Hi everyone

Another busy week doing this and that meant I hadn’t had much time to do another blog.   But, not to worry I said to myself.  I know that the next post is going to be about Autumn/Fall clothes.  So far, so good, and let’s be honest, a bit dull!  And I was just about to write this fairly conventional stuff, when I read Alyson Walsh’s latest post on That’s Not My Age on not dressing our age.  Hell, yes!  That struck a chord!

Yes, things are getting better – increasingly older models are being used in fashion shoots.  There’s a positive flood of blogs and pics on Instagram (which incidentally I haven’t got onto yet – but will) on wearing what we damn well please, which is great.

But just one tiny moment.

There’s something I want to say.  Even this article committed to paper something that I take issue with.  And it’s that stopping at 60 thing.  Which is not something that just the fashion media does, it’s all those surveys and that thinking that there’s a big demographic group of 60+.  Excuse me?

Back to the fashion media.  All those articles that tell you what to wear (which a lot of the bloggers are challenging) are about what to wear for the 40s, the 50s, the 60s and hello, is there anything for the 70+ and the 80+ age group?  Occasionally.  But usually there’s nothing for the 70s and the 80s.  Because, of course, we’ll all be wearing our jogging bottoms and our ‘comfortable’ black trousers, won’t we?  Err, not this 70-year-old.

And tar rah. Here’s what I bought this week.  Now another blog post is going to be on how much I’ve chucked out this week (all gone to charity shops, I hasten to add)  and, maybe, why.  But, that’s another day. Yes, I’m working myself up to tell you that this week has been an expensive week.  So first off, I bought these simply amazing boots.

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black-boots-web-02I think I might just have upgraded those 5-yr-old booties of mine!

Note that they’re practically unworn, and so they were priced at £20, but I thought, why not, I don’t often do this.  And look at those zips!

OK, on that same day I looked in another charity shop and saw on the rail a Karen Millen dress.  It looked lovely, a steely satin grey, but as it was priced at £30 I said to myself (in a very firm inner voice) ‘no way, you can’t afford it’.

Reader, the next day I went back to that shop (and it was in another town, you know).   So sad, it wasn’t on the rail, oh blow.  After disconsolately wandering around and flicking through the rails I did find a George dress for £5, but even so I was a bit miz. I mean George is from Asda/Walmart and that’s fine, but it’s not quite on the same spectrum as Karen Millen.  Anyway at the cash desk I casually mentioned to the assistant that I’d obviously missed a bargain, she agreed with me.  But by chance someone from the back room was there who said, ‘oh, I bagged it up yesterday as it hadn’t sold after 2 months.  I’ll go look’, she said.  So I followed her and she rummaged through several black plastic bags of clothes – and found this!

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Which I obviously bought!

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See, I’ve teemed it up with the new (£20) boots and a new pair of black skinnies.

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The dress has some lovely detail at the back.

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I’m such a cheap-skate, but not this time!

karmen-miran-dress-web-06Is this age-appropriate?  Is this dressing for your age?  Actually, yes. Because you wear what you damn well please at 40, 50, 60, 70, 80 and 90 and apologies to anyone 90+ as I include you as well!

That’s all for now

With love

Penny, the frugalfashionshopper

 

 

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22 thoughts on “We wear what we want – which means you do NOT dress your age!

    • the frugal fashion shopper
      31st October 2016 at 6:51 am
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      Thanks – yes so glad I went back for it!

  • 28th October 2016 at 2:08 pm
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    You go girl!!!!!!

    • the frugal fashion shopper
      31st October 2016 at 6:52 am
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      Yay!

  • 28th October 2016 at 2:26 pm
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    Age does not define who we are…WE define who we are in all areas of our lives. (Love the dress.) 😉😉

    • the frugal fashion shopper
      31st October 2016 at 6:59 am
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      I completely agree. We define ourselves rather than our age defining us. But on the other hand I embrace my age and say THIS is me, THIS is 70. And I read a lot of blogs by 40-year-olds saying they feel as they’ve disappeared. I’d love to say to them – you wait until you reach 70! Which is why I take issue with anything that says 65+ and try and speak up about it whenever I see it. Thanks so much

  • 28th October 2016 at 2:31 pm
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    Oh I do so agree! I’m fed up with being missed out. I’m not dressing any differently now I have left my 60s and hope to continue until I wear a wooden box. Did you note the article in today’s Telegraph about who’s cool? It certainly isn’t the thirty or forty year olds! If ever I have a seconds doubt, I repeat the mantra ‘I’ll wear what I damn well please’!

    • the frugal fashion shopper
      31st October 2016 at 7:06 am
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      Yes, I do so dislike that lumping together of ages from 65+ which must mean including people in their 90s and a few just past their centenary! That, I think is just lazy thinking – thanks so much for your comment 🙂

  • 28th October 2016 at 2:48 pm
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    Boots and dress a bargain – and you look really gorgeous in them.
    Not my style though – and I think that’s important – that I may not end up looking as stunning as that (because probably I never sought to) but I continue to find things that I love and express who I feel I am. They were almost certainly not created for the 70+ year old! But I’m sure that’s what you also believe: horses for courses – or whatever the expression is.
    Meg

    • the frugal fashion shopper
      31st October 2016 at 7:26 am
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      I absolutely believe that people should wear what they want as they age, but that’s an easy catch phrase and what I really mean is that fashion journalists need to open their eyes and think more about the older woman who is still interested in making a statement through what they wear. Interest in fashion does not stop once you reach 50, 60, 70 or 80 and so on. So ‘wear what you want’ means ‘do not define your style through age, instead, wear what pleases you’. And certainly never wear ‘age-appropriate clothing!!!!!!

      But there’s another thing, I also believe you shouldn’t give up on fashion and style. There is a kind of a uniform that I see, not so much in Brighton or Lewes, but outside those wealthy cities, I see older women in ill-fitting wide trousers or track suit bottoms, which incidentally if you’re young could be a fashion statement (!). And this is usually topped with a fleece or an ill-fitting cagoule or padded jacket, usually black or another dull colour. Perhaps I shouldn’t, but I feel sad when I see this, because what I also want to put over is – it does not cost to look good and/or stylish – just go to your local charity shop and kit yourself out in a complete outfit for under £10, because I bet what they’re wearing cost more than that. Thanks so much for your comment x

  • 28th October 2016 at 5:43 pm
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    What a beautiful dress. You were so lucky they still had it because it would have gone either to another charity shop in a different area or horrors – ragged! Sent to the rag merchants who pay by weight; sorted, exported often to African countries and what is left over is ripped up into rags for use in paper production.

    The boots are fabulous! Well done you.

    Have a lovely weekend

    Veronica
    vronni60s.blogspot.com

    • the frugal fashion shopper
      31st October 2016 at 7:02 am
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      Yes, there’s a good exhibition in Brighton on African fashion that touches on that trade. Thanks so much for your comment – it is a lovely dress, so glad I went back for it!

  • 28th October 2016 at 9:32 pm
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    Lovely dress, not with those skinnies and boots, though.

    • the frugal fashion shopper
      29th October 2016 at 8:02 am
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      Hi Diana, yes it is a lovely dress and I’m sure I’ll wear it with tights at some point. But sadly I can’t wear heels anymore. I have thin legs and the ankles are a bit weak and I do exercises ++ to build my muscle but I don’t trust myself in heels. As a result I have several quite edgy flats and ankle boots that I wear instead. On the whole I don’t do pretty, dainty shoes, like ballerina flats but will try the dress with one pair that I have still and they might do. My style is about wearing what you please with a bit of pzzaz – but for others it will be tights and high heels. That’s great as we all should wear what we want!

      I suppose I also want to encourage older women to be stylish when age begins to get in the way of ‘fashion’. Hey, we can adapt and be stylish instead. Thanks for the comment and stimulating this reply 🙂

  • 28th October 2016 at 9:48 pm
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    What lucky finds. Great boots and a gorgeous dress.

    • the frugal fashion shopper
      31st October 2016 at 7:08 am
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      They were great finds! I have this maxim, ‘always look’, and the dress and boots are what I found because of that!

  • 29th October 2016 at 12:10 am
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    Hell yeah Girlfriend. That entire ensemble is age appropriate. I’m so sick of the shit that the “fashun experts” pontificate. They are judgmental and self-righteous. Fashion or rather choice of clothing is for everywoman. Honestly. That outfit is so incredibly beautiful and flattering on you. It rocks and so do you! I’m so effing sick of being told what we should wear. I threw the rules out ages ago!!!! XOXOXOXO!

    • the frugal fashion shopper
      31st October 2016 at 7:13 am
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      Oh yes! Actually to give Alyson due she was saying wear anything. But it was that ’40, 50, 60, whatever’ that got me as 70 and 80 is rarely mentioned or featured as we’re seen as not interested – so not true. Also good for Tricia Cusden mentioning that it’s always about slim clothes on thin models. The fashion media’s got a long way to go.

      Btw, Catherine, my fingers and toes are crossed over the next few days. Forget Halloween, your election is getting so scary!

  • 29th October 2016 at 6:10 am
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    Good to see you looking gotgeous as usual! Love the entire outfit. We’re in Norwich this weekend and looking forward to our usual rummage in another whole batch of charity shops!
    It occurs to me that while some of us oldies are this, what about people who are built big or have become fatter, whatever the reason… There’s a challenge for elegance perhaps? Or perhaps not. Personally I love the Gudrun Sjoden look, though I’m not sure about managing all those layers…
    Apropos cheapos – recently bought a Lands End checked short primaloft jacket on ebay. I have some pretty ones wh are v light and warm so easy to wear. When this one came (costing a tenner I think) it was a bit large and the varied blues in the cheks a bit loud. Ok wear it for riding I thought.

    Every time I have worn it someone has said how smart/attractive/different/great it is. And that wasn’t just the horses…

    • the frugal fashion shopper
      29th October 2016 at 7:43 am
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      Thanks so much for the comment, Wendy, and yes, I do agree that I am, like you, slim. And apart from my child-bearing years I’ve always been slim. Like you I love Gudrun Sjoden for the colour and vibrancy of her clothes. But am not sure that layers for people who are really big work. Every now and then I emphasise that less is best and definitely never ever wear clothes that are too big. Because both big clothes and layers add to size rather than detract. This is really anecdotal but I used to go to a committee where a very big woman (tall and really, really big in size) wore close fitting structured clothes – she always looked amazing and very stylish. OK she was young(ish) but I wish I’d taken a photo of her as she was such a role model for the bigger woman. She also walked and talked with pride and didn’t attempt to hide her figure. This was very like the women I met and mixed with when I worked abroad in Switzerland in the 1970s. There I observed that the young women who made up the nursing staff from France and Switzerland never hid their figures, it was the cut of the clothes that mattered to them not the size of their bottoms. This was an absolute revelation to me as it was so different to how teenagers and young women in my (British) peer group behaved – fascinating. Enjoy Norwich 🙂

  • 30th October 2016 at 2:00 pm
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    Looks like I have found another favorite blog! I love your attitude. LOVE it! I am a youthful 63 (who just got braces on her teeth!) and would wear those booties and that great dress. Glad to see there are more and more of us speaking out.

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