Continuing on with the theme of the last post, and how we present an image through our blogs and our curated photos on Instagram, this post is taking the title two ways. The thing is, I often think of my mother and her health issues, which were mainly centred around depression, which got worse as she got older.  Me, I don’t get depressed, but I do get anxious about this and that, and all sorts really, which my mother did also. Yes, I spent most of my youth trying not to be like my mother – you know how teenagers are – and yet I see my mother in my self more and more, and especially as I age. Not only do I look in the mirror and see my mother looking back, I now understand her far more than I ever did, because of the way I feel. Because today I’ve been giving myself a good talking-to as I’m getting really jumpy and nervy about going up to London. You’d think, what! Why? I dunno, I just am. And truly there is no reason under the sun to get like this, but I do, I am, just as I have done in the past, and now here I am today, talking away to myself trying to quieten that inner voice that’s saying so much negative stuff.

But having been a nurse who specialised in psychiatric nursing (years ago, of course!) I also note to myself that my feelings of anxiety are very, very minor. This is a first-world person worrying about an outing, ffs! So, to conclude these, oh, so glam pics that we all present (well, we aim but don’t always succeed!) do not always depict what lies beneath. And, actually, that’s why I love older bloggers like, for example, Catherine of Atypical60 who is so very much her own person saying how it is. Anyway, to encourage myself away from the anxiety I’m feeling I’m putting up the pictures of the fab outfit that I wore under the thrifted black coat.

And what was under the coat?

This!

Ok, it’s got a very slight tear in the hem which I’m going to stitch right now.

But what an amazing skirt!  The material is so stiff it could stand on the floor by itself.

You can see the tear more clearly here.  But who cares as this is a Moschino skirt bought for just £10 in the Martlets charity shop in Western Road, Brighton.

I’m so not good with shoes. I might wear these little shoes, or the plainer ones? Or what about my new little boots? Don’t ask me to wear heels – not with my ankles and high insteps, I’d just fall over! I’ll make up my mind tomorrow.

Can I also say, and returning to Catherine of Atypical60, I’m being my own stylist here. Yes, I decided that the brown outfit, which featured a couple of weeks back, was just too safe and boring. Also someone said, they thought I was dressing more conservatively since I moved to Brighton. OMG, what! I hope not! Here is my attempt to be the absolute opposite of conservative and tame!  And I feel better already looking at the bright red of the skirt – it’s so in-your-face!

I’m off now to put a stitch in the skirt. And I’ll attempt to take lots of photos in London.

With love

Penny, the Frugalfashionshopper

P.S. If you’ve got any thoughts about the shoes before midday Friday……

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47 thoughts on “What lies beneath!

  • 8th February 2018 at 5:03 pm
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    So glad someone falls over! You raise my spirits.
    Those little ballet slippers look super.
    Ro

    • the frugal fashion shopper
      9th February 2018 at 8:10 am
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      Thanks Rosemary, I’ll be taking my boots and those slippers with me today!

  • 8th February 2018 at 5:47 pm
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    Love that skirt…but then I love red. I would also love to see you in some red ballet slippers with that outfit or maybe flat “Alice inWonderland” pumps. Or even fishnet tights, just not boring black opaques. Did you say what you were going to London for in an earlier post – have a good day and wrap up warm!

    • the frugal fashion shopper
      9th February 2018 at 8:16 am
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      Hi Alison, I’ll be telling you where I’m going very soon – next post. The thing is accessorising is always a bit hit and miss with me, but I think the overall look of this outfit, and the skirt, is good. And where I’m going will be crowded so the shoes won’t be all that on display. Yes, might end up getting some red Doc Martens for future outings!

    • the frugal fashion shopper
      9th February 2018 at 8:17 am
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      Thanks so much Catherine!

  • 8th February 2018 at 7:43 pm
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    Hi Penny,
    I once read an article that said a huge percentage (of course I can’t remember how many now) of hospital admissions for women over 60 were related to anxiety! I absolutely understand how you feel about your trip and feel that we have to fight this. I have always been “a worrier” but found in 2016 that no matter how much you worry the worst will happen and probably won’t be related to what you were worrying about – does that make sense? I always worry before travelling but am trying to fight it. We’re planning a trip to the USA after I declared that I would never travel again after a terrible experience when my husband had a heart attack whilst driving home from a Scottish holiday in 2016. A triple cardiac bypass later we are moving on!
    I love that skirt! I think it looks good with the pretty shoes. It made me think of a recent programme on BBC4 which I’ve been enjoying. The last one recreated a dress belonging to Marie Antoinette, this was in white muslin, not scarlet, but probably a similar construction.
    Enjoy your trip and try not to worry, if anyone had told me we would get through our terrible experience I wouldn’t have believed it, but we did, and we’re still here.
    We expect lots of photos!
    Chrissie xx

    • the frugal fashion shopper
      9th February 2018 at 8:22 am
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      OMGoodness, what a thing to go through! Yes, that’s such a big experience, and if you get through that, then you can do anything. You go enjoy your trip and, actually, I know I’ll enjoy today – thanks so much x

  • 8th February 2018 at 7:59 pm
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    Oh I know that one only too well. People say don’t you look well, great etc. I just laugh and quote the Beatles song with her putting on the face she keeps in a jar by the door!

    • the frugal fashion shopper
      9th February 2018 at 8:23 am
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      Yup, that’s exactly it!

  • 8th February 2018 at 8:02 pm
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    I can get anxious too and stressed so I understand and yes, I picked it up from my Mom. I vote for the ballet slippers. They just add an extra element to what your doing.

    • the frugal fashion shopper
      9th February 2018 at 11:57 am
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      Thank you Terri. I’m wearing the biker boots up and taking the ballet slippers (you mean the ones with the silver baubles on) and actually, will make my mind up when I change in the evening. Might depend on the weather etc etc. And yes, our mothers…….

  • 8th February 2018 at 8:04 pm
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    Love the skirt, Penny. But even more, love your bravery in acknowledging your anxieties and then refusing to be cowed by them. Full steam ahead. Much love, Sue xxx

    • the frugal fashion shopper
      9th February 2018 at 12:03 pm
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      The skirt is amazing and is going to be be carried up to town with due reverence. But I’m sorry to say that tomorrow it will be stuffed into my overnight bag as we want to visit a couple of exhibitions – Wim Wenders photos for a start – and I can’t be going on buses with it in a plastic cover!!! But the stiffness will allow it to plump up again I’m sure. Thanks Sue – we battle on with our issues, which really are minor in the scheme of things!

  • 8th February 2018 at 9:34 pm
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    I used to get very anxious, and like Terri I inherited it from my mother. But now I relax and ask myself “What is the worst thing that can happen, and what would I do about it?” It works. Go for the ballet pumps, and I would choose natural tights. Enjoy London.

    • the frugal fashion shopper
      9th February 2018 at 12:17 pm
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      Yes, you’re right about the anxiety – it’s thing that can be eliminated by positive thoughts. Feeling better today. And who knows what I might wear on my feet tonight!

  • 8th February 2018 at 9:36 pm
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    What a great outfit you look marvelous go and knock em dead!

    • the frugal fashion shopper
      9th February 2018 at 12:18 pm
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      Will certainly try to do just that!

  • 8th February 2018 at 9:49 pm
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    OMG Penny, that skirt is AH-MAYH-ZING and suits you to a Tee. What a bargain you found. Serendipity in action. I love the little ballet pumps, but personally I would choose the other black pair you wear because I love women with a strong, confident look of fashion, which you have in spades and, to me, the ballet pumps look slightly ingenue. And please ignore whoever said that black opaque tights are boring. It is my favourite look of all time and always adds drama to an outfit. I also think you should wear short skirts more often as you are blessed with beautiful long legs with elegantly slim ankles. I so wish I had slim legs but I rejoice in the fact that, at 74, I have beautiful smooth skin. We all have something good about us, thankfully.
    I completely empathise with your feelings of anxiety and at times suffer the same feelings, which always puzzles me as I am basically a very confident person and very contented in my life. I think it is very heartening & encouraging to learn that lots of women feel the same way we do. Have a ball in London and let us have lots of photos and lots of hats.
    Regards,
    Fran Whyte xxxxxx

    • the frugal fashion shopper
      9th February 2018 at 12:21 pm
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      Yes, what a find that was! I think they knew it was a winner as it was featured in the shop window. I stopped, I stared. I thought, ‘could I?’ And yes, I can!!!! Will take photos, but still in two minds (ha) about the shoe thing. And we all have our good points – it’s very good to hear about yours, I bet you stayed out of the sun!

  • 8th February 2018 at 9:50 pm
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    Dear Penny, I love everything about this outfit! The styling, colour and the jacket and shoes are wonderful! You look great! Tell that little nagging voice in your head to shove off and go and enjoy your trip to London! Cheers, Doreen

    • the frugal fashion shopper
      9th February 2018 at 12:27 pm
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      Thank you Doreen – it’s been so good to hear everyone’s views on this – yes, I will enjoy London – thanks again!

  • 8th February 2018 at 9:59 pm
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    Love the red skirt, for me its not about the shoes but the tights. Something less heavy, perhaps fishnet or a patterned rib. Love the ballet pumps but would have to go for the stability of the first pair if I was in London for a whole day. Might wear some shoe clips on them though. Have a fab day,

    • the frugal fashion shopper
      9th February 2018 at 12:28 pm
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      Wearing my little boots on the trip up to London, and will make up my mind at the time I change! I will enjoy – thanks so much!

  • 8th February 2018 at 10:53 pm
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    You look great in this outfit!! Are you going to an art opening in London? Hope so as you look wonderfully trendy. Enjoy.

    • the frugal fashion shopper
      9th February 2018 at 12:29 pm
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      You’ll know soon – next post. Thanks so much Pierrette!

  • 8th February 2018 at 11:21 pm
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    Please wear the sparkly shoes with that fab dress!

    • the frugal fashion shopper
      9th February 2018 at 12:26 pm
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      I will, I think!!! Taking them with me but I will finally decide at the time!!!!

  • 9th February 2018 at 12:07 am
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    YO Gurl!!! You ARE your own fashion stylist and you are rocking your style supremely!! That red skirt is everything!
    And—Penny, we all have anxiety. Anxiety is my middle name. But it’s ok. One doctor I went to many, many years ago gave me great advice. She said to just ride it out–it’s okay!
    Have a great, great time in London. Say hi to Harry and Ms. Markle for me!!! XOXOXOXO!!!!

    • the frugal fashion shopper
      9th February 2018 at 12:25 pm
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      But you’re just such an inspiration Catherine, you help me a lot! I love it when you take on those young style journalists. We think alike – although you’re a way better cook than me!!!!

      It’s been good to hear so many of us suffer from anxiety – that little voice! Nuts to it! And feeling better today xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

  • 9th February 2018 at 6:39 am
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    I would like to say thank you for making me feel so much better about my anxiety I held down a stressful job until I retired but now in my late sixities get anxious about most things that take me out of my comfort zone it’s so comforting to know I’m not alone and it’s much more prevalent than I realised. Agree about mothers I look more like mine every day and also understand her better shame she’s not around to know that .
    I love the way you dress and am a big fan of chiffony skirts at the moment. Sorry to end on a negative but your footwear is often a bit heavy. I like the ballet pumps with the skirt but ankle boots go so well with that type of skirt they just need to be daintier.
    Enjoy your London trip keep calm and think of all your followers admiring you as we do

  • 9th February 2018 at 6:40 am
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    I would like to say thank you for making me feel so much better about my anxiety I held down a stressful job until I retired but now in my late sixities get anxious about most things that take me out of my comfort zone it’s so comforting to know I’m not alone and it’s much more prevalent than I realised. Agree about mothers I look more like mine every day and also understand her better shame she’s not around to know that .
    I love the way you dress and am a big fan of chiffony skirts at the moment. Sorry to end on a negative but your footwear is often a bit heavy. I like the ballet pumps with the skirt but ankle boots go so well with that type of skirt they just need to be daintier.
    Enjoy your London trip keep calm and think of all your followers admiring you as we do

    • the frugal fashion shopper
      9th February 2018 at 12:31 pm
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      Thanks so much Joyce – yes, it’s been good to hear that we are not alone in this. But negative thoughts can be changed – feel better today!

      As for my shoes – well, who knows what I’ll wear! Thanks again x

  • 9th February 2018 at 8:16 am
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    Oh I want to go to London too, but I think it is to much of a trouble with a wheelchair…..
    Inwouldnwear boots under that skirt. Velvet black long boots with a flat heel of course! Have a great time in London!

    • the frugal fashion shopper
      9th February 2018 at 12:23 pm
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      Actually, I tried a pair of boots and they seemed to thicken the leg – still thinking about what I might wear. But it’ll be quite crowded so I don’t think my feet will be noticed all that much!

  • 9th February 2018 at 12:39 pm
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    Fabulous skirt, Penny! I love the red /black combo. I can imagine that skirt being worn in so many different ways. Perhaps with a leather biker jacket or black biker boots. As I’ve said before, I’m a fan of the rock-chick look! Although I appreciate it’s not for everybody. When I was younger, I had a complex about my skinny (!) legs & big feet, so I always embraced black opaque tights & can’t bear nude tights – for me anyway! As women we have to deal with guilt & anxiety. Is it to do with having children, I wonder? Rock on….haha!

  • the frugal fashion shopper
    9th February 2018 at 12:49 pm
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    Well, I’m all ready and geared up including wearing the little biker boots for the trip up to London. Now, when I change, who knows what I might wear! But I still hanker after that Alexander McQueen look. So it might (to the horror of some) be the little boots!! Will make up my mind at the time!

  • 9th February 2018 at 6:45 pm
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    I like the combination of fabrics such as net, lace and velvet with biker style boots for day wear, and pumped for evenings.
    I am reassured by the fact that I am not the only one who gets anxious before travelling. I only realised quite recently that the feelings I often have (about all sorts, not just travel) are anxiety, and not depression.

    • the frugal fashion shopper
      11th February 2018 at 10:49 am
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      Two of my friends have just rung me and said they feel the same way – I think it’s good to know we are not alone in this. In the past I’ve gone to a very good hypnotherapist and she’s given me some good techniques – these are helpful. And on the actual day of travel and the event I was fine!!!

  • 9th February 2018 at 8:38 pm
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    I would never have guessed that skirt was stiff – it looks like it would be very soft to the touch. I love the peplum top you wore with it – a fabulous outfit!

    Hope you’re having/had a wonderful trip to London.
    xxxx

    • the frugal fashion shopper
      11th February 2018 at 10:47 am
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      Actually the next day I tried to fold the skirt into my overnight bag and the material is so stiff it wouldn’t fold more than just a little!! Truly a magnificent skirt and top found in the same charity shop – a lucky find!

  • 11th February 2018 at 9:05 am
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    I’m a little late with my comments and having seen you on Instagram , it looks like you had an enjoyable time . I love you in the red skirt , what a great find. I will be interested to hear which footwear you have chosen. I hope self talk settled your anxiety and you thoroughly enjoyed your time in London.

    • the frugal fashion shopper
      11th February 2018 at 10:44 am
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      Hello Jill
      Thanks so much for your good wishes – I did have a good time. Umm, I wore the biker boots!!! You know I just can’t do dainty shoes. I think this is partly because I have such thin legs and feet I look slightly unbalanced with neat and sweet shoes, and also feel a bit unbalanced, so a good strong boot gives me stability and are at the same time, they’re a bit edgy. Also these boots plus the skirt are not unlike an outfit I saw in Alexander McQueen’s shop window, obviously that outfit was stratospherically out of reach of my pocket, but this red skirt plus the boots was my attempt at a copy!!!

  • 19th February 2018 at 9:59 pm
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    You look stunning – and that anxiety thing, yep most people (women) I know of a certain age – and the funny thing is we can talk each other through it and support and nurture each other when we are in the midst of it but we are less kind to ourselves. I come from a long line of dedicated and obsessive worriers – the thing is, what they worry about is not the thing that then happens – all that effort going to waste 🙂 yes, I can laugh at it – as I wont let it take control. We can do this, we certainly can do it together

    • the frugal fashion shopper
      23rd February 2018 at 8:53 am
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      Hi, Juliet, it’s been so interesting hearing that so many feel the same way. I agree, we won’t let it take control. I have learnt so much from all of you, including you. Thanks so much x

  • 22nd February 2018 at 4:16 pm
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    I love your newly-discovered blog ! I will be a regular follower from now on. But I didn’t expect to find so many fellow sufferers of travel ( especially ) anxiety. I am 68 and this has become a real problem for me these last few years. I want to be able to visit my children, to be able to go abroad, but I really suffer whenever I do. I’m always fine once I start my journey, but the anticipation is the killer. Of course I go on to have a great time. So I “feel the fear and do it anyway ” It’s so worth it. But I wish there was a magic potion to take away the anxiety. !Also in my case inherited from Mother.

    • the frugal fashion shopper
      23rd February 2018 at 8:57 am
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      It’s been a real learning experience to have written this blog post and heard from so many who suffer the same way. Yes, I do get that anxiety but I went to a hypnotherapist and I got some good and very practical techniques from her, which help. But the negative thoughts come along and say’ why are you like this, it’s nothing to worry about’, etc etc. So it’s important I think not to be too hard on oneself as we go through this. Very best to you.

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