have done that. However I was quite adventurous as I worked in Switzerland for nearly 2 years as a nurse. It’s really interesting being a working immigrant – I think we should all experience what it is like to be a foreigner as opposed to just visiting and/or holidaying. Perhaps we’d all be a bit more empathetic with our own working immigrants who are so essential to our economy and way of life – will stop there as I could get into quite a rant ………………….!

      Ah, ha the video – rejected that one as well! Sound was so hissy. MOH says it was his mistake – hmmmmmm!

  • 28th February 2019 at 1:59 pm

    I love seeing other women embracing their natural hair, Penny.
    I stopped dying mine when I retired. Of course partly for the cost, but partly because I wanted to see what it really looked like. And I love it. It’s so much less work and worry to embrace the natural!!

    • 2nd March 2019 at 4:10 pm

      Yes, it is so good to be white and/or grey, and when I look back, how artificial the dye was!!!

  • 28th February 2019 at 3:21 pm

    I am in the process of growing out my hair colour which we have always done at home. I have short hair so it will not take more than a few haircuts before I am all natural. I am 74. I think there comes a time when coloured hair can actually age your look.
    I have a question about posture. I believe that , some time ago, you mentioned how you had corrected your own bad posture and I’d like any tips for my husband who is 78 and is quite bent over. He has lost about 4 inches in height the last few years.

    • 2nd March 2019 at 4:09 pm

      Yes, there’s a right time to go grey (or white) and everyone is different. We’ve obviously left it quite late and so there’s less grey and more white which looks good I think.

      My posture has improved a lot since I started Pilates in April of last year. But there are so many reasons why older people get that bent over look, and I think you, first of all, need to check why your husband is the way he is. One reason is lack of muscle tone. Pilates gets at the core muscles and works for me. The classes I go to have a really excellent teacher and I’m very glad to say a lot of men take the class. So if you want to check out a Pilates class, you need to find a good class, sounds obvious but it’s so important. Run a mile if the class teacher just wants you to copy her, as at our age we need a very competent Pilates teacher who will move you into the correct position if you get it wrong.

      Very best to you both and hope you find a solution 🙂

  • 28th February 2019 at 3:38 pm

    I have a lot of greys and currently dye my hair but I’m actually looking forward to turning grey. I hope mine turn out as lovely as yours! I stopped colouring it light because it had started to look too yellow, but it’s in an in-between stage at the moment. Thanks for paving the way so stylishly xx

    • 2nd March 2019 at 4:01 pm

      Hello Maria – I found that my yellow dyed hair and the white that came from not dyeing the hair got me through the in-between stage. Good luck with yours as it is a long process but it’s worth it in the end 🙂

  • 3rd March 2019 at 12:02 pm

    I have a pure white streak at the temple and would LOVE my hair to be this colour all over, but it’s a mixture of grey and brown which is horrible so I have lots of blonde highlights and then use Charles Worthington Ultra Violet products which make it silver. Other times I just have a toner put over the highlights and stay blonde for a while. As soon as the brown has disappeared I shall stop the highlights! Your hair is a gorgeous colour, Penny.

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